OKay..today I found out that I was pregnant, but since I had my period already while I was pregnant (im 14) they said that i might have that again, and have spotting etc..i already had spotting a few days ago.
i went to the doctors today for the sotmach flu and they told me i was pregnant after a pee and blood test
hes the kind of person who will make any like BUT WHAT IF or THEN WHY kind of response to things that he doesnt believe
so what should i tell him cause the doctor didnt go in specific details why this might happen to me cause i was in urgent care and i didnt exactly ask
like how can i tell him its true its true so that he'l believe me and not just reject the truth???
im really confused.
and yes im gonna keep it.
NO MEAN THINGS
2007-11-09 15:49:03 · 13 answers · asked by Catherine T 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh I feel for you sweetie, my best friend was 14 when she had her son. You just have to be upfront with the guy, either way he's gonna have to help out. Talk to your parents they can help you more than you think.
2007-11-09 17:03:51 · answer #1 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you ex is not the person you should be telling first...it should be your mother. Worry about him later since he probably doesn't have the means to help you anyway. Later after your family has found out talk to him. Take on one stressful situation at a time...but since you are going to need your parents to know to help with the medical costs go directly to them.
Not to be mean but it's not likely that he'll be sticking around if:
1) he's your age
&
2) he's your EXboyfriend
It's best that you have a clear head about your own life and your own concerns without worrying about him...if he's willing to be a part of it then that's great but don't count on it. When you feel ready to tell him- just tell him, if he doesn't believe you then tell your mom or friends to talk to him. If he comes back saying that it could be someone else's then just leave the jerk behind...he obviously doesn't care for you or the baby and you can't make him change his mind. But you might want to talk to his parents to help with the costs...it's not JUST YOUR MISTAKE, it's his too.
You're both kids, so if he freaks out for a while then give him that...it will take time to sink in and men aren't very good with problems like these. But make sure he knows it's his child and that you do expect some kind of help. I don't really approve that you keep the baby since you are so young but it is your choice. But also keep in mind that you want the best life for your little one that you can give it...and if that means going after him for money then that's what you'll have to do. Don't make the baby suffer because he doesn't care.
Good luck...and I hope you are more careful if there is a next time.
2007-11-09 16:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by Shiningami_Gurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Okay, if you really don't think he's gonna believe you, go buy a test and do it with him there. You may have gotten a "proof of pregnancy" paper from the place you went, if not, you might be able to ask them for something. You should at least have some kind of paperwork from there to show him. I'm glad you are having the baby! It's going to be hard for you and your ex, along with your family, but you can do this! Good luck sweetie! If you have any questions or just need to talk, email me...I'm always available.
akjohnson114@yahoo.com
2007-11-09 15:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by Gage's Mommy :-) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just open your mouth and let the words come out! If he doesn't believe you, get him to buy a pregnancy test kit and do the test in front of him. If that fails, maybe your parents could step in (assuming you have told them, I hope you have!), after all he does have a responsibility to you and your unborn child. Unfortunately for him, he is going to have to face the music and do the right thing. He has to pay child support and help you support your child whether he likes it or not. If he is in denial, he may need to get a paternity test after the baby is born just for proof it is his!!! But with a bit of luck you won't have any problems with him and he will believe you. I am sure he will be in shock so give him some time for it to sink in. You are very young to be in this kind of a situation. Best of luck and I hope you have healthy and uneventful pregnancy.
2007-11-09 16:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Jasper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have to say its gonna be hard but with good family and friend support you can do it. you should have papers stating you are pregnant from the doctor.. if not then have him come over and take a pregnancy test. let him tell you the results. i wish you the vest of luck. if you need any advice you are more than welcome to email me. my display name is my email. ohh and if you would liek to keep a pregnancy calender and what not i recomend babycenter.com. best of luck.
2007-11-09 16:52:16 · answer #5 · answered by sinisterliltiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You talk to him from the heart. And if he doesnt believe you you can still go buy a test together.
Good luck, wish you a healthy baby
2007-11-09 15:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Fannie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young physically and emotionally to have a baby. Make sure you have the proper emotional and medical support for this.
2007-11-09 16:05:13 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Geologist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont wait any longer, just tell him. No reason to wait
2007-11-09 16:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lloyd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him. And then show him the blood and urine results.
2007-11-09 15:53:15 · answer #9 · answered by TLS (Caitlin is coming! 5/15/08) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him, or his parents .. He will have to pay child support.
2007-11-09 15:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Lucy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋