i turned 16 last week and im still at school and i fancy a boy in my class. yes, im gay. he came round my house and we started kissing. we then started having anal sex in my bed which lead to oral sex. i feel as though ive done something wrong considering i was 15 years old last week. we've organised to do it again next week at his place but i'm having second thoughts. i really like him though
2007-11-09 07:14:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You feel guilty because you feel that people shouldn't start having sex until 16? Well if that is your viewpoint I can see why you'd feel you'd done something wrong. It's like when someone walks into a liquor store to buy alcohol a week after they've turned 21. It's usually obvious that this person was drinking underage. Don't feel guilty though. 16 is the age of consent. I guess a bigger question would be how hold is this guy? If he's in your class then I'm assuming he's between 15 and 17.
2007-11-09 07:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by Roswell 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hello Dale,
Although I am a heterosexual myself, I hope you are happy that I try to answer your question.
Be prepared though as you may have some very unhelpful and offensive replies from a few other subscribers.
It is likely to be that you are feeling guilty for being homosexual.
The fact that you maybe 'gay' is not your fault and you should not blame yourself for it. It is simply the way you are. This does not need to affect the way you live your life.
However you have been a little thoughtless and broken the law inasmuch that you had full sex before you were 16 years old, the legal age for consulting adults to have sex in the UK, irrespective of their sexual orientation.
If the young man you had sex with was also under 16, or if he was over 16, he has also broken the law and if you intend to do it again and he is still not 16, I must advise you against it until he is 16 as you can both get into serious trouble.
If your friend is and was already 16 at the time, as it was only a few days before your 16th birthday and although technically you have both broken the law, I would tend to keep it to myself. What is the point of possibly spoiling two young lives because of a few days.
My other advice is not to indulge in casual sex without protection. We all know the dangers associated with this. Also not to have sex with anyone under 16.
I hope this has been of help to you.
Poseidon
2007-11-09 07:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Poseidon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel guilty because you're still young to have anal sex and oral sex. And having a second thought is good,so if you really wanna have sex again,you might consider it.If you go for it,you'll feel guiltier again.And that feelings sucks.
2007-11-09 18:25:59 · answer #3 · answered by Desiree Mu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal sex THEN oral sex? Dude, that's yucky!
If you're both the same age and both turned on by each other, and you use protection and keep the door closed, then go for it. You don't need our permission. It didn't go from wrong to right in a week's time, just because you had a birthday in the middle (heck of a present there, laddie!).
2007-11-09 07:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Why do you feel like you've done something wrong? Because gay sex is wrong or is it just that your having sex and that's about all you're doing with this guy? My suggestion is to do more things with him other then sex. Get to know him. Don't revolve your life around sex.
2007-11-09 07:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Second thoughts and guild afterward are completely normal. After the passion has worn off... that's when we have time to think about the things we've done, and for all of the years of homophobic information we've been hearing to rear it's ugly head. I'd say... play safe... and follow your heart.
2007-11-09 09:28:51 · answer #6 · answered by dutchboydvh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kept you. I was having regular gay sex when I was 13 twice a week. Went on for 5 years until I met my wife. It was great.
2007-11-09 09:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by Maid Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are having second thoughts, then maybe you are not completely comfortable with doing it. I would suggest that maybe you and this guy chat. Maybe he is just as confused! Ask him how he feels etc. I would say make sure you feel completely comfortable with this guy before you both do anything sexual again.
2007-11-09 07:34:52 · answer #8 · answered by Eva K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your instinct
You obviously feel that what you did was wrong
Get yourself a nice girl friend and see how that feels!
2007-11-12 03:35:29 · answer #9 · answered by StretfordEnder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you did wrong was a** to mouth, dude! But, hey, whatever gets you there!
2007-11-09 07:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋