If yes , why??
2007-11-09 21:57:36 · 18 answers · asked by . 1 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Rofl oh you are wonderful, I have not laughed soooo much in ages, thank you for that. I even read your question six times just to make sure I was not misreading it.
So I will quote it here again just for the joy of it
'Would a girl who uses sex to attract guys reject some[one] who likes her for who she is and not just for her body. If yes , why?'
First part of sentence: Is there a female on Earth who does not use her sexuality to attract men? Is there a man on Earth who does not use his sexuality to attract females? No of course not, it is a vital part of attraction, it is hard wired into our genetics.
Now if you are suggesting that women (and men) are promiscuous, then that is a value judgment dependent on your own societal norms and culture. Hers may be simply very different to yours.
Second part of first sentence: The not-so-hidden but underpinning message here is that there is a difference in sex drive, the man's being lower than the women's or a difference is levels of attraction. Another value judgment suggesting that no 'sane' woman wants to be just appreciated for her body alone. Would you make this statement of a man who just wanted to scratch an itch and then move on to the next person? No of course not.
If you are meeting people who do not have the same ideals or priorities as yourself and you are wanting a fuller, emotionally fulfilling relationship then find a new place to meet women.
Why are they rejecting the person? Maybe they do not like the man's personality, maybe he has a lower sex drive, is less adventurous in bed, maybe he does not pick his towel back up off the bathroom floor? Who knows? The reasons will be as numerous as the men that do exactly what you are accusing women of.
Thanks loved your question, still giggling now.
2007-11-09 23:34:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 4⤋
I have a friend like that. She's gorgeous and she knows it, and she keeps going out with these guys that treat her like dirt. Every time a nice guy comes along, she gets freaked out because they say they love her, and dumps them. She even admits she's afraid of allowing herself to need someone.
But every woman is different. I've heard of other women who find a genuinely good guy, fall in love with him, and can't believe what they put up with until that point. In fact, I have a friend like that, too. And for myself, in school I always used looks to attract guys and then wondered why I only ever met jerks. But as soon as I met someone who was interested in my mind, I fell head over heels!
My advice if you're dating someone like that is, keep it playful. Don't treat her badly or pretend to be like the other guys, but don't act like it's really serious or she could be scared off. The idea is to get her hooked without her realising it;p
2007-11-09 22:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Marie Antoinette 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that a girl who uses sex to attract boys, would be extremely pleased that a boy actually likes her for who she is. Girls like that are just insecure about their personality and think that their body is the only thing that will get them boys, by liking her for who she is, you are not only raising her confidence but will make a big difference from the normal boys who like her and she will definitely go for you, because you are genuine. Good luck with her!
2007-11-09 22:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Becka 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Definitely. If she uses sex as a tool to gain attention, access, power or just sexual satisfaction, she's not always interested in a guy falling in love with her or getting emotional about her. It's about control or physical satisfaction to her, not a guy demanding to share her emotions. When a guy falls in love and wants more than sex, it gets too demanding for her and she has to eventually let him go.
Others use sex because they don't see themselves worthy enough of much more, so even if you offer to give her more, she has to sabotage it and let you go.
2007-11-10 03:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Lioness 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, absolutely. They've convinced themselves that they're not able to get a good guy (even if they say that's what they want), so they'll reject them as soon as they start falling in love.
2007-11-09 22:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Why did you even bother to ask such a question? You already know the answer.
The answer is yes. Because it's too close for them. It's too real, their games don't work in that situation...
Find a new girl...
2007-11-09 22:01:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
The vast, vast majority of women will reject a man who shows interest primarily in her intellect. Unless a woman can control a man's sexuality - either through law, custom, or ritual - she will rarely enter a relationship.
Women are control-freaks, much more than men and much more than Hollywood movies demonstrate.
2007-11-09 23:43:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sure. These girls are messed up. Love doesn't heal broken people. Give your love to a messed up person and they will turn you into a fellow messed up person.
It's just human nature. People fall into this whole loser attitude and refuse win win situations, refuse to believe in love and good.
2007-11-09 23:31:03 · answer #8 · answered by ninebadthings 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In my experience, they'll be very flattered, put you on a pedestal, then sabotage things by picking fights and then cheating, because they can't believe it can really be. But obviously, my experience is very limited.
2007-11-09 22:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Gnu Diddy! 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A girl using sex to attract guys?????? Oh, noes!
2007-11-10 04:37:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋