My husband is cheating on me. please help me.?

Question

hello.
My husband is cheating on me. but he is keeping lie to me.
But I dont trust him anymore.
and also I have a problem.
I came to canada because of my husband and we got married last november. Its been 1 year . but he never apply my immigration yet. whenever I asked him he said he is scared.
And now I'm keeping renew visitor visa.
I dont wanna live with him anymore but I dont even wanna leave canada.
Does canadian immigration law can accept me even if he does not sponcer me? after divorce?
Please help me.
I just found out now that he is liying to me and meet someone else.
Im sick because of bladder infection so I had to lie down all night . and last night he went out . he was in the washroom and he just came out and tell me his friend sent him text and they are around here so Ill just hang around about 30 min.
I was a little bit sad because I was being sick and he just wanna meet his friend but I understood . so he went out.
But he didnt come home .

so after 2 hours l called him 40 times during 20min. he never answer.
and he came home 2:30Am. he told me his friend and 3 guys hung around at the park and smoke weed and couple of beer but his hands and feet was not hot.
I had a feeling and I asked him show me the text what ur friend sent you. and he said he deleted and he deleted all phone call.
And He is keeping his cell his pocket. he used to put that on the table .
But I trusted him and I fell a sleep . In the mornig I woke up because someone sent him text and it was vibration.
He was still sleeping and I found his cell between bed and bedbox.
I checked it and the name was NATE. She sent him ' I know this is too early but I just got ur message . I had fun too last night. see u soon'
and I called that number without caller ID . I was praying please guy answer. But woman answered....
I woke my husband up and asked him I was freak out. and he said that's nate's sister..

But Im not angry about who was that. Im angry he lied to me.
and still he is liying. He is covering one lie and lie another one..
I cant trust him anything.
I cant live with him but I dont even wanna leave here.
I had so many dream to do here and how my parents is going to think me when I go back to korea.
We was going to apply sponcership in this month.
What can I do..? I dont know.
I can hire some lawyer to make this right if immigration accept that about during 1year marriage he never apply that and divorced because
he is cheating but I can still apply immigration by myself..
Please I feel really sad . I can even express anything.. Please someone help me.. what can i do?

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Im not using him. why i do that. I was really fine before meet him. my family is wealthy he has nothing . he is still swimming in the lots of dedts. I came here because I really loved him. And now I really dont wanna mess up myself and my future. that's all. Please dont think me im using him like some other people who get married and get immigration.

Answer 1

If you want to live in Canada, be smart and allow him to help you with the sponsorship. Smile all the while, knowing you will have the citizenship you crave and that you are not being fooled by his lies and deceit. I'd also start getting evidence you can use when you do decide to divorce or leave him; it will be for your own protection. Find out the laws and do what you have to do to gain your citizenship.

I feel so bad about what is happening in your marriage and wish that he would be honest about what he is doing and stop it immediately and give your marriage the committment it deserves. Just be smart; don't let your emotions take over what you need to do to survive all of this.

Answer 2

He sounds like a low life to me he gets married to you then plays around behind your back.Well unless you have money saved up he don't know about the lawyer is out.The lawyer may ask for a lot of money to do it and I don't think Mr low life will pay for it.Scared my *** I bet he is stalling then finds other women then send you back like the a-hole he is.He gets you over here then starts cheating on you with some airheaded bimbo.What the hell does he have to be scared of unless he has some thing to hide.Sounds to me like he is playing you for a fool.May be you can talk to immigration and tell them what is going on and see if something can be down.He needs the s**t kicked out of him puting you through this.The thing is you are between a rock and a hard place If you make waves he can have you deported.All I can tell you is go to immigration and find out what you can do.Good luck little lady and hope things work out for you.If you would like to talk my e-mail is :[e-mail] or just im me if you want.

Answer 3

So why could or no longer it is significant to instruct infidelity only to get divorced? If he provides monetary protection now, then a choose could anticipate him to furnish that once divorce. My feeling is he does not have a job and neither do you. He leaves for weeks and does not even call domicile to examine on the youngsters? great Dad you chosen on your babies. call it quits and concentration on your self and your babies. record for divorce so which you will get an order for baby help for the youngsters and you will start up getting your existence returned on the right song. Who cares if he's a cheater. he's clearly no longer a robust husband or a robust father. do no longer waste any extra time.

Answer 4

With out your husband knowledge get yourself a good immigration lawyer and find out what your options are for staying in Canada . But in the mean time look out for yourself and do what's best for you. Even though this might be a difficult time for you try and put your time and energy into setting up how and where you are going to live, when he is out of your life. Start setting up your own account, or savings etc in the mean time...And good luck

Answer 5

Well I guess if I was you I'd be trying to find me some one Else that is for sure, I wouldn't worry about staying in Canada, to many men looking for women for you to be putting up with that looser, find someone else and move in with them even if your married to this guy, if he has a girl friend he isn't going to care one way or the other until she dumps him then he will come crying back to you for your forgiveness, if you did go back after a while just always screw around on him while he is at work, he would deserve it,

Answer 6

i would leave him...but not until after you get your citizenship. appologize and smile all the while. be the ideal wife so that when you go to get a divorce, you won't be at fault. start to detatch yourself from him emotionally. accept that he is cheating and will never stop. find yourself female friends to hang out with when he pulls his all night crap. this way you don't sit there worring or crying. from here on out don't say anything at all. if you accept it he may not enjoy cheating as much.
i would also contact your case worker so that you can find out what to do. my hubby is trying to get a US citizenship so that is all i know.
good luck sweetie and i hope things work out for you.

Answer 7

Very sorry sweety.
I'm not sure what the rules are regarding Canadian Immigration- so perhaps you'd be best to speak to one of their case-workers and explain your situation.
He sounds like a bit of a loser anyway- go find yourself a nice big thick pink Canadian sausage who'll love and you can ride like a wild cow-girl.

I advise contacting Immigration and informing them of your situation. I expect they'll be very sympathetic to you.

Answer 8

You'r paying too high for your dream.Play his game and wait till you get permanent stay....talk to him about your marriage....You have to be numb,no feeling for he will take 100 years to change his habit...Knowing you'r helpless.Or pack up and create your life back home.Others may talks,but your shoulder carrying the burden.

Answer 9

Maybe you're just making it up, to not have to leave - you're using him, setting up your "case". You can apply for a work visa, and stay, because you should have had a visa already or you're going back in 90 days.

Answer 10

try an hang in there if you made it this far to get the papers you need,try an ask him if you can come along one night or invite the friend/s over sounds like hes cheating good luck