Why is it that a woman which tries to please her husband instead of screaming at him like a banshee is beeing?

Question

referred to as submissive ?

"Please her husband to the point of beeing submissive", so a woman who tries to please her husband is submissive, yes ?

Answer 1

I really don't know, gave me a great laugh though, Gender is so much more fun than EnvironMental today.

Friendships and relationships are meant to be reciprocal, I see no evidence of this in many of the answers or questions I have read today. People seem to enjoy crisis and drama, me I like the steady life, not an emotional roller coaster. Not only is the woman being described as submissive and boring, what about the poor bloke? What does this make him? Domineering and unreasonable? No wonder there is so much divorce and so many broken relationships if we have to learn to scream like a banshee before being considered to be a suitable wife or partner. eeeeHowwwwwllllllll ............. eeeehhoooowwwwwlllll ...... Hey am I suitable now?

Answer 2

This seems to presume that a woman must either "please her husband" to the point of being submissive or be screaming like a banshee. I don't agree with that -- but if a woman always serves her husband, in whatever way, and he doesn't return the favor, and she doesn't stand up for herself, then that seems submissive. Ideally, they both serve and assist the other, and their arguments don't involve screaming. That's not submissive.

Answer 3

This questions is a little hard to answer..
Is it that the husband treats her badly and she still does anything she can to please him? That would qualify as submissive to me.
Is she a christan woman and he a christan man? If so it pretty much says in the bible that the woman should obey her husband and treat him like a king and he must provide for her and family.
I dont happen to agree with either of these things and if im screaming at my man like a banshee, there's a darn good reason!

Answer 4

Should be woman who, not which, the word which refers to an object, not a person. Oh, wait, could it be that you view women as objects that should only exist to please a man?

I don't know what the word beeing means unless it is the nature of existing as a tiny insect. Maybe you meant being?

Why do you assume that a woman would either be pleasing or screaming? How about a woman who exist in a relationship in a state of equality with her partner? So that they both either please each other or challenge each other to be the best person that they can be? Do you have anything against that concept?

Answer 5

I don't really get that. Most women really are just talking about treating him with respect and kindness - not controlling him, or manipulating him into doing things your own way. Isn't acceptance an important part of love? Wouldn't any woman be happy to have a *husband* who wants to please her, as well?

I think that the current advice of "think only about yourself" or "it's sick to want to please a man" has led to some pretty self-centered relationships. Listen to your Grandmothers who have been married for 50 years. What makes a marriage is in things *unsaid*. Think of the other first, and happiness comes easily.

Sure, you won't get hurt if you never take risks and really put yourself out there - but that's not really love, anyway. That's friendship with "benefits". Ladies, stop controlling him and start accepting him.

Answer 6

Because it is easier to please a husband by being submissive than by screaming at him like a banshee or by doing many other stuff.

I am one of such persons who might be an exception, I cannot be pleased by being submissive alone. I like smart women and on top of that if they are submissive, its a bonus.

Answer 7

why do your questions seem so selfish? is it just about pleasing the husband? i think that's called supremacy, not marriage.

marriage is about two people who respect each other and communicate openly. both try to please each other b/c it is a two-way street, a partnership.

i have heard men nag and complain, i have seen men try to control their wives, i have seen men be submissive. male or female, these behaviors don't work.

when people stop talking about 'submission' 'obeying' etc., and start talking about 'respect' 'trust' 'communication, we will see more happy, health relationships.

Answer 8

do no longer you scream once you're gazing soccer?i won't be able to understand why you're doing it the two.yet i'm gonna believe you that it is a nightmare residing with particular women.i could choose to stay on my own or with a chum.

Answer 9

Jo and I are on the same wave length here. The only time I ever screamed at my husband was when I was in labor.

Answer 10

Society seems to think that a wife is suppossed to be a B*tch. and if she isnt then there must be something wrong with her. Obviously her husand has to be betting her or something. I dont know. I think it is screwed up. No one likes to be screamed at.