I feel lonely, knowing that i gave two lives up, that could have been young 4 yrs old and 2 yrs old. The father of both of them would have been happy if i had of kept them like he wanted me too.I wished that i could change what i did in the past. I miss them and their father.
2007-11-09 23:51:58 · 10 answers · asked by Tigers_Forever29 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
For the first pregnancy I was 10 weeks along, for the second I was 5 weeks along.
2007-11-10 18:18:02 · update #1
Honey you need to move on
I've lost babies but it wasn't through choice, one died during delivery,
You did what you did but now it's time for you to find happiness,
Stop being unkind to yourself
PS Ignore froget below she's not right,You are just feeling guilty,
You don't say how far pregnant you were,
You know you could have miscarried them anyway,
STOP listening to idiots, throw on some make up and go meet a fit fella who will treat you like a queen
2007-11-09 23:59:33 · answer #1 · answered by Elle J Morgan 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Talking to someone, even a family member who will just listen to you and be there for you. I know the lonely feeling your talking about. I lost a child due to miscarriage, it came at a time that I wanted a girl, but the timing was all wrong. It so happened that I couldn't carry the baby because there were some serious defects. If you really want to talk to the father about it, maybe that would ease you. Just tell him how you honestly feel. He may be a comfort to you, because he went through those feelings I'm sure when you decided to do what you did. Which is YOUR right, don't ever let someone think that your decision was wrong. It was your life, and at the time you might not have been ready. But keep yourself going by talking to someone, it can help a lot. Changing the past is hard, but it could help if you are ready this time. Maybe he willing to try again if you are willing to. Good Luck!
2007-11-10 00:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Mum of 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey....I saw your question while looking up something else. I know that the pain you feel is real and much deeper than something that you can just shrug off and get over. It can't just be ignored like some say. It keeps tearing at you, or you would have been over it by now. But you are NOT alone. Please consider going to this website. It's got chat rooms, message boards and information for and from many women who have experienced and are still going through what you're feeling.
http://safehavenministries.com/Default.aspx
2007-11-10 00:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by your nickname 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have not been through what you are going through, but I have friend who have. I can tell you that it's not healthy to continue to feel this way after so long - as you said, you cannot change the past. I strongly suggest that you seek counseling. Either one on one with a therapist or with a group of women who have struggled just as you are. Fill your lonliness with meaning. Maybe you can mentor young women who are about to make the same decision that you once did and let them know what the real consequenses are. Find a positive from your choice and grow from it. Good luck.
2007-11-10 00:02:19 · answer #4 · answered by tieia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, there isn't much that you can do about the past. But you can do a lot about things now. I am sure your choices were difficult and living with the consequences isn't easy. Just be sure that you are ready for your next baby so that you can provide the love your baby will need.
2007-11-10 00:00:57 · answer #5 · answered by Pedsgurl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
frogettx...you need to keep your wicked opinions to yourself. She will stand in front of her maker just as you will and probably be judged less harshly for making her decision than you will for thinking you have even a sliver of a right to judge someone else. You don't know her circumstances or mind set and you are not considering the familial pressure she may have endured. Button it up frog girl.
2007-11-10 00:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by 0 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I.m sorry you regret past actions . This shows the importance of counselling for people before they make big decisions like trminating a pregnancy.
You are not alone in having regrets. I am giving you a link for a number where you can talk to someone about your feelings.
Hope this helps. Good Luck.
http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/optionsabortion/a/exabortion_5.htm?terms=medical+abortion
2007-11-10 00:02:56 · answer #7 · answered by bri 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you aren't alone, many women feel guilty, and remorseful after having abortions, and its just something they have to live with in the end. the majority feel that its just an easy thing to do, but it does have effects on thier emotional and mental state afterwards.
if more people actually spoke out about how thier abortions left them feeling, i figure there would be less of them.
2007-11-10 00:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry for the insensitive replies you have gotten in this subject remember. lots of persons do sense that they had no longer had their abortions as a results of being compelled or coerced into having them. i pass to pass away you a link to a help website interior the source. i desire you pass to it and discover peace consisting of your judgements quickly.
2016-10-16 00:12:03 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I cant say I feel for you I have 4 kids and would never have an abortion, theirs other ways, I have to say you deserve to feel bad everyday for the rest of your life, I hate being blunt but you did take the lifes of 2 babies so hell you need to feel bad!
2007-11-10 00:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ivana M. 4 · 1⤊ 6⤋