I'm so scared!!!!!! I'm going the the gyno for the first time please please help?

Question

I'm 14 and going the gyno for the first time! I'm so scared. What if I dont get a female doctor? I dont think I could deal with having a guy one. I'm scared its going to hurt to, I've never had sex, been fingered, or used a tampon. what all goes on when your there? Dont they put a finger up there....i'm so scared please help. I want to know everything that happens at these.

My parents just want me to go and get checked out.

One lady thought i was pregnent...I'm not I'm a virgin....

Answer 1

Ok first of all calm down. It's not that scary. You will go in there and they will tell you to undress and change into a robe. You have to take everything off even your underware. You will then have to lie flat on your back with your butt at the edge of the table. Your feet will be placed into stirrups ( http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_body/medical_care/images_57655/T_gynoExamTable.gif ) Then they will insert a speculum (http://www.kaycoindia.com/gynecological-product/gifs/speculum-vaginal-cusco-type.jpg) into your vagina. It will be closed but they will open it inside of you so they can see. They will take tissue samples with long q-tips from the sides of your vaginal walls. It does not hurt it just feels like pressure and slightly uncomfortable but no pain. When they get the tissue samples, the speculum is removed. The doctor will then insert 2 fingers inside of your vagina and press on your lower abdomen from the outside. He/She is checking to make sure your ovaries are okay. After that they will do a breast exam where they start at the nipple and work their way out pressing on all your breast tissue looking for lumps or abnormalities. The whole thing usually only lasts 5 minutes. If you get a male doctor, don't worry. They see so much of the same thing everyday. If you are very uncomfortable, you can request a female but the way I see it, if you've seen one, you've seen them all. Good luck. Don'r be scared its a very normal part of growing up and it keeps you healthy.

Answer 2

They will probably do a pelvic exam. You will have to lay down on one of those horrid pelvic exam tables. Whether you have a male or female doctor, there will be another nurse in the room at all times. First they will stretch out your vaginal opening with a speculum, which I found to be a bit painful(probably since I was a virgin at the time) Most people say it doesn't hurt at all. I think I just got an inexperienced doctor. The speculum might break your hymen since you're a virgin so there might be a little bleeding. Then, yes, they will put their fingers up there. It usually will only take about 30 seconds and they will feel around to see if your reproductive organs are doing okay. They might do a pap smear also. It will be very uncomfortable and embarassing feeling, but just try to relax the whole time, take deep breaths. It doesn't take too long. And then you might have just a little bleeding for a few hours.

Answer 3

If you are referred to a male doctor and you don't feel comfortable, simply mention to the receptionist or the nurse that you would rather reschedule an appointment with a female OBGYN and that you would appreciate their reference to this doctor.

Also, using tampons is in my opinion nothing like what you'll encounter at the OBGYN. I gave you a list of websites to explore that explain all about the first trip to the gyno. That last website is titled "just for teens," so it should be one you look at first. Don't worry, it isn't a horrible experience, and most doctors are very good about dealing with teens and frightened young girls. Every woman has to do it and it really isn't that awful. You'll be fine.

Answer 4

It's normal to be nervous since it's your first time going, but it's not bad at all. I went for the first time when I was 18 years old (it's best to go when you are first sexually active, but I waited a little bit longer till I was 18 just because). You can request to have a female doctor so it's don't be nervous about that. She will feel your abdomen and usually feels your breasts to check for lumps and what not- then will insert one of two fingers to feel your cervix and all of that. It's not painful. They also do a pap smear which can be slightly uncomfortable but is not bad at all.
The actual doctor examination usually only takes about 5 minutes at the most so it's not bad at all.
Don't worry- everyone goes through this!

Answer 5

They may just go over how to perform a self-breast examination or do it for you, just to show you how to at home on your own. Then they'll squirt a KY lubricant substance onto their rubber gloved fingers, maybe two as they press on your abdomen with their other hand to check for any abnormalities. Then they will do the speculum. That's where you are scooted all the way to the end of the examination table, feet in those uncomfortable stirrups and legs spread while she talks you through it as she's inserting the speculum. The spec is meant to help open you up a bit more for her to swab your insides with what looks like an oversized Q-tip to be sent off for testing to make sure you don't have any cancer or pre-cancerous cells present. She'll ask if you have any concerns or questions. That will be that!

GOOD LUCK HUN! We have all been there, done that!

Answer 6

You will be fine! I have been going for years and I never look forward to it, but you really need to go. It is extremely important that you go every year. Some women prefer a woman doctor and some a male, it all depends. You should be given a choice though.
While the doctor is examining you will feel pressure - they will let you know this too. Your Doctor should talk you though everything that they are going to do to you. Nothing is painful or hurts though - you will be fine! GOOD LUCK!

Answer 7

Did you mom make the appointment?
Is it her gyno?
I would ask you mom these questions

My mom died when I was ten. I was 19, the first time I went to the ob/gym. It was an older guy, and was not very friendly
I think, it was five or six years before I went again.
If you are not comfortable with the person, ask to if you can see someone else, or make an appointment with some else

Best of luck

Answer 8

I would be nervous too. I did not see a gynocologist until I was sexually active at age 18. Why are you going so young anyway?
For me, it is not a painful experience. It is more awkward emotionally, and anything physically. Physically speaking, there may be pressure, and a good dr will explain everything first. Tell them this is your first time, and I'm sure they will be understanding.
The visit is mostly about examinations, external and internal. Most of the time, the exam(s) take less than 5 minutes- so its not bad at all.
Good luck, and dont worry. It will become a "no brainer" soon enuff.

Answer 9

I went, but they did not do an exam.

I wanted Lybrel (the no-period birth control pill) because I have extremely painful cramps.

But when it came down to it I am 16, have never had sex, and I am a lesbian to boot!

It was funny, however, to tell that to the doctor! She was giving her pregnancy prevention speel, and I said, "Well, I wouldn't really worry about it, because I am not sexually active, and if I was, it would be with a girl since I'm a lesbian."

Yes, I really said that!

She stuttered for just a second and then smiled and said, "Ok, then. That sure makes my job easier! Call the office if you have any problems."

And off I went.

Answer 10

NO. The doctor is bound by the laws of confidentiality. They are not allowed to tell the parents she is sexually active- or anything else that happens or is found during the consultation. The only time a doctor would break confidentiality for a mentally sound adult (17 counts as adult) is if they think that person is seriously risking their life or the lives of others. E.g knowingly spreading HIV, planned suicide etc.