Ok, well my gf and I have been having problems lately. Big problems. two weeks after we first met, we had an argument and sort of called things off. She went of and had drunken meaningless sex with some dude. Needless to say, she never told me, and we worked through that break up and so here we are 8 months later. Now I am the one that cheated. It all came out, her mistakes and mine. Yet my mistake seems to be the one in question because she said, we were only talking, we hadnt gotten into a committed relationship. I love this girl, I want still be with this girl, but is it fair that she hangs it over my head and blow it off when I bring up what she did? I need help and advice
2007-11-09 17:48:26 · 8 answers · asked by Eddie C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well im sorry to say there was a major difference in the 2 events. From what i gather you were broken up when she did it so there in fact was no infidelity whereas you actually cheated while still in the relationship. My advice is if shes willing to work it out than you must weather the storm.
2007-11-09 17:54:49 · answer #1 · answered by money72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are mistaken--she did not cheat, you cheated. She was irresponsible but the two of you were not together. You don't say whether or not you practice safe sex, you should both be tested. It takes a long time to get over something like this. She will be angry for a long time before she is able to forgive you and you will have to do whatever it takes to reassure her, whether it is tell her all the details (only if she wants to know and asks) or something else she tells you she needs from you. Again it is a long slow process, she will be hurt, she will grieve and if it truly is love one day she can forgive you (at which time she will be to the point where she realizes she can not bring it up anymore) but she will never forget. You don't say how old you are but if this is a committed long-term relationship (marriage in the future) you should see a qualified therapist to help the two of you work through this, otherwise you need to just decide whether or not the relationship is worth saving.
2007-11-09 18:02:41 · answer #2 · answered by Nancy D. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
each of us has unique individuality... and each of us entitled to make mistakes...
learned to accept flaws, and you will grow as an individual.
if you really love each other, move on to the next level...
past is past, what most important is today, and your happpiness that you are going to share with again. May the force be with you!
2007-11-09 18:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by luna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When love & friendship turns into anger and resentments it's nice to move on. Quit having love laziness and get somebody where there isn't so much drama.
2007-11-09 17:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by Luv2no is in the house 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she did was not cheating since you had called it off. What you did was. If you are going to stay together you need to forget about both of them.
2007-11-09 19:33:59 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to talk it out with her and tell her that you love her and that if she can't love you than your waisting your time with her and i know it will be painful but if she doesn't feel the same way than you have to let her go because she is a waist of your time
2007-11-09 17:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be brave and face the problem as we people have no such experience
2007-11-09 17:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whree there is a way
2007-11-09 17:56:01 · answer #8 · answered by mohit gupta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋