ok... here is the problem.... lately my roommate is being weird.. extremely weird... he has a history of drug abuse.... and here and there we (because we are 4 people in the house) found him pass out drunk and drug out..... well. .. he pulls this **** every now and then (at least 4 times a year or more)
yesterday, he got mad with his girlfriend because she put money to pay the water bill (by the way cause of them they were going to cut the water... we are sick of putting the money ahead and get paid 3 weeks later.. i am not a bank!) he claimed needed money, which his girlfriend confess to me later on, saying that she does not know for what he needed money (at leas $140) .Last night around 2 am we hear him getting inside the car, and he did not came back until at least 4 am.... weird, fishy.
Today he call my BF asking him to borrow money ($130) what??? claiming that he will pay us tomorrow. First of all they still owed me $50 for the water bill (cause they were short)
2007-11-09 08:05:22 · 8 answers · asked by :) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
second he does not gave him at least a good exuse for the money... why would I give $130, risk my finance situation and maybe you do drugs with it???? most likely is that.
what you think?
2007-11-09 08:06:29 · update #1
sorry for the misspelling I am on a hurry.,..
2007-11-09 08:08:45 · update #2
have you hear something call: Rent Contract or lease agreement????
2007-11-09 08:12:19 · update #3
Well they are behind on bills and whatnot, not to mention you know he drinks and does drugs - perhaps he fell in bad with a dealer (?) asked him to front him something, said he'd pay him back and when it came down to it, he didn't have the money. He didn't want things to go bad (and you know how that can be..) and so he's asking for money from you guys..
There's a theoretical situation for you. Odds are it does have to do with drugs. What part of town do you live in? Is it a poor/ghetto/high crime type area? If not, I'd say you need to get rid of this guy. He is only bad news. Unless he gets help for this, I can only see things getting worse. He'll continue to borrow money - claiming he'll "pay it back" tomorrow and never does. Give him x-amount of time to get his act together and if he can't in that amount of time, or refuses, kick him to the curb and/or show him to someone/somewhere who can help him (i.e. a clinic). If you enable this behavior in him, he will only continue to take advantage of your generosity. Take control of the situation before it gets out of hand and you have to take him to small claims court for the extensive amount of money you're owed.
If he's on the lease, let him know that once the lease is up he can pack his bags if he doesn't attempt to make a change. Don't lend him any money for his bad habit/addiction.
BTW: don't most lease agreements have some sort of clause that states if one tenant doesn't keep up their end of the bargain (since you all signed the contract) that they can be kicked out? I don't think it would be fair to be stuck with someone who couldn't pay their own way and yet have everyone else be on time in paying the bills. Perhaps you should speak with your landlord/-lady.
2007-11-09 08:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by iammai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course he want the money for drugs. I wouldn't give him a dime just to put you guys behind on the bills. When you guys get put out, is he gonna worry about you having a place to stay? No, He can go to a half way house while you all be on the streets. I know this is rude but you might have to let him find another place to stay because you have to think about you. If the cops or the landlord were to bust in your place and find drugs, all of you would be in trouble.
2007-11-09 16:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you could financially make it with out this guy living in your household, then speak to his girlfriend to let her know what your intentions might be as far as kicking him out. beleive me I have been thru this type of situation before and its not worth the risk. I lost alot of money due to this. Best of luck to you.
2007-11-09 16:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by BamaFan 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are risking your financial situation by continuing to be roommates with this guy. you are not a bank, so don't loan him money, again. you'll need to make sure that all your bills are current until you move. good luck.
2007-11-09 16:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by ProudM 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one should be giving this guy money until he decides to get his life in order. Otherwise, you may as well be throwing the money in the garbage.
2007-11-09 16:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Might be time for new housemates, or a new house and new housemates all together. There are responsible people out there.......Best of luck....Finn.
2007-11-09 16:10:13 · answer #6 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself why you would live with these people. Your situation is your own fault. You could choose to not live with them.
2007-11-09 16:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by marystoy_2000 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dah, yeah!!
2007-11-09 16:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋