help me is it normal?

Question

Hi Evryone! i need your help :)
Im 14 years old girl and i got a Boyfriend.
me and my Bf have been talkin about sex for
3 weeks now and he keeps asking me that he wants to
do sex! my Bf is 14 too! and im just asking if i should say yes? or should i say no? If i said yes, is it normal to have sex at age of 14? and oh yeah! im a christian. and me too sometimes i want to have sex but, i keep tellin my self that i wont. but, my Bf keeps talkin about it like crazy that it wants me to do it too! but, im scared after what will happen after sex! so, what should i say? should i wait till i get married or get more older?

Answer 1

here's an idea: DON'T DO IT YET!

Answer 2

It sounds like you are still really confused about the whole thing, you are definately not ready. Just because your boyfriend wants to, doesn't mean you have to. Tell him you're waiting till you get married if you want to get him off your back about it. I think 14 is too young... people do do it that young, and even younger, but you are so much better off waiting another year or two. Once you lose your virginity, you're never going to get it back... when its gone, its gone! The fact that you had to ask the question tells me even moreso that you are just not ready yet. There is nothing wrong with not being ready yet. Everyone is different.

Talk to your friends about this, I'm sure they will be able to help you out. If you do decide to give in to your boyfriends' pressurring (not a good thing AT ALL!!! you should do it when you are 100% ready and not a day before) please use a condom (even if you have to buy them yourself) pregnancy is REAL! and having unprotected sex you can get pregnant any time you have sex, even at 14!

Good luck, and wait. Oh, and if he threatens to break up with you if you don't... let him walk! (he'll probably come back to you the next week anyway).

Answer 3

If you are christian....then you already know the answer. I never followed that and made a lot of mistakes along the way. Yes at 14 it is normal to start thinking about it and wondering, but that doesn't mean it should be done. No one can tell you what to do with your body, but just know that there are consequences to having sex, physically emotionally and mentally. And that is even when your an adult. Sex isn't a game or a way to keep your b/f honey. I hope this has helped.

Answer 4

You definately should wait. A guy is like that when they are his age. Their hormones are racing and they want to know what having sex is like. But the guy at that age is never interested in getting married or stayong around for 40-50 years. What if you get pregnant? What do you think your mom will say and do? Have you given that consideration? No, your bf won't marry you and stay to raise the baby for 18 or so years. You really need to wait.

Answer 5

Do not have sex now !!!! Yes you are too young no matter how much pressure your boyfriend puts on you. Your feelings are normal but I can tell by what you have written that you are not ready for this or you wouldn't be asking. It doesn't matter that you are Christian. Everybody has the same feelings....however, if your boyfriend truly cares for you he will stop asking you to have sex when you tell him you aren't ready. If he doesn't, then that should tell you what he is really trying to get from you. At 14 - he is also too young to be having sex.

With sex comes responsibility. What if you get pregnant? What if you get a sexually transmitted disease (STD)? Both are lifetime consequences. Think about that.....a lifetime !!

Answer 6

honestly i think you should wait at least a year and see if you guys are still going out if you are after a year and still want to then maybe it will be right but right now you are only 14 and yes sometimes it IS tempting but ask yourself some questions like what will happen if i become pregnant or something like do i think that he will still stay with me after we have sex or if i get pregnant. hopefully that helped a little bit but also i would talk to someone (like a grownup) and see what they say.if they say it should be okay then maybe go for it but then again do what you feel is the right thing to do if it is having sex with him then go for it but then you will be stuck with the consequenses for the rest of your life

Answer 7

I'd tell you to wait. Love is hard, it takes practice. You'll be figuring out how that works for YEARS.

By comparison, sex is easy, 5 or 6 physical moves, repeat until you're done. It's easier than dancing. So why not save it for once the hard part is over?

At least just stick to bases 1-3 for now, k?

Answer 8

I recommend to wait at least until you are 16 yrs old. I know it is normal to have those type of feeling at your age. i had then too. even thoug we are prepare for it physically, i dont think at the age of 14 is good. so you can also tell your BF to wait. In life there`s a time for everything that include having sex. You are just should be take it easy. Having sex is a responsibility act. that involves 2 people that know it consequences like getting pregnant or some STD. meanwhile get yourself prepare for time. So just relax .............Good luck!!

Answer 9

Dont take the risk wait until ur much older and wiser. Im 22 now, but I had my son when I was 13 and @ that age sweetie i should have been worrying about how i was gonna style my hair for school the next morning. Dont let him talk u into anything that u and him are just not ready for. Sex is for mature ADULTS. Be smart and wait!!!!

Answer 10

You know you are ready for sex when:
1. We all know that birth control methods are not 100% (and I'm guessing you are not on the pill), if you are totally ready to take responsibility of being a mom and able to financially and emotionally handle raising another human being.
2. If you are ready to take the responsibility of getting a sexually transmitted disease.
3. If you are totally in love with this person and plan to spend a long long long time with him (at 14, it's doubtfull - chances are very slim).
4. If you are old enough that your parents would be able to accept you are at the age of being sexually active. Could they handle it if they knew?
There's a lot of responsibility to becoming sexually active. AND you may think it's not a big deal but once you've done it, you CAN'T TAKE IT BACK -- IT'S DONE.

Answer 11

Well I'm around your age too. All of my good friends are guys and they all are doing it with their girlfriends. I still think that we are too young and what their doing isnt right. But, if you have a sure feeling and you KNOW this guy is the one (which hardly seems correct at 14) then you may want to look into protection before doing it. You just have to be sure about a lot of things, and you may think I'm crazy but you may want to ask one of your parents.