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I have no self confidence, feel uglyall the time, and feel people just lie to me to get sutff from me ,thought peole here could help my dilemmas :( but they take it the wrong way, i need to know what is ther out there to look forward too, as i'm only youngish

2007-11-09 13:02:00 · 24 answers · asked by Charlotte M 1 in Social Science Psychology

have no self confidence, feel ugly all the time, and feel people just lie to me to get stuff from me ,thought peole here could help my dilemmas :( but they take it the wrong way, i need to know what is out there there to look forward too, as i'm only youngish and don't want to be silly but still part of me feels the need too :(

2007-11-09 13:06:46 · update #1

Oh and i'm 17 for those who wondered

2007-11-09 13:19:56 · update #2

24 answers

Don't believe anyone who tells you that your youth is "the best days of your life"! Kids can be miserably cruel to each other, and days seem to drag on forever. Most days, nothing you do seems right ... and it can be very discouraging!

I'm 60 now. As a child, I had a great home life, but at school and in social situations, my life was miserable! In my experience, every year has been better than the last (at least until I started having health problems about five years ago ... but other than health, things are STILL getting better!), so DON'T give up! The older you get, the more you learn, and the less other people's opinions matter. Some of the things that help me to feel better include:

LOOK for good things, and concentrate on them. Do what you can to make negative things better, and ignore the rest.
Find at least three things to appreciate and be grateful for every day! The more things you can add to your daily list, the better!

Ignore people who make you feel bad. They may think that they are hot stuff, but they're not!

Find a hobby or interest that you like and really work at it. It can be something in athletics, something creative, collecting something, studying up on a particular subject. (I taught myself to make balloon-twist animals, and ended up being able to make up $70 to $100 per hour! And it's lots of fun!! Not bad for a part-time hobby business! Eh?!)

Read things (from the library, for free!) like "The Secret," by Rhonda Byrne, "The Power of Positive Thinking," by Norman Vincent Peale, "I Dare You," by William H. Danforth, etc.

Don't watch new on TV or listen on radio. They very rarely report anything nice or good! Everything is sad, violent, icky. I get my news by reading the newspaper ... just the headlines and enough of the story to get the general idea of what happened, without all the gory details!

Quit following the "news" about stars and celebrities ... the way they live is so far outside the realms of "normal" that it sets us up for disappointment about our own shabby-by-comparison lives.

Make a game out of saving money and finding free or low-cost entertainments, sources of clothing and other necessities. I'd much rather shop in thrift shops, garage sales, etc. than in big, high-priced chains. I use websites like http://www.freecycle.org - http://www.paperbackswap.com - http://www.swapacd.com - to find almost anything I'm looking for. Check out your local libraries for free programs and performances, and occasional classes in a wide variety of interesting subjects! Watch your local newspaper community calendar for free public concerts, movies, festivals, fairs, etc. There's a lot of fun available for free if you watch for it!

If you truly feel suicidal, please, contact a hotline and talk to someone as soon as possible ... http://suicidehotlines.com/

I've always gotten a lot of inspiration and encouragement from Philippians 4:8 (KJV) - "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

Smile, even when you are not feeling happy, because the brain will be tricked into thinking that you are happy, and you actually WILL feel better! I've tried that, and it takes a while, but it does help! Besides, when you emit positive vibes, you get them back, more often than not. Most people are more apt to be pleasant to someone who looks pleasant than to someone who looks cranky, depressed, or grumpy. (It doesn't have to be a big smile, just make sure that the corners of your mouth are curved UP, not down! Try it for a day, and let me know how it goes! I really care. ~Bev

2007-11-09 13:34:20 · answer #1 · answered by baeb47 5 · 0 1

There is hope. Anxiety and depression are different, but they can feed off each other. Medication and therapy helped me. It took time, but it was worth it. Talk to your doctor and get counseling. At the very least, start a journal. Write when you feel overwhelmed and review it later when you are relaxed. Keeping a journal helped me get to the root of my problem and probably shaved 6 months off therapy. Sometimes people start having panic attacks after a traumatic event. It's easy to figure out when the panic attacks start right after the trauma. Mine didn't start for almost 2 years after 'the event'. I thought I had dealt with it, but what I really did was pretend it was 'no big deal' and I didn't even realize how much my behavior was changing because it wasn't that obvious (to me - or my friends and family, for that matter) at first. It was easy to rationalize everything away - until the panic attacks started. It's hard to put into words, but the closest I get is 'losing molecular cohesion' - like every molecule of my body is going to suddenly detach and I will spin into oblivion, followed by chest pain, shortness of breath and the need to flee. I've ranted long enough... I've really been there, and I'm really OK now. There is hope - talk to your doctor.

2016-04-03 04:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

as your young theres alot of help out there for you- more then if you were 10 or 20 years older-
suicide is not the best solution, its a last resort, when you have tried everything and then trieed some more, -and believe me, theres alot to try, then and only then, when you have asked and found there are no other options, does suicide become an option.

To get help, you have to let someone else know, and then contact your doctor, and your doctor will get you incontact with someone who can help, its your call as to weather or not you continue to suffer in silence or get help and work on getting better, but its so much better and more rewarding if you can dig yourself out of the hole you are in with some help.

Talking therapys the best I have come across, try councelling, psychotherapy or group support/therapy, find out what works for you, if you dont feel ok with the person you are speaking to, ask to change, make sure you feel confortable enough to be honest with your councellor/therapist and things will be easier for you.

Good luck,

And if you really cant see a way up at the moment, call the samaritans or childline, they are both there for you to use.
Samaritans is 0845 90 90 90
childline I am not sure but know its a freephone number, google it and you should get the number easily.

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2016-04-15 05:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Smile, even when you are not feeling happy, because the brain will be tricked into thinking that you are happy, and you actually WILL feel better! I've tried that, and it takes a while, but it does help! Besides, when you emit positive vibes, you get them back, more often than not. Most people are more apt to be pleasant to someone who looks pleasant than to someone who looks cranky, depressed, or grumpy. (It doesn't have to be a big smile, just make sure that the corners of your mouth are curved UP, not down! Try it for a day, and let me know how it goes! I really care. ~Bev

2016-02-14 15:02:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Suicide is a PERMANENT solution to a TEMPORORY problem. You do not necessarily want to die, you just feel stumped as to how you should act and feel. There are many people out there who suffer from the same lack of self confidence and they still manage to have great lives. I know it feels awful to feel so low and like there's no way out apart from ending it all. There is ALWAYS a way out which doesn't result in something so drastic. Try to think of happy things in your life, there will be happy things. I don't know exactly what will happen in the future as I'm only young as well. Please don't do anything silly, have a good cry, listen to your favourite music, or simply express your feelings on paper. That has always helped me through my troubles.

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2007-11-09 13:15:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2 1

you are probably just isolating yourself, you need to stay in school, graduate go to college and find an amazing job, fall in love, start a family of your own, and live in a nice home, that is what you need to look forward to. im sure that there are many people that care about you, you just need to let down your guard and open up to other people. you should get together with your closest friends and go have fun. go shopping, get a new hair cut, and if you want to feel more beautiful, just dont put on so much make up, use neutral colors and some pretty lip gloss, change your style, and be more humble towards people and you will be just fine. take a long look in the mirror and concentrate on who you want to be, change your attitude and do not slack off in school. i really hope i helped, take care.

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2016-05-18 08:35:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

Well im a scientist and we need some vital information to dispell these accusations of you being ugly/gullable/suicidal ect ect.......

You say you feel ugly all the time? How would you know maybe your only ugly 99.9% of the time, You ever think of that?

How do you know people lie to you to get "stuff" maybe your the one trying to give stuff to lieing people.

And to answer your last question, well you can look forward to getting old and wrinkly and cant take a propa piss once in awhile, and feeling your bones is very brittle and hate your annoying neighbors kids who keep ringing your doorbell to fetch there soccer ball that supposdly fell in your backyard, and end up saying no, then at night they throw there dogs turds at your car, and then on halloween u decide to get revenge by giving them lolipops soaked in your own urine.
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2007-11-09 13:16:23 · answer #9 · answered by YoungHandsomeWealthyHorny 1 · 0 1

Cheer up sweetie - you might be feeling down
"Trusts not many does she
Thrones up to protect her from hurt
She hides behind the petals of beauty
And smothers her loneliness with perfume"

but you KNOW that there is beauty in life - you wouldn't be able to write like that if you didn;t

you have a good ear

"How insecure she truly is
How frightened of life she is...."

You may feel like this now, although you write more as if you observe yourself - from a detached perspective

but I think you know that there ARE people out there that value your contributions - and by extension your existence

"The content is sad though, and I do hope you are able to talk to a friend, parent or teacher about your feelings."

There are good people out there too sweetie,

btw what is 'youngish' ?

Keep writing - keep contributing - keep searching

:-)

2007-11-09 13:13:25 · answer #10 · answered by Emma Jean 7 · 1 1

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