Its not fair I don't understand this at all .
If men want to see nude dancers on a regular basis ,why don't they just get married to that type of woman?
2007-11-09 09:04:43 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a husband married over 20yrs, all my enter-
tainment comes from my wife so I do not need
to waste time and money going to strip clubs and
other joints, other men may feel differently but
this man and dedicated husband is a home body
to my wife and whenever I go out I go out with her.
2007-11-09 13:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need a reality check on what nude dancers are really about.
For one thing, many nude dancers are ALREADY married with kids. Obviously you've never talked to one, but if you did, you would discover that they are human too, with human lives. But they are paid to present a fantasy image at a club.
You could ask the same thing about ANY profession...if you want to see clothed dancers on a regular basis, why not marry one? If you like to watch stage productions, why not marry an actor? If you like shows like CSI, why not marry a real crime investigator?
Plus, nude dancers offer at a club what they don't offer at home. While that type of atmosphere is spicy, it doesn't form the meat of a marriage. And how many people do you know that want to actually take their work home with them? Do you think a chef, for instance, wants to go home every night and prepare gourmet meals for his family the way he does at the restaurant he slaves through all day? Do you think a person who works at Starbucks wants nothing more than to go home and keep making coffee every day?
Now this is not to say, of course, that using your paid skills at home to please your mate isn't OK once in a while. A nude dancer might give her husband one of her "special dances" in the bedroom once in a while, or a chef might make a gourmet meal to celebrate some nice occasion.
But watching the nude dancer at a cabaret is like the candy of a diet. It's fun to indulge once in a while in the name of fantasy and fun, but not something you could constantly live on. These dancers, while they work, are models playing a part, just like the characters you see in any stage or theater production. They are not "real" in that role outside of their job, nor do they usually want to be looked at as such. And because people like you make so many bad assumptions about them, they catch a lot of unfair flak when really all they are trying to do is make ends meet and pay their bills.
It is NOT a sexual thing for them, and clubs will usually have strict rules defining allowable socializations between dancers and customers.
2007-11-09 09:18:57 · answer #2 · answered by Vangorn2000 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think it's silly to assume and question your husband whether or not he has cheated on you just because he likes to watch women get naked. It's like you don't trust him and it gives you low self esteem about yourself. Men like to look regardless where they are at. It's the trust you have in them. You said you found out, now I am going to assume that he kept it a secret and has been going to those places without your knowledge? Probably why you are feeling a bit insecure, makes sense it is normal to feel that way. Maybe he goes there way too often and spend way too much money that is bothering you?
2016-05-28 23:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by karin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't want to see that all the time- just once and a while. If we saw them all the time they would not be exotic, and therefore, not erotic. There is nothing wrong with a little fantasy here and there....as long as he is home at the end of the night with the one that really matters, a dance here and there is harmless. Besides, who wants to by the ice cream truck when theyre giving the popsicles out for free?!!?
2007-11-09 09:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A man wants to LOOK at women like that, and be turned on by women like that...but it's not the kind of woman to whom he wants to be married. Completely different wants. It's kind of like how a lot of women are attracted to "bad boys", but would never MARRY a bad boy...she wants the leatherclad rebel without a cause in bed...but she wants the necktie-wearing accountant as a husband.
2007-11-09 09:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by War Games AM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because its in our nature to want to see women naked. Also when you been married a long time for some reason the sex becomes less and less, so men have to feel like they are still wanted, and a good lap dance sometimes takes care of that. Hey if you dont want your husband going to cabarets put out more!
2007-11-09 09:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Julio R 1 · 2⤊ 2⤋
im a dancer i know y,its bcause going 2 a nudy bar is harmless they c some titties throw a couple bucks and that was the thrill of the day,its not a big deal ...let it go,its just fun everyones gotta make a living some how,we dont love them and they dont love us we get money they c some ***,that doesnt mean men dont love thier wives they do.its not a big deal ,atleast i dont think so
2007-11-09 10:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by kim27 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Someone's driving the "bitter bus", aren't they??
So he goes to a titty bar...as long as he's not boinking the strippers, I don't see what the problem is. Is he spending too much money there?? As long as he comes home to you...does it really matter that much where he spends his recreational time??
Just tell him he can look at the menu all he wants, but he better wait till he gets home to eat!!
2007-11-09 09:18:37 · answer #8 · answered by Ms. GTO 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Those kinds of women usually do not make good wives. They are good for one thing and one thing only, and it's not companionship.
2007-11-09 09:14:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
so are you really asking a question here or venting?
2007-11-09 09:11:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jake44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋