What are some negative and positive things about having a baby in your teens? I am a teen mom and was just wondering what you guys thought were some positive and negative things.
2007-11-09 11:06:54 · 8 answers · asked by נєѕѕι¢α (ανα'ѕ мσмму) 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Positive;; From all the teen moms I have seen they are closer to there children because thay are closer in age.
You can see them grow up and have a family of their own because your young.
Teaches responisbility,
Negative;; Your only a kid once and no you ahve to take care of another kid.
Most have to drop out of school meaning not being able to get a good job to support your family.
2007-11-09 11:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by SaraShootEmUp 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure that you have heard all the negatives-you're broke, you're tired, you don't get to hang out with friends, you may not even get to keep your friends, children are a lot of stress, and work, and responsibility, you may not be able to do what you wanted with your life education/career wise...and more. And they are *all* true.
*HOWEVER* despite what people may say there are definately positives to being a young parent too! (Not that I *promote* teen pregnancy, but once you already have them it's nice to look on the bright side!)
My favorite positive is that when my son turns 18 I will be 36 and when my daughter turns 18 I will be 40! I will get to be young while I'm raising them, which means I have a lot more energy to play with them than parents that are older. I also can relate to them more and I am more in touch with the way the world works "now days" so I'm not nieve or scared about my children.
Also-people are broke in their early adulthoods anyway whether they have kids or not. So yeah-you *could* be out partying with your friends but you would be on a minimum wage budget. When *my* children leave the nest I will be 40, so I will be young enough to have a blast but also old enough to have earned high enough wages to do the *REALLY* fun stuff (like trips to the Bahamas) that no one can afford in their 20s even if they didn't have children.
There are negatives of having kids early, sure. But once you have them and love them, why not look at all the positives you get from being a young parent? At least you won't have to wait until you're 80 to get time alone or with your husband!
2007-11-09 19:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The postives are you get having a baby out the way and then you don't have to cut out a chunk of your career which means you actually earn more money than you would! A LOT more money. Plus if you feel ready and that's what you wanna do with your life then go for it! I don't think there's anything wrong with it. If you aspire to be a mom, have a baby. If you aspire to be a dr get a degree.
Negatives are you are young and may miss out on your last years of being free etc and you might miss out on important qualifications.
2007-11-09 19:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Madison 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There really are no positives.
The negatives are that you are you are still growing and maturing yourself. You haven't been to college, or at least had the opportunity yet. You can't afford to take care of a baby. You miss out on your teenager years and are forced to grow up.
I know people who had a baby when they were teenagers, All say they love their child alot, but wish they had been older, married with a stable income before having them.
2007-11-09 19:12:09 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Positives:A new life comes into the world, get to be in your kids lives longer(since you had them younger), like that one person said it teaches responsibility.
Negatives:Harder to finish school, parents usually are really upset at first, can't do as much teen stuff as others.
2007-11-09 19:18:36 · answer #5 · answered by S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
positive= a little you!
negative= missed all teenage opportunities, responsibilities you may not be ready for, more costs
2007-11-09 19:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by =) 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
positive:u will probly live to see there kids and grandkids
negative:small chance of going to college and getting a really good job.
difficult to find a boyfriend/husband in the future
increase of chances poverty
2007-11-09 19:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by Kita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
positives - you may well be strong and fit by the time you become a grandparent
negatives - lack of young adulthood time, lack of money, lack of social/emotional stability.........
2007-11-09 19:33:18 · answer #8 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋