iam in college and i think my parents would hate me. i just moved out a month ago what will they say?
2007-11-09 16:29:43 · 24 answers · asked by pretty_mama88 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I guess I don't understand your confusion - just a few months ago you were asking questions about how to get pregnant, and now you're worried about your parents and what you should do?
I think you should go home, tell your parents, ask them to support you, give the baby up for adoption and go back to college where you will keep your knees squarely together until you are sufficiently mature to have a family. You will recognize this maturity because you will no longer want to bring people into the world when you are unprepared to care for them. You will be far less selfish. You will understand why what you have done this time is wrong and you will have taken steps to not repeat it. You will want to bring a child into the world to serve it, instead of wanting to be served.
Your parents probably won't hate you, but they might wonder where they went wrong.
Sorry if this is harsh, but honestly, what you have done is pretty horrible, and I, for one, am not going to give you some gushy answer.
2007-11-09 16:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, what's mistaken with first 12 months teenagers! Talking about thirteen-14 yr olds! You shouldn't be having a baby at 14!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the h**l you thinking!? And above all via a 19 yr ancient! He will have to be in penal complex for rape! You cannot date someone over 2 years older legally.. And even though you do have s*x, USE safeguard! Why does every trashy teenage lady believe it is so cool to get pregnant and have a child! How will you aid the baby? Peculiarly how the economy goes proper now. I'm 17, and im no longer having a child soon.. You understand how much money it takes to handle a child!? And it can be unlawful to get MARRIED with no parental consent.
2016-08-06 03:27:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you do? You should get some support - you'll need it whether it's your mom and dad, the baby's dad, a best friend etc. Get a job if you don't have one, or workout your financial situation findout if your college offers daycare or anything similar support single moms. Your whole life is shifting now and it is no longer going to be all about you, your responsible for the health of a beautiful baby growing inside you. I suggest making a doctors appointment and getting an ultrasound, seeing that baby, and seeing the heartbeat offers more encouragement and joy than anything else ever will. That should boost your confidence. Maybe have your mom go with you if you guys are close, if your not ready to tell them don't - but I know my mom would have been heartbroken to know that I didn't tell her, as dissapointed as she may have been, it's still her grandbaby. She'll wanna be there for you.
GOOD LUCK and congrats to you.
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2007-11-09 16:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by tonilynne 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're probably going to be disapointed but then they will be fine:o) . Stay in school it's even more important now that you get your degree, just take the semester that you are due off. I have a 10 month old daughter and I'm 8 weeks pregnant I'm going back to school to add on to my degree this spring...I'm taking the summer off to have my baby and then going back to finish. I wouldnt be able to do this without the support of my family and my boyfriend leaves next month for iraq so he's missing the WHOLE thing plus some. It's going to be extremely hard but I just look at it as I have no other choice. I'm going into sonography maybe one day i'll do your ultrasound haha. Anyways good luck telling the folks and trust me hunny you'll be fine just stay srong and get through it. Babies are a blessing.
2007-11-09 16:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by ashleylynne_84 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi,
I know completely how you feel (even though you may not think it at the moment) i am now 6 months pregnant and 19. I was really scared of telling my parents as well. I first went to the doctor and got the pregnancy confirmed by blood test before i told anyone. Once confirmed i told my dad first. If you have a closer relationship to one of your parents i would recommend telling them first. As for your parents hating you, i doubt it. Yes they may be shocked but give them time to think about it and they will probably be proud of you for having the guts to tell them! Just remember, don't let anyone force you into anything you don't want to do. It is a huge thing to deal with. But us humans are stronger than what we realise. Hang in there :)
2007-11-09 16:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently found out my daughter who is also 19 is pregnant. She was scared to tell me, but I am glad she did. I would have been hurt if she hadn't told me right away.
You are old enough to stand on your own 2 feet so you have to act as an adult and not be too afraid. What is the worse they could do? Even if they 'disown' you, at least you will know you did the right thing by telling them. They will find out one way or another and hearing it from you will probably be best.
Good luck :)
2007-11-09 16:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by S F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go see the doctor first and make sure that you are. You will need to tell him first. Then you need to decide what you are going to do. Keep the baby, adoption, or whatever. Then you have to tell your parents. They might be upset but they will get over it. You are an adult and they cannot say too much. If he will go with you to tell them I would take him with me. My parents went through the roof. I was 22 years old and on my own. They demanded that I get an abortion. I did not listen to them. I took care of myself and I took care of the baby. He is now 17. I hope things work out for you.
2007-11-09 16:45:46 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your an adult no one has control over your life but you. So if they do hate you which I'm pretty sure they won't. Because you've graduated from high school and is enrolled in college. So keep your baby and get a little job save your money and stay in school. I'm pretty sure there is an organization in your neighborhood that would help you with daycare since your enrolled in school and a single parent. Your school may even have a program so do some research and see. But remember God never gives you more than you can bear.
2007-11-09 16:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Top Model 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, If I were your Parents I would be THRILLED to have ANOTHER baby again!! [ I would be excited to be a grandma] You know there are many options out there for Single moms theese days , Especially "Young moms" like yourself. Your school will Automatically give you something similar to a "Cal-Grant" [ whatever the euilvalent of your state is] Also there is Extra cash for living arrangements Like "Rent" and food packages . Ask for something similar to "WICS" - Google "Wics food aid for children" Or something like that. Talk to your College Counselor O.K?
2007-11-09 16:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully you have a supportive partner. You are going to have to tell you parents sooner rather than later. Of course they will be upset because they wanted more for you out of life but who says everything ends because you have a baby! I was married and 19 when I had my first baby, I was worried about telling my parents (very silly!) but they found out from my best friend who told her mother and she told my mother. Anyway they were very supportive and couldn't wait to be grandparents!
2007-11-09 16:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jasper 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋