I get really, really nervous when I speak in front of other people, and I'm often very quiet. How can I Change

Question

I really don't want or like to be so nervous, but I can't help it. Whenever I speak to a group my heart races and I can hear my pulse in my ears. Sometimes my voice will be a little shaky or will cut out in mid word/sentence. I didn't use to be like that either. I used to be pretty talkative and more social, and less nervous. I just want to be like that again. Any advice? Please help.

Answer 1

I am really good at public speaking. I have tons of tips for you! Hope I helped!

1) Be prepared. If you know what you're going to say perfectly, then you won't feel as nervous.
2) Focus only on a certain friend in the audience. It feels better talking to a buddy.
3) Practice in front of a mirror, to see how you will look. That way, you won't worry about that when you're up.
4) Imagine yourself as a great speaker-the best in the whole group! Be confident that you are a great speaker, and that will show when you speak.
5) If you mess up, nothing will be as bad as it seems. Think about it? How badly can you possibly mess up? Everyone else is probably too nervous too, so they're not going to be paying complete attention to you anyways.
6) GO FIRST! You probably think that's crazy, and that going last is best, but trust me, first is best. First of all, you get it over with, and you can relax. Also, if someone really good goes before you, you'll feel awckward trying to follow an act like that. Lastly, no one will talk about you negatively, because no one else has went, and they don't know what good and bad is yet. If you screw up, they won't even remember, since it was so long ago that you went.
7) Take a nice, long breath. Calm your nerves down a bit.
8) Be funny. That way, it will ease your tension a bit, and the crowd will be on your side.
9) Don't be embarrased. Everyone is doing it. Actually, be fun and creative instead. You'll do great.
10) Googe some tips to help stage fright.


GOOD LUCK!

Answer 2

Hi there!

To some degree, everyone (including myself, a 3rd year medical student) gets nervous while speaking in front of others...To have an audience, or even one person for that matter, stare at you and listen to every word is a bit daunting. However, it's not impossible :)

Here are a few pointers:

1. Take something (i.e. .such as a paragraph that you've written on some topic), and practice reading out loud, and alone. This will help you to become acustomed to the sound of your own voice, and how you pronounce words. Also, this will help you to sort out your thoughts, and organize them in a sensible, coherent matter.

2. Practice in front of a close friend. I say a friend because you will need someone who will want to be honest with you about whatever mistakes you may make while speaking. Have you friend critique what you say, and offer advice to you about ways in which you can improve..

Answer 3

I was the same way a while ago, and now I am very outgoing. You have to start off talking to people you've never seen before, such as at the mall or in super markets (you will probably never see them again if you do something wrong). It's good practice socializing, eventually, you can just go up to aquaintences and talk to them without any anxiety.

Answer 4

I'm not sure. I can totally recognize your plight and I had it too...then one day I needed to speak in front of a group and I realized they WANTED to hear from me and for some reason it changed everything. Just try to keep your confidence up in what you've got to say, be well prepared and know you're the expert, or at the very least they do want to hear what you have to say and then...let them! Good luck!

Answer 5

try to remember what made you so confident and social years ago? if you used to be like that you definitely can be that way again, because it's the real you. being social makes you feel better. practice and practice and you will get used to talk in the public

Answer 6

The best advice is NOT to picture everyone in their underwear...it doesn't work and honestly, there are few people I truly want to see in their undies! Anyway, practice...when you are confident of what you will say, you can tend to relax a bit. Also, do breathing exercises and drink water so your mouth won't get dry. Hope that helps!

Answer 7

practice in the replicate. as a replace of finding on the full classification, inspect one or 2 human beings in the attention as you talk. Rotate after some seconds to envision somebody else, SMILE. attempt to make eye touch with all and sundry a minimum of as quickly as. additionally some human beings do extra desirable at the back of a potium, for me that makes it worse. I want pacing around the room in between the desks. have interaction your objective audience by utilising having them write a query for you till now you get began, and bypass them up or %. them up. After your speech get to 3 of the questions, you decide on for, and answer a number of them. I rather have seen that executed in lectures till now, very effectual in captivating your objective audience.

Answer 8

i used to get the same way during speeches...and sometimes still do when i make speeches for school....all i did to overcome some of it was to think that im making a speech in front of all my friends, wats the worst that can happen? i mean..they are my friends and will be there to support me...so nothing to worry about there, but if ur going infront of a grp that u dont know..then just have the thought in your mind that....ur only seeing these ppl once and wat r the chances u will talk to any of them? just say wat u gatta say and walk out with ur head up high to show ur confidence...and if it helps....bring a friend and when looking up at the audience..look towards your friend for comfort

Answer 9

I used to be like you, still am a bit. Every time I get nervous or worried I say to myself (in my head), "Build a bridge..." "Get over it"... Slowly I would just stop worrying about things and I'm much more confident today. Even try using a different line instead of build a bridge in your head. It worked for me, and I stand up for myself everyday now. :)

Answer 10

you can go to classes for public speaking... they help a lot i have a friend enrolled in them, she used to be so quiet but its like shes a different person now!