how can i become more confident?

Question

Hi, i am a single child born and live with my parents, i haven't have that many friends almost near zero. I blame this on my shyness/social anxiety and lack of confidence. I have graduated with a great degree and excellent gpa and all, i should be pursuing great companies and live a normal life as people do, BUT this social anxiety factor is preventing me from doing all these things and anxiety is keep growing. I wanna live a normal life and have healthy relationships be liked. I for some reason cannot come out of my shell with new people. I just dont have anything interesting to say at social events, i just keep quiet so i dont look ridiculous. I have lots of opinion but i just cant able to express them in right way and feel i get misunderstood a lot by people, i am a positive thinker and dont drink do drugs or any negative things and i really wanna change things and help people, anyone has any advice for me, i will appreciate any feedback or experiences that u share.

well thx for input u all. chemical imbalance? i doubt it, its just my hesitation i think or fear of being judged wrong. Anyhow some good advice indeed but practically, the fear part is roadblock. I think living most of ur life alone has contributed to me being quiet and unable to open to a setting where everyone is laughing n joking n having a blast. I feel like the creature in book "Frankstein by Mary Shelley " who loved people but only observe and not participate with humans and in end because of being misunderstood, he went on rampage n start revenging all humans. Haha, hey im not gonna do that for sure but all this anxiety and lonely is just making feel horrible. But thx anyhow for the input u guys giving its meaningful, its something real, i hope u all dont have to go through it.

Answer 1

Try some volunteer work, like at a hospital or something like that, where there is no pressure and you get to meet all kinds of different people, and start going to one of your local churches. Don't ignore your spiritual side, I believe in the Bible, read the gospel of John in the New testament and some of the Psalms. It will help lift your spirits up, remember, Jesus loves you, and he wants whats best for you, and his love is unconditional!!

Answer 2

There is a good chance you have chemical imbalance in your brain. Some social anxiety disorders are very manageable via medication..Paxil perhaps. You may want to talk to a Dr. about this, you are obviously bright and have had personal successes so the anxiety doesn't seem to have the earmarks of run of the mill shyness, or low self esteem, especially if you are saying you are a positive thinker and then you are saying you have nothing interesting to say but are well educated.

Answer 3

The underlying fear that drives your lack of self-confidence which drives your shyness which drives your social anxiety is something only you can locate and heal. Basically, you have to get to the root of the fear.

As for a job and social situations; practice interviewing skills and practice being in social situations. Try to find ways to meet and interact with people in smaller groups or one to one: Social events and parties are not for everyone.

Answer 4

omg. your me, only not. well, and im only 15. because of my anxiety problem, its led to alot of other, negative things and choices, which eventually led me to getting medication for my depression and anxiety. if depression isnt a problem... and like if you havent had touble with like the law, drugs, or other social problems that could have led you up to talk to someone about medication, you can call any counseling office, or presciber, adn theyll be happy to help, its their job?

Answer 5

Try a sport or a hobby. Find something your good at. Try having a conversation with yourself in the mirror.

Answer 6

definite.in case you prefer to be optimistic, then you definitely first ought to examine to act optimistic - that's the bridge between desirous to be optimistic and actual being optimistic. that's fairly annoying to bypass without delay from desirous to be optimistic to actual being optimistic; it is the style of extensive loop. consequently the intermediate step is to act as while you're optimistic, in a feeling to fake you're once you at the instant are not, like an actor on a level. in case you act such as you're optimistic, convincingly, then you definitely will locate every physique is lots greater probably to handle you as while you're optimistic, and as a result, you will make the transformation from performing optimistic to actual being optimistic!