This is not me (I swear)...so my friend has been seeing a man who is recently separated but still wants to be with his wife. He and my friend have had an inimiate relationship and he continues to try to spend time with her. He texts her, calls her and asks her to dinner all the while he does the same things with his wife. I think she should kick his butt to the curb for being Shady O'Grady. What are your opinons?
2007-11-09 12:29:22 · 18 answers · asked by grace 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree with Angel, player with a capital P. He probably gets something out of both relationships and is not mentally strong enough to break one of them off. He is sucking the life force from both women, using each of them for his own selfish gain, even though he probably does small, nice gestures for each of them to make up for possible guilt. Your friend needs to just end it, end it, end it, there are sooo many fish in the sea, there are so many men for any given woman. Tell your girlfriend to give him his walking papers and she MUST break off ALL contact with him. No email, calls, no IM, NOTHING. Clean breaks are very hard, but they are the most effective. Best wishes to her. I really suspect that he may be trying to get back with his wife but is keeping your friend on the side because he "needs" something from her, sex, affection, some unfulfilled need.
2007-11-09 12:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your *ahem* "friend" needs to be careful dealing with this loser...she could end up losing a lot in the end. There's so many other guys out there, not married and no baggage. I hope your "friend" realizes that she's worth more than what this guy is giving her. And reiterate to your friend that the guy is just SEPARATED not divorced, meaning there's a big possibility that he's going to resolve his issues with the wife and your "friend" will end up just being used for amusement and passing time.
2007-11-09 12:35:52 · answer #2 · answered by Busyshopper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be separated from you wife and still go out and do things together. I am not buying that story. She needs to know that she is just the woman on the side and should leave and forget him completely.
2007-11-09 12:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friend needs to raise her self esteem and realize that he is only using her and she can only get hurt in the long run. remind her that he may be seeing someone else also and there is a chance of a disease with this guy as well. I will give you a good web site to help raise her self esteem but she has to be the one to want to do that and drop this guy herself before he convinces his wife and wants to have them both in the bed at the same time. I will give you the link to a good site if you can get her to go there and it may help her. Good Luck!
2007-11-09 12:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way your friend can't know what's going on here. Is she that naive? If she is then maybe she's too young to be 'doing' anyone and this guy is a kiddie diddler. He's cheating on his wife, they are not separated at all. He's a pig lying through his teeth. She should dump him because when the wife finds out, and she will, all hell is going to brake loose. Remember "hell hath no fury..............".
2007-11-09 12:54:04 · answer #5 · answered by angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no offence but your friend should not get mixed up with a man with a seperated marriage she is asking for trouble the moment she walked into it, she should get rid of him, but she should know that already.
Imagine how his wife must be feeling also
there are plenty of men out there that are not married, hope this helps
2007-11-09 12:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by jenstarcutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really wanted to be with his wife; he would have ditched the ***** ( which is your friend); but, obviously he still has feelings for your friend or maybe he is just using her to get "some" because he is not getting any from his wife. either way, this is not going to end up into something serious with your friend, plus if it does, what goes around comes around, and she heartbroken!
2007-11-09 12:33:43 · answer #7 · answered by Sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says she's the only one besides his wife that he's spending time with? Guys like that usually have multiple girls on the side. He needs to go!
2007-11-09 12:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by Lunaeclipz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like he keeping her around just in case things don't work out with his wife and getting something , something on the side either way.He is a player and she needs to know!
2007-11-09 12:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by notthatagain 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep she needs to kick his butt alright
Hes not gonna leave his wife as long as they are still doing things together.
He is getting what he wants from your friend and his wife too.
He is a two--timing Loser
Tell your friend to leave him alone...He is no good.
2007-11-09 12:33:00 · answer #10 · answered by americangurl_28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋