I have been married to a great guy for 4 years and our sex life is great, but sometime I find myself masturbating after he leaves for work (at night). Should I tell him? Maybe it might turn him on, I'm not sure, but I'm starting to feel bad. I'm just so horny all the time!
2007-11-09 12:49:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you go girl! get the matter in your own hands! hehe... thumbs up... theres no harm. you are doing it for yourself and you deserve it. :)
2007-11-09 13:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by brazenlove 3 · 5⤊ 2⤋
There's a great saying that could be applied here, which is "As a man thinks in his heart, so is he(or she).
The question you should probably be asking yourself (and you need to be honest) is what has shaped your thought patterns concerning sex.You've admitted yourself, that you have this drive all the time.
GOD created sex and the drive that goes with it, but we are the managers of our emotions and have the responsibility of keeping ourselves in check. This in itself can be a major task when our society uses sexual connotations all the time for industrial purposes.
Don't be afraid to do some research concerning yourself. Chances are you'll find that seeds are being planted somewhere in your thought patterns.
Don't ignore your conscience; apparently an alarm is going off in there or it wouldn't bother you at all. Thank GOD it still does; those who have gone overboard have what is called a seared conscience and have developed a callous heart. It's a good thing that you're not there yet.
Share this with your husband. If he's honest enough, maybe he'll share his challenges on the same subject. It would be a great way for the both of you to grow as a couple.
Approach him the same way you would want to be approached on the subject. This is one of those sensitive subjects and needs to be entered into cautiously.
2007-11-10 00:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by chapel247 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know your age, but I think some women as they get
older like that wonderful feeling of a sweet release. I discovered the shower head when I moved in with my husband, and wow, it was shockingly great. I told him, and
he jokes about it. He says how many times did I abuse the
shower head today. One day, I waited until he was about
to come home and I started to masturbate, and I thought he
would come into the bedroom and find me there and we
would have a wonderful night, but instead he sat down on
the couch and he heard a noise but decided to have a smoke
before he checked to see what it was. He finally came into
the bedroom, and tore his clothes off like a mad man. We
had great sex, and he loved it. You got to try new things
once in awhile. It keeps things new and exciting.
2007-11-09 18:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by boxmaker40 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO! My goodness girl if married people waited till everyone was on the same page to have an orgasm it would be a big old grumpy planet. If I didn't cut you off this morning I either got some from him or me! LOL!
2007-11-09 13:44:16 · answer #4 · answered by 35 and loving it! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it. I would tell him if you want. It might turn him on. It does most men. Do not feel bad for doing it.
2007-11-09 13:32:59 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetheart at least you aren't cheating? What's your story do he not fill you? It's extremely healthy that you materbate! I masterbate all the time as well and I am married and I'm in a loving relationship as well, I have been with my husband for seven years and we've been married for almost 4 months now..... So don't worry about it your ok!
2007-11-09 13:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by rita_hiemy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is so natural to masturbate. You don't need to tell him, you could just let him catch you in the act, that might turn out hot.
2007-11-09 15:01:06 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there isn't anything wrong with it and you shouldn't feel bad. It is something that is natural. You can tell him if you want to. It would very likely be something that would turn him on.
2007-11-09 13:38:02 · answer #8 · answered by bluemonarch17 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I do it too. I also have a great sex life with my hubby, but sometimes I just get really horny. So, I take care of it, sometimes I tell him sometimes I don't.
2007-11-09 12:54:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's natural to do it when you can. I know my husband does it all the time, and he will tell you to do it if you were in front of him. Sometimes we don't feel like having sex so we will do it in front of each other. I don't do it by myself because, it's no fun, but have fun.
2007-11-09 13:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sex life is great too... But my husband came home early one night and caught me using my vibrator. He was so turned on that we had sex immediately.
Now he likes me to touch myself as foreplay.
I'd tell him.
Yeah, I'm horny a lot too...
2007-11-09 12:54:43 · answer #11 · answered by BTB{06.22.09} 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋