I am a teenage boy of 13 years. When I think of marriage, I get into a dilemma. I think of all the pressures of marriage and having kids and all that stuff and I don't really want to be doing that when I grow up. I know I shouldn't be thinking about all that stuff now, but I can't help it. Now I feel as though I don't want to get married when I grow up. It's easier to remain a bachelor. For those of you who are married, (happily), please share with me your experiences and give me some help here.
2007-11-09 20:55:00 · 6 answers · asked by TrueWOW 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hey if you dont married then every body will say the word coward to you and they will say that dont be a friend
no body will go to picnic with you because the other people wife should be boore there because there is'nt your wife to play with them.
so if you think about these things then you would happy to marriage but i know its hard to you becasue now you are a teen
2007-11-09 21:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am a happily married(for 32 yrs.) woman. Don't stress about it quite yet.. You will know when you meet the one you feel as if you can spend the rest of your life with and then the two of you can decide whether or not to have children. Having kids is the most stressful and the most enjoyable experience. Remaining a bachelor also means you will be alone, that is not fun, in fact, pretty depressing.
2007-11-10 05:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by robert s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Anon:You know yourself that you shouldn't be thinking about it so try NOT to.By the time you reach the right age to marry you will change your mind.The average age now days for people to be getting married (in Australia) is high 20's or to even mid 30's.Life without a life partner is excruciatingly painful...You will see (in time) that having kids "and all that stuff"will be very rewarding in many ways...For now enjoy your Teens.Relax and have fun.Good luck.
2007-11-10 06:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by payatstephen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the same. But when I think of the consequences (like being alone when you grow old with nobody there to be with you) then part of my mind asks if that's what I really want. It's going to be lonely, growing old by yourself and dying by yourself.
Of course, the responsibility you have when you have kids is big but it'll all pay off, I think. Giving birth is also VERY hard from what I have learned so I dread it. Also, you won't be as free as you want to be. But still, it all comes back to the thought of being alone when I become old.
My mom always says that when I grow up, I'll change my mind. I think so too because things I thought (more like insisted) I wouldn't like before, ended up being what I like now so maybe I will change my mind and so will you. Maybe. I think. xD
2007-11-10 07:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by mamoRii 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, go out and play. this is not something you need to worry about. if, when you get older, you feel as if marriage isn't for you, so be it. nothing wrong with that. in the mean time though, find a good video game and have some fun.
2007-11-10 07:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 'r wasting your life thinking about that topic. Even thinking about GF...just a waste of time.....Because dear,Life made in pairs,good & Bad,Boy& Girl,New&Old,....you know the rest!.. So let enjoy your days to the fullest and think about better attitude everyday.
I used to be afraid of marriage,but after fall in love and just let days follow each days naturally...i am happy with my life. Happy& Sad is another pair in life dear...(Why think too far...today is your life,Tomorrow....will it come?)
Take care son
2007-11-10 08:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋