She had really controlling parents, but after we moved to the big city she got some drama queen friends and now she hangs out late, go's to party's and, sometimes dose not even come home. Where young, and haven't been married for that long. On Top of all of this bull ****, we haven't made love for 3 mo, and i found out, that about a month ago, one of her close friends had kissed her. *accident so it's said. I could go on all day long about our situation, but i suppose this shall suffice for now.
2007-11-09 09:30:34 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah dude been here. You are just a paycheck at this point. It sucks bad but the longer you drag it out the worse its gonna be. Here's the thing: Without telling her go get a divorce lawyer, line up all your ducks and do exactly what he tells you without fail. Then we he says its time pack up all the stuff the lawyer isn't claiming as yours and set it outside-after of course you've had the locks changed. At first you will go through all of the "oh but I love her and can't do that to her" stuff. Well if you give into that your life will be a million times harder to recover. You just have to accept it and carry on. And believe me you've already started that excusing her behavior-per the first line of your explanation about her parents. Run boy run!!!
2007-11-09 09:40:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is incredibly unfortunate, but it seems she is probably just re-living her youth. She had controlling parents and then got married young - so even if you arent controlling her, she feels trapped in marriage. So she's rebelling. I'm not supporting her decisions or lifestyle choices, but you need to take this incredibly seriously.
If you want to make this work, you really need to get some counselling. Set things straight, have serious talks with her, be honest and above all get a hold of your life. Although, in all honesty, it sounds like it may be in your best interest to let her go. You can try all the above, but always remember you cannot change a person; it has to come from within. She wont change until she wants to.
Good luck and i'm really sorry about your situation.
2007-11-09 09:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-04 11:03:30 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's clearly messing around and not by accident! The question is how long are you going to live like this before either of you move on? She's clearly not ready for the commitment of true marriage. As for the accidental kiss, she's just giving you a nibble of the truth to alleviate her conscience a little bit. She hasn't made love to YOU for three months, but you can be sure her libido is as active as ever. It's time to move on from this sad chapter.
2007-11-09 09:49:08 · answer #5 · answered by oogabooga37 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your situation, sounds like your wife wasn't ready for a commitment this big. Maybe you should talk to her and tell her that this is not what you expected out of marriage and want her to either change her ways or get a seperation. Good luck!!
2007-11-09 09:42:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I agree with the rest, if she hasn't been sexual with you and stays out late and has already kissed on someone else she is definitely having to much fun partying and cheating. she is being admired by everyone else in the partying world and you can not fix it unless you are in it for the long haul of the worse!I'm there with you but I'm winning my man back but I've been in hell for the past 8 months. e-mail me and i will tell you what i have had to go through and see if it will help you or not OK.
2007-11-09 09:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by cbattles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are not going out and partying with you friends night and day, seems to me that you have a little bit of ground to stand on when it comes to asking about her party habits.
The not coming home part has to be addressed. Part of married life is having the special person to come home to.
Certainly you are entitled to ask about intimacy. Direct questions without insinuation will be easiest. Tell her you want to be honest with her and in return you need honest answers. ( levels the playing field ) Above all, stay calm.
She may have some bad news that she has been hiding because she is afraid you will yell at her. It is a pickle, no doubt about it. With kind regards.....Finn
2007-11-09 09:41:07 · answer #8 · answered by Finn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your not the first to experience this nor the last. With every woman there comes a price for her behavior which is acceptable or not.
Should you accept this behavior then you will talk about it till hell freezes over.
On the other side you can eliminate the problem and be done with it and that is the ultimate divorce.
What ever you see in your prize that is worth to prevail something good out of it is worth keeping.
2007-11-09 10:19:35 · answer #9 · answered by bigapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you can always come to New York, you don't need her bull sh**
I'm looking for a good friend to move in with me, I may be a Bi
guy but I know how to love some one all day all night, every day of my life. Boy 3 months with out sex or love making
is a no no. how can a man or women live with out it.
Look if you like to talk abou it email me at
frrrslvtr@yahoo.com my name is Sal.
2007-11-09 10:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋