should i leave her alone for good?

Question

me and my bestfriend has been friends for 7 long years and im 13 but me and her been through thick and thin from boys to drama from getting caught skipping school i love her as a sister cause she always been there and know my whole family but she also is a back stabber and starts shyt .but this my question should i be mad at her and stop talking to her cause she told this boy i use to talk to ex girlfriend that i dont like that i had sex with him its true but its my business and this not her first time talking too much now my uncle and auntie knows and why im by their house i cant go anywhere and everbody look at me bad.....im heartbroken and mad cause im going through alot right now and it seems like i cant trust nobody.

im young and i know i shouldnt be having sex but im mature and responsibile about the descisions i make it just hurt because its my sex life not everbody and they mamas but yes my mom knows im having sex but im bveing careful and having sex with 1 person not everybody just cause im young dont mean im dumb

Answer 1

13 is a tough age. As much as it will hurt, you are better off without her. She is not acting like "friend". She will only keep hurting you.

Save your friendship and love for people who are deserving and will return it to you.

*hugs*

Answer 2

there are so many things wrong in this overshare that leads to your question...
anyway, as far as the actual question goes, you are 13- I really think it is an age/girl thing that your friend did that, I don't think she did it because she hates you. Even sisters tell shyt to other people sometime, to create drama. Sounds to me like you just plain need to monitor some of the stuff you tell people- even your best friend. Another thing is at least what she said was true and not a lie. If it were a lie than I'd say she was trying to start shyt- but you say it's true so own up to what you do. Yeah, so it wasn't her business to say anything... I guess you should take this experience as a lesson learned and not tell anyone something you wouldn't want everyone to know... even if you feel you trust her with your life- sometimes dramatic things come out. I am sure you have and/or will do it to her sometime too. As you both grow older together you will have such a bond you won't have these problems- don't throw away a life long friendship over something like that--- again, if it were a lie that would be another story. If you are going to start acting like an adult, that quit whining like a baby. Own up to your actions and quit telling people the stuff you don't want someone to know!

Answer 3

First, and most importantly, you shouldn't be having sex at 13. Your "friend" did you a favor and your aunt and uncle are concerned, obviously. You mention you are going through a tough time, I bet. You are making life changing decisions, and not good ones. Tell your "friend' to get lost, talk to your aunt and uncle about getting involved with a new set of people, church youth groups are great but there are many young peoples' organizations that will offer you friends who are interested in getting somewhere good. Stop having sex and start getting good grades. I don't care how much people tear you down, you have to break away from the mess you are making

Answer 4

There is a difference between "friends" and "associates". You may have been cool for years, but this does not guarantee a REAL friendship. If she was your true friend, she would know better than to tell something as personal as that to ANYONE, let alone the boy's ex-girlfriend. If its not the first time she's done something like this chances are it wont be the last. I say you talk to her about the situation, and from her response you'll know whether to keep her as a friend or be done with it.

Answer 5

Well sweetheart if people are looking at you funny it's because you are ONLY 13 and are having sex. That is awful, sad and really quite concerning. Does your mom know?

And if she is a back stabber then why do you need to ask if you should be friends with her? Time does not matter what matters is the quality of your friendship.

Answer 6

First of all you are much to young to be doin the grown up!!! But besides that, you're young and that's what young girls do, they gossip. They don't care who they hurt! It sucks and I've been there but if your friend is truly your bestfriend you need to talk to her. Sit her down and let her know that that shyt is not cool wit you and give her another shot! If she messes up again then I think it's time you move on. Besides, you guys are growing up together. Your friendship may have just run it's course! You might have just grown apart! It happens!

Answer 7

Better 4 u to let go now
I'm 37 and just the past year found out how bad my "best" friend has been to me over the years. We met when I was 15.
She won't stop & chances are she'll get even worse. Imagine the heartbreak at this age (it's not any easier).
You'll get through this, past it & make some new friends.

Answer 8

Depends whether when she talked about your relationship she did it to be bitchy or stir up trouble or because she was just gossiping. Perhaps she didn't realise that it would upset you so much. If not then you need to tell her how wrong she was to say anything, give her a chance to apologise and then try to forgive her. If she knew that you would be upset then she is a lousy friend and it is time to find someone more loyal.

Answer 9

Dang gurl that doesnt sound like a true friend and not even a friend, Gurl ive been threw the same thing.Does she still like want to talk to you and be friends with you?
if she is then i would try to talk to her about it and if its hard then call her and talk to her. Thats what i did.=] And me and that gurl arnt really friends anymore but we still say hi.I wouldnt trust her to be my friend again and i dont think you should either. That was your bizz. not everyone elses expeshally ur uncle aunts!!!iight get back at me..=]
peace.

Answer 10

If there isnt any trust....then there is no reason to be friends. You shouldnt have to worry about telling something to a best friend, and they turn around and blab it all over the place. Thats not what real friends do.