My daughter in law has informed me that she is Having Thanksgiving dinner and that she is just inviting HER side of the family, we are not invited apparently. She wants me to have our family dinner on Saturday so they can come to my house. My one son is in College and working and can only be home on Thanksgiving day so..If I agree to this I will have to make 2 Thanksgiving dinners ...I feel really put out by this but origianlly agreed to it. Now I am having second thoughts and think I will just have my Thanksgiving on Thanksgiving day and celabrate with my College age son and oldest son and family. I guess I would like to know what you all think...I don't want to be considered rude , but then again its HER rudeness that has caused this problem. Am I right?
2007-11-09 23:33:19 · 11 answers · asked by ridder 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
One Thanksgiving meal is enough to cook for anybody. That is one rude& inconsiderate daughter in law.Tell her you have changed your mind, and if they would like to come over later for dessert that would be fine.And, don't feel guilty!!
2007-11-09 23:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by Harley Lady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So why is your daughter-in-law running your life? Have your Thanksgiving when you want, be nice to her for your son's sake, and like some of the others said, invite them for early for coffee and perhaps a coffee cake and if they don't want to do that, fine. Go on with your plans for your Thanksgiving - yes you shouldn't have agreed to let her run your Thanksgiving, but changing your mind is certainly your option. And like someone else said, don't feel guilty if anyone has any guilt, it rests on your daughter-in-laws shoulders. What does your son think about all this? He probably feels caught between a rock and a hard place - reassure him that this is fine, and that it will work out OK.
2007-11-10 01:41:05 · answer #2 · answered by Old Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds pretty selfish, Tell her that you are having Thanksgiving Day at your house and she welcome to stop by. Tell her to pop her Turkey in the oven and stop by for coffee and donuts....Better yet, tell her to stop and pick up donuts!!.Or tell her to come by for an after dinner drink WITH her guests, that should really make her feel like garbage. This way, you are still trying to spend time with she and your son on the holiday, and your coming out the better person!! If she so chooses to have Thanksgiving at her house, then why should you be expected to cook on Saturday. Come on....
2007-11-09 23:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Rhonda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make Thanksgiving dinner for your family on Thursday. They come first. Order Chinese on Saturday. Do NOT cook. She'll get the message.
Besides, no one wants turkey twice in one week.
If you live for your daughter-in-law, she will control you forever. Draw a line in the sand, NOW.
2007-11-10 13:43:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yiou shouldn't have told your daughter-in-law yes, but now that the damage is done, just tell her you changed your mind and will celebrate Thanksgiving dinner with your family on Thanksgiving day.
2007-11-09 23:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should celebrate on Thanksgiving, why should the other kids not have thanksgiving? Holidays are not changeable. Most families alternate in-laws, this year hers, next year his.
2007-11-10 02:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by chante 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's too bad that "she" will not be able to make it to "your" Thanksgiving Dinner. This is the handwriting on the wall, do your own thing. Enjoy!
2007-11-10 02:00:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say no. Let her know she is welcome at your home on Thanksgiving day. But don't try to take on 2 dinners. Maybe you could vist her at a second TG dinner that SHE cooks!
She was rude to suggest it.
2007-11-10 13:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by AlwaysOverPack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead. Do what you'd like. For my son I would definitly make one for him on Thanksgiving Day. And be thankful for him and that you can have a dinner with your family. Isn't that what Thanksgiving is all about? Thanks?
2007-11-09 23:48:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be gentle but honest. Tell her that you cannot make two dinners to suit her schedule and that you hope that next year they can come to dinner at your home if it's convenient for them.
2007-11-10 00:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋