my friends are really mean to other people and are sometimes mean to me. they think they are so cool just because they are the smartest kids in the class and every time somebody ask them a question, my friends look at him/her as if they were retarded or something. every time i tell them they are being rude, they always get a attitude. also it always seems as if they are annoyed with the whole wide world and are NEVER happy. i have been trying to stop being their friends, but they don't seem to get it and if i stop being friends with them i will not have any one else to hang out with and i will be know as the "lonely girl". so what should i do? (wow, this is a really long question lol) thanks.
2007-11-09 13:05:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am not mean like them though. I'm a very friendly person.
2007-11-10 11:44:17 · update #1
and i have never been rude or mean to somebody I always try to stay nice, I am only rude to people that are rude to me.
2007-11-10 11:50:21 · update #2
Don't just be around them so you aren't alone. I've done that and it's worse than being alone.
They are obviously not the right people for you, you seem really nice and they seem like snobs.
since you won't be around those friends anymore, you'll be able to open your eyes to new people that are better for you and could have been there all along... you won't be alone for long if you look for people to be friends with. The first exchanging of words is the hardest part. If you get past that the rest is easy and you'll be so glad!
Good luck
2007-11-09 13:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation before and it takes a lot of courage to say this, but it seemed to work. Sometimes it takes someone to stand up to them for them to get a different perspective on how they treat people.
When they are mean and critical to me or someone else, I said "that's so mean - does that make you feel better about yourself?"
They just kind of stopped (a little shocked), one girl seemed to be ashamed and said no.
When they are negative and hateful say: You all would be SO much happier if you would focus more on the positive!!! - your life would have a much more positive energy and things just start going "your way". (this is true BTW)
If they make fun of that comment you can come back with: Well...that's what I'm going to do, I'm going to rid myself of all negative people in my life - they just bring me down.
You will also be surprised (after the shock) of how much respect you will get in the long run.
They'll be like WOW, that girl is not afraid to speak up and be different, I want to be more like her.
I know it does sound a little corny, but it does work.
The old adage is true that misery loves company!
Good luck, be strong, and positive. When you find the good in others, it makes you a more beautiful person - serious!!!
2007-11-09 21:20:41 · answer #2 · answered by Animal girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them about it. Tell them they they are making themselves look like idiots by being rude and mean. Of course you could always give them a taste of their own medicine and then point out that you are just acting like they do and see what they say.
Honestly, if they don't care about other people and their feelings are they really your friends to begin with? I would rather be lonely if I were you. No one needs friends like that.
Friendship is supporting each other not tearing each other down.
2007-11-09 21:10:17 · answer #3 · answered by mamabee 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know its sometimes hard because (if you do) really like them then you want to be their friend but wish they'd change. Well... you can't get into changing ppl. If that's their personallity you're either going to have to try to just stay a little seperated from them so ppl think of you as nice or get new friends. Your choice. They just want everyone to think of htem as "the greats". Unfortunitly in this sitiuation it's really hurting ppl. I hate to say this but nobody on here can tell you how you feel.... Do you like your friends, do u really care about them, for them? Or would you like to change them (if so, you need new friends)!
p.s. i kno its not easy getting new friends, but start off with one and hopefully it'll get better from there.
2007-11-09 21:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by gilmore94 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can relate with you, my friends aren't that bad but they can do things which are morally wrong. My advice is: don't give in to it, don't take part in whatever they're doing to others. It doesn't matter what they think, it's what you think that matters. I can see you're a good person, I used to be fairly selfish sometimes but now I've changed as I've met the right people who've shown me there's a better way; encouraging me to help others and put that kindness to good use. Good luck.
2007-11-09 21:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Aod2007 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the people who your friends were mean to.
Ask them if you were ever mean to them and apologize if they say you were. Ask them if they will forgive you and if there is any kind of help they need.
Tell them how you feel about these mean friends. Opening up is one way to make new friends.
This way, they will know why you are alone and know you would rather be alone and brave than be with mean people and be a coward.
2007-11-09 21:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Blessed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dad use to have a saying,he would always tell me that "Some friends are like a dollar in your pocket,They are only there if you have them!" .What I am trying to say is,Don't worry if you become the lone wolf.You will gain new and possibly better friends along life's path.Caulk it up to a learning experience.
2007-11-09 21:18:29 · answer #7 · answered by Alex I 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not seem like it now, but you truly ARE better hanging out alone for a short time than to be around such unpleasant people.
You will make new friends who are kinder and better for you!
2007-11-09 21:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by looneybin90 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first try socializing, like talk to people in your class and instead of just classmates, be friends... then once you start hanging out with your new friends, go to your mean friends and tell them that there rude and you will not be their friends.
2007-11-09 21:19:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to break away from them and make some new friends...they are obviously dragging u down into their level...they feel miserable so the only way for them to feel better is to make everyone else miserable with them....just make some new friends....some that won't bring u down
2007-11-09 21:12:35 · answer #10 · answered by Pixie311 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋