marry a virgin ONLY??
I know their views might sound a little disrespectful for non-virgins but the truth is that a lot men DO care about their women's past and so whats wrong with that??
2007-11-09 11:41:59 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Tracey: what makes you ask that?
2007-11-09 11:59:37 · update #1
Lioness - haha....i am not ashamed of anything, just that i saw my friend got critized for expression his views on a different forum and i was wondering why he got critized...
2007-11-09 12:13:31 · update #2
20++ answers and 1 star....come on guys, show some support pls ~ this is an interesting question!!
2007-11-09 12:39:05 · update #3
Alex ~ hmm.. what are you doing this weekend?
2007-11-09 13:05:41 · update #4
Steve P - No i wouldn't say its the same men.
2007-11-09 13:13:31 · update #5
Juniper - although i would agree with what you are saying here, you have acknowleddged previously that the body is connected to the spirit/mind. Is it possible for someone to be a virgin spiritually but NOT physically??
2007-11-09 13:16:16 · update #6
Laela - hehe...very true.
2007-11-09 17:46:00 · update #7
Unmarried guys should NOT get criticized or condemned for wanting to marry a virgin. It is HIS personal choice and preference. We all have preferences. He doesn't have to marry a non-virgin if he doesn't want to.
Personally, I'm glad to see guys who are looking to marry virgins. Too many guys these days are impatient and don't want to wait until marriage.
I'm 20 and still a virgin myself. I have chosen to remain chaste for religious reasons (pre-marital sex is a sin in my religion), but also because I don't think there's anything more special to give to your husband than your virginity. Therefore, I intend on saving myself for my future husband only and become a virgin bride.
Another great advantage of marrying a virgin is that you know that the person is pure and clean so you never have to worry about any sexually transmitted diseases.
You are not being at all disrespectful toward non-virgins just because you want to marry a virgin. It's completely your choice.
Ignore any woman who criticizes you for making this choice. You're entitled to have your own preferences when it comes to choosing a mate.
2007-11-09 12:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by AAA 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Concenrating on your question, we are living in a free society where people can freely express their opinion whether it may appear to be a criticism on others or just plainly a comment on their part. Married guys have the same share of experiences as well.
On the second question, based on a woman point of view and who is not innocent as I may want it; men wanting to marry a virgin seems to be a trophy on their part. They want to create their own hiSTORY togeher and they want to be the first conqueror (pardon my word) of the innocence of a woman's sexual aspect. They want to lead and teach and be a leader or teacher to their woman's partner. Because if a woman knows better than them it may hurt their ego.
There is nothing wrong, for me, to marry a virgins. There are still a lot of them these days and I really admire them for not breaking their chastity belt. However, virginity doesn't define the women's being. It still in the CHARACTER that defines who we are. I never seen your question offensive or disrespectful in whatever ways. Let's try to respect each one's opinion, besides; we came from different ends.
2007-11-09 16:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by ma.isabel z 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a man isn't a virgin, then he has no right expecting a woman who is a virgin to marry him because a woman who is a virgin deserves a man who is a virgin.
Teenagers having sex is wrong.
Adults having sex, as long as the couple know each other long enough to is fine.
What's even worst about that double standard is, these types of men are grossed out by women's menstruation cycles yet they don't mind women who are virgins bleeding out from their hymans all over them.
If you didn't know, women who are virgins bleed from their hymans after they lost their virginities.
2007-11-09 13:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If the guy is a virgin looking for another virgin, fine, no problem. If he's not a virgin but expects "his woman" to be a virgin, he's living in the stone age when the men went out, kicked back with a cigar and a bourbon, playing cards and pinching the waitress's cheeks while wifey stayed home, cooking and cleaning in her frilly apron and coiffed hair, overworked and undersexed.
2007-11-09 12:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by lei 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Because usually, the have no idea why, will not admit why.
The only sense that these men care about their woman's past is that they want them to be a tabula rasa for them and only them to write on, and that never ever ever works out.
The only time this isn't true is if the man, himself, is also a virgin.
2007-11-10 04:40:39 · answer #5 · answered by eine kleine nukedmusik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a virgin? Why would you expect a woman to accept you if you're not...when you hold her to another standard? Back in the day, when people married at age 17...it wasn't that difficult to find a virgin. Now...things are different. I'm sure it would be nice to think that your wife has known no other man but you...however, that also sounds like you plan to judge her by a different standard than your hold yourself to.
Not to mention...as I said... the older you get, the harder it will be to find a virgin...and how long will you date 'her' before you marry? How long will YOU go without...or would you get some on the side until you married?
I know morals have gone to crap and you want a girl with good morals...but by the same token, she's not going to want you if you already have 'criteria' for the person you will marry. You're judging her and haven't even met her yet. If you fall in love and she's not a virgin...how dumb would it be to push her aside and find one you love less, just because she is?
2007-11-09 11:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 11⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong with that if they're a virgin also. If the guy himself has a checkered sexual past, and wants a virgin, then that's no different than a guy who's fat and ugly wanting only to marry a slender hot chick. You should never require something in a mate that you can't also bring to the relationship table.
2007-11-09 11:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to put it at an entirely different angle; in that way no fingers are pointing at anyone. Women, when they gained their sexual freedom they felt a power that they never felt before, they felt invincible; things were going pretty ding dang dong cool for them. They felt equal to their male counterparts; that was, until, the male counterparts decided that they wanted virgins after all. Well, that sure put a damper on thing for the ones who fought hard to be equal; you could say it put a gag on their mouths and tied their hands behind their backs; I know I've been through it, cause I was no virgin myself.
2007-11-09 17:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
There is nothing wrong with that if that's how you feel, but if you've been with 30 women it's hardly fair to expect that she's been saving herself for you. I mean, you either believe sex before marriage is wrong or you don't.
We care about the guy's past too.
I understand your wanting someone who hasn't slept around a lot, but if you are waiting for a VIRGIN, you have a long wait.
2007-11-09 11:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by P&Rsmommy 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Just out of curiosity, where does one find adult women virgins nowadays anyway? I'm not being snarky...I really want to know.
** I don't know a single woman who remained a virgin past 17 or 18 years old, not even the devoutly religious ones.
2007-11-09 11:58:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋