I know this is a weird question to ask, but is anyone else terrified of dying.?

Question

I'm not peticularly scared of death but the way it will happen. What's your thougths ?

I really appreciate all of your answers, I never asked that question to anyone i have known before. I was too frightened to ask, but it's always worried me. Cheers people.

Answer 1

It is a totally normal feeling to have a fear of death, that is why we have instincts and nerves and emotions to protect us from that which could be harmful or fatal. There are few who do not fear death, some think that death would be better for them than living. Those are based on life experiences and/or chemical imbalances. It's not a weird question to ask, curiosity about and daring attempts at cheating death are common. Risk-takers they are called. Even though you won't know when it happens, it's painless, and a relief for some, but the fear comes from it being an irreversible event. No do-overs.

Answer 2

I'm not scared of dying at all, but that is by the by ... I work in a nursing home half the week and a hospice the other half of the week, so I am often confronted by people's thoughts about death. I have often been struck by how very much some people would rather desperately cling on to life than die. Some do it because they just do not know what happens after death, others do it because they cannot bear the thought of leaving loved ones with grief and heartache, and there are a few that really want (for example) to make it to 100. Reasons vary. But you ask about the way it will happen. In the nursing home and the hospice you will be so well cared for, you will have very caring staff, they will sit with you, do everything they can. In the UK you can decide whether or not you want to die in your own home.
In my own private life I have lost friends in car crashes, cancer, motor neurone disease, heart attacks, alcoholism, suicide ...
A good book to read (if it is still in print) is The Ruffian On The Stair by Rosemary Dinnage. I have just started a book called Death, Dying and Bereavement because I am doing a Macmillan Gold Standard Course in Palliative Care.
I don't feel I've truly answered your question.

Answer 3

Well that was an entertaining story. You don't really believe it do you? Did your mother actually tell you this or did you manufacture this amusing bit of fiction. I sincerely hope neither you nor your mother actually believe this. If your mom really told you this she is either lying or was hallucinating at the time. Does she have a history of drug use or mental illness? I'm not trying to be cruel or to make fun of you; I just really do not believe for one second that this story is true. How could I? Or anyone else for that matter? What does this have to do with your question? To answer your question, as to my final thought, I imagine I'll think something like "Finally!" ; )

Answer 4

I mentioned this earlier in another answer so appologies on repeating myself but a couple of years ago i actually died!

I was having a big operation due to Cancer that went wrong and i was dead for a few minutes.
There was no tunnel of white light, no flashing images of my life, no god or pearly gates, in fact there was nothing, just silence.

Yes, i could have forgotten something that happened but i doubt it, and being an athiest i'm probably more cynical than most.
However, i was 'dead' and came back, i have no lasting effects, the Cancer is gone and here i am all good and well.

I hope this may help a tiny bit, to feel that being dead is just like being asleep.
Of course your worry is more about how you will die, and any pain you might feel, etc but the vast majority of people die through illnesses rather than something horrific, and the pain through illness is something your body can tune out to an extent.
The operation i had and the treatment hurt like bloody hell, don't get me wrong but mentally i could tune it out despite having a 14 inch wide hole in my abdomen where they took out a kidney.

If we die in a crash, etc then it will probably be quicker and you'd not know about it anyway.

Ultimately we can spend our entire lives worrying about how we will die but by doing that you will not enjoy your one and only time on this earth.
Without enjoying all there is to be enjoyed in this life such as family, friends, love, sex, etc, etc then you might as well be dead anyway.

Answer 5

I'm sad by the thought that I will not be here, but the idea of me no longer being here does not scare me. All sorts of changes happen in life. I've had several near death experiences and each time I've said, "if this is my time then it will be so, but I'll fight to be here until it takes me away."

We begin to die as soon as we are born. What is so strange about death? It's no surprise. It's part of life. It's change.

We can be sad about the change in life, but don't be scared.

Answer 6

To a certain degree I am afraid to die. as I learn more about death the less I fear it. Being injured and with a lot of pain would be my most fear.
There are some people that rejoice at death and some have great celebrations. I believe that the Bible is what has given people the fear of death.

Answer 7

Yeah, sometimes I have days where I cry about it. I'm also scared of life what I'm gonna do when my mum dies. I once was laid in bed with my little brother and I started crying thinking about my mum and he asked what was wrong, I told him and we just cried together =(

I'm scared of death because its like your just dead forever and you feel nothing, you don't even know your dead, and the world just goes on without you. Unless there is a Heaven which I really hope there is! But I'm cared I'm gonna go to hell. I have sinned quite a bit and I need to stop.

I'm also scared of being buried alive =(

Answer 8

Not so much of being dead, but the way I go. Will I know Im dying? will I be under a bus tomorrow, or asleep in my bed aged 110? How much will it hurt? Who will look after my family (even though theyre grown up). But mostly what I fear is that maybe Ill be aware of how much Im missing - even simple things like snow and chatting on buses, and the little things that make your day.

Answer 9

Yes, there are many gruesome ways a human can die, we are truly frail material beings. Although, with most of the gory ends people can face, you will be dead before you feel anything, so it is not too much to worry about. And even if you are conscious during your demise, it will be over eventually, and your mind can be at peace with that.

Answer 10

let me start buy saying that you dont know how NORMAL you are this is a thought that we all have and yet again the emotion that resides with this thought is one of fear every one
bar none have a fear for the unknown its normal! how we display/react to this emotion is different however its the same the world over i too am terrified of death but i know that its the only guarantee that i have in life so live life to the full cay sara sara!!!hope this helped:)