okay so I know "how." lol. but the real question is should I? let me explain i'm 26, female. not much dating experience, ok basically none so i don't kno about about males. my best female friend and male friend tell me to just find a guy and do it cuz i'm making a big deal outta nothing. my male friend tell me most guys want a girl with experience and not a virgin and will not marry a virgin cuz they can't "test drive the car." it kinda makes sense to me....i'm not like an overly religious person but I think sex is for marriage or maybe i'm just afraid to sleep with someone who will leave me. now i'm confuse and depressed a lil b/c maybe i have wait to long and it will be hard to find a husband to take me seriously. thoughts? help me.
2007-11-09 12:28:19 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i didnt wait until i was married and i regret that i was not able to give myself to my spouse knowing our wedding night was our first time. if youve waited this long, wait until your married. your husband will really appreciate it if he is truly head over heels in love with you. i also want to tell you in a society where we are forcefed sex everywhere, i really respect someone who (for whatever reason thats your business) still has their virginity. cherish it and keep it-its an extremely rare and comendable thing these days.
2007-11-09 12:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
When you have sex with someone, you give them a part of yourself. If you have sex before you're married, you can't give all of yourself to your husband. Doesn't he deserve that?
I definitely think you should wait. The right guy will come along, and not only will he take you seriously, he'll respect and admire you more for waiting - especially in a society that says that only religious nuts and prudes wait. If a man truly loves you, that won't be a negative. If it is, he's too superficial and HE shouldn't be taken seriously; there's nothing wrong with you. There are too many medical and emotional reasons not to.
Stick to your guns, girl. Sex was meant for marriage.
2007-11-09 12:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Second Hand Rose 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
STICK to your beliefs, if you want to wait untill you get marryed then wait, i know lots of people have said its no big deal or guys dont want virgins,, they are full of mess too, do lose your virginity untill you are ready, lots of people out there are doing whats called second virginity thats where they had sex but dont any more untill they marry, be safe stay with the first virginty i ADMIRE YOU for it
2007-11-09 13:11:48 · answer #3 · answered by panthor001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they aren't your friends if they tell you to have a meaningless romp in the hay with just anyone. Virginity is something you can only give once. Wouldn't you rather give it to the man you marry or at least plan to marry. You've waited this long, why not a bit longer.
2007-11-09 12:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. You will regret it. Stand firm on how you believe, and save sex for marriage. There are still guys out there who appreciate the joy of partaking in something so special on their wedding night; it just might take a little while longer to find that wonderful guy. But when you do find him, you will be so glad that you waited, because he will treat you like gold (no guy saving sex for marriage is going to treat their girlfriend like crap).
Edit: You shouldn't worry about whether or not you will please your future husband, etc, and he shouldn't be worried about it either. If he truly loves you, he will never have better sex.
2007-11-09 12:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by whoopsidaisy 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
your worrying to much, the right guy will come along but till he does find some one you like and make him an offer sex is good just make sure it is safe sex . the first time is hard but you need to start practicing sometime. let the guy know your a virgin and to go slow it will get better with time. i would love to have a virgin again but they seem so hard to find now a days. BUT PLEASE JUST DONT SPREAD YOUR LEGS FOR JUST ANYONE MAKE SURE YOU DO HAVE SOME FEELING FOR HIM AND HIM FOR YOU, THEN JUST WORK ON IT, YOU WILL BE RIGHT. YOU MAY EVEN GET MARRIED YOU HAVE TO TAKE CHANCES IN LIFE.
2007-11-09 12:47:57 · answer #6 · answered by doc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i don't really agree with your friend..... i asked some friends of mine...and all of them told me that make love with a vergin girl is a great honour form them...because it makes them feel important....i mean "they are the first".....they told me that thay would feel well to be the first to see her body....and think about the fact that they feel more confortable because they know you can't compare their "job" to someone else's one!
anyway if u think u shoul wait the right person....well u should wait! do it only if you're sure....don't listen to your stupid friends!!!!
verginity is something important...it's not oly giving your body...it's giving your soul!
please think about it....
ps sorry if i made mistakes bt i'm italian
2007-11-09 12:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Quella che non è 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, practice makes perfect?
just make sure your being safe:]
2007-11-09 12:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by Casey 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
then find a guy who thinks like u. i think b4 marraige cause he might not please u or cant get it up etc
2007-11-09 12:33:39 · answer #9 · answered by J.D. 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋