He is about to turn 1 at the end of the month. We been teaching him to roll a ball back and forth then he started throwing it. So we stopped playing that game last month. Since then he has still been throwing things. I raised my voice a little saying "bad bad baby!" even gave him a little spank (not that hard) and he screamed his head off or he would give me the most heart wrenching quivering lip with the little sad face. Now when I walk away to go to the bathroom he throws himself on the floor with his face down crying. Even if I just start to walk away!
What do I do ?!!?!? Im a stay at home mom. We don't go out often. I'd like him to be nicer to people too. He cries if someone stares and says he is cute....
2007-11-09 18:12:45 · 15 answers · asked by What Up! 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
About me saying "bad bad baby" with the spank is because he threw a toy and his Aunt's face making her cry, she is only 12. THEN he throw a toy at his daddy the same day and gave him a bloody nose.
2007-11-09 18:14:23 · update #1
Also to the person who said something about him walking. He is walking already. The spank was more like a swat to the butt.
2007-11-09 18:42:09 · update #2
If he throws a toy tell him "NO!" in a very loud confident voice. smacking his fingers will also teach him (not too hard) not to throw.
If he continues to throw the toy either, a) take it away or my prefered method is b) put him in the crib or playpen and say "No throw toys, owwy!!" Leave him for one minute then get him back out and put him back down with the toys. If he throws another one, take him back to the cot, leave him for a minute and so on and so on. You might be in and out of his room for a day but he will learn very quickly not to throw.
As for the tantrums, simply ignore them. No looking at him, talking to him, picking him up at all. Simply leave him where he is and he will stop because he is getting no reaction from it.
When it comes to other people, this is very common at his age. Encourage him to say 'hi!" or 'wave to xname" every time you see people. Take him to the park often to engage with other kids or start going to a playgroup so he can socialise with other kids. Its very important to start socialising early so that they learn sharing, communication, playing and many more things. Research groups in your area. Even going to story time at the library will help.
best of luck
2007-11-09 19:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i dont know if i can help but why dont you try and get the toys away from him when he throws them around. Only give them back when he is good and wouldnt do it anymore. Or when he is naught you can put him in a area or room, where he is surrounded with no toys and couldnt do much. If it gets out of hand, everytime he throw a tantrum, just give him a gentle spank. The sad face can be hard sometimes but its something that mothers have to do so that children can learn sometimes. As he gets older and understand, you wouldnt need to give him a little spank. It would get better when he is older. Hope it all work out. Good luck, it must be hard being a mother.
2007-11-09 18:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should raise your voice and say his name in a quiet to loud fashion but make sure it's not a shreik or you will scare him when he does bad things and you should let him know he is doing something bad but saying bad baby does not work and spanks should be a last resort and the crying when you start to walk away is a small case of seperation anxiety the throwing thing is a cry for attention he is saying play with me mommy but it's best to play before the throwing starts playing with more than one person can give you a little me time because he'll want to keep playing after you get up and it makes him more socialble also nurture that throwing arm by what you say he could be the next mark macguirre.
2007-11-09 18:32:49 · answer #3 · answered by Steven M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't spank, he is JUST 11 months...
and don't follow the advise of leaving your child on his crib as a punishment for 10-20 minutes. Do yourself a favor and do not use his crib as a punishing place. He will ended up not wanting to go to sleep, since crib will be equal to mommy is mad at me! Besides he is so young that a few minutes after the incident he will not remember why he was cast away.
He is experiencing separation anxiety, that is why he cries when you walk away.
As far as trowing the toys, continue telling him that it is not an acceptable behavior and remove the toy for a while after the incident. Do teach him what is acceptable so he can replace the "bad" behavior with the appropriate one.
For example, my daughter likes to eat paper. I do not want her to do that, so every time that she tries I remove the paper from her hands, tell her no and why and offer her a teething ring instead.
Also for your child to be more open to new faces you should try inviting friends to your home, one or two people at a time so the little one gets the opportunity to meet people and will realize that it is a good thing!
2007-11-09 18:43:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe talk to your family doctor about it.
Or take away some things ( toys ) that he really enjoys.
Take away privaliges of some sort even if he is 1 year old.
Continue to give him a swat on his bum and keep saying to him he is a bad bad boy.
Instaed of 1 swat give him 3 to 5 hard enough swats so he knows.
Hope my suggestions work.
Good Luck.
Laurey.
williamallman205@yahoo.com
2007-11-09 22:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is almost 2 and it is unusual for her to have a tantrum anymore. What worked for me was to ignore them completely. She was a little older when she started having them, but not old enough to reason with (she's still barely old enough to reason with lol). I would make sure she was safe and then leave the room. Sometimes kids get so into their tantrums they can't wind down with someone watching them. Now, on the rare occasion she has a tantrum or meltdown, I calmly tell her to come and find me in the next room when she is done and tell me what the problem is. I then leaver her in the room by herself and walk in to the next room. I can see her (she can't see me) and I keep an eye on her. It doesn't take long for her to calm down and come and get me. She is older, so you may have to let your 8 month old calm down and then go to him. You could also stay in the room with him, but ignore him and turn your back on him. I hope this helps.
2016-05-29 01:18:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's liking all the attention you are giving him. Simply take that toys he throws and then soon he'll notice HEY WHERES MY TOYS??! and then after u take the toy he throws put him in his crib for about 10-20 minutes
Kids will be kids sounds like u got a hand full BEST OF LUCK
2007-11-09 18:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by *Lily* 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is to young to really do anything except tell him that "his toy is gone because he threw it". He will cry and you can't do much about that but he will learn that if he wants his toys not to throw them.
He doesn't like strangers talking to him. It might scare him.
When my daughter was 15 months she threw terrible tantrums and would follow me from room to room if I walked out her and continue her tantrum one day I looked at her and said cry harder scream louder I can't hear you finally she got SO mad that she would not give me the satisfaction of her temper tantrums.. She stopped because I wanted her to continue, and I was happier for it!!!
2007-11-09 18:18:45 · answer #8 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little young for spanking but not too young for some tough love. I say NO TOYS. thats messed up about his aunt. once he hits walking age, a deft spanking may be applied. lol
good luck
2007-11-09 18:28:20 · answer #9 · answered by sambucca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him throw that fit of his...just walk away when he does...go somewhere you are able to see him, but he is not able to see you for you do not want him to hurt himself....but just walk away when he throws this type of fit, and when he quits, walk back into the room. because this type of fit is him saying i can get anything i want as long as i keep it up...he will quit them...that how we broke our daughter
2007-11-09 18:18:21 · answer #10 · answered by bubba gumps light 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋