she gets abused by her mom...verbally and physically..i promised i wont tell anyone. anyway, i guess thats why shes so shy. lately, shes been getting on my nerves. she copies how i wear, how i do my hair, how i talk, where i go, etc. i feel bad for her but its getting on my nerves. she wont understand if i tell her. what do i do? im always making wrong friends:(
2007-11-09 09:03:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Your friend sounds like she has low self esteem, from all the abuse she is getting, I understand you're quite annoyed by her, but maybe you're the only person she has. You're not making the wrong friends. Is she a nice person to be around? (besides the fact she copies you.) If she is mean, selfish and rude then don't be friends with her, however your friend doesn't sound like that kind of person. Give her another chance. And please report the domestic violence your friend is going through each day. It doesn't matter what your friend says. You HAVE to report this, it is a serious matter. Tell your friend to go to the school counselor.
I wish you and your friend the best of luck :)
2007-11-09 09:18:38 · answer #1 · answered by Grumpy Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a hard situation to be in...
First of all, if she's being abused, it's important that you do tell someone...if there's a trusted adult in your life (your parents, aunt/uncle, sibling, teacher, clergy-person, counselor, coach, etc). tell them. They will be able to help your friend get the help she needs. It can be really tough when someone asks you to keep a promise because it can feel bad to break it. At the same time, if someone is being abused, that's not something you want to hide.
As far as her bothering you...when you hang out with her, are you with other people? Do you have a group of friends that she is a part of as well? Or do you have a group of friends she's not a part of? Maybe you can introduce her to some of your other friends, or other people you are friendly with. She may hang out with you all the time because she's too shy to meet other people. If you take the steps to help her find other people, she may be around you less and allow you to take your identity back. :-)
Whatever you do, good luck! This sounds like a tricky situation.
2007-11-09 17:12:35 · answer #2 · answered by judithsr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that because her mom is not someone she can look up to, she's looking to you as her role model. Her "grating on your nerves" is her cry for help! If you attend a church, talk to your pastor/youth pastor about it, or your school councilor, or your own parents. Most of all, you need to pray for your friend and be there for her. This is when true friendship is tested: when you're sick of each other! Hang in there, and know that it will all sort out in the end.
God bless you, and your friend!
2007-11-09 17:38:54 · answer #3 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it.But right now you are and very well can be the thing that makes or breaks this person.You have to share this persons problem with a trusted person to save them.All to often do we see things go wrong for people crying out for help!!This is a chance for you and anyone else to become true live SUPERHEROES to another.And believe the rewards for something like that are without words!! Don't give up on her yet!
2007-11-09 17:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Alex I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said imitation is the truest form of flattery. In her mind you are her lifeline to a stable world as it should be and not the world she has to live in. Maybe as a friend you could put her in touch with a crisis hot line so she could have a professional to talk to instead of clinging to you so hard. I know it is annoying to you, but maybe you are all she has.
Added thought: You must be a strong person and a good friend for her to feel safe enough to confide in you. Thank you for being there for her.
2007-11-09 17:11:33 · answer #5 · answered by Shelley C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your school councilor.
You can keep u'r friends name a secrete until u trust the school councilor. U wanna talk about how to help u'r shadow & how to pick friends in a more positive way.
2007-11-09 17:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't know what to say about her, other then she doesn't know herself..
All I know if she doesn't like there, there is help.
Also, If she sixteen and prove she could support herself, emancipation could work.
That all I could think of right now.
Hopes this helps.
2007-11-09 17:21:32 · answer #7 · answered by Doesntstayinvegas.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋