If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you are with.?

Question

What does this mean to you?

Thanks Amy G, that is what I also feel.
Love your avatar, I pinched your picture.

Answer 1

It is interesting to think of this subject from different points of view: My husband is Japanese. His grandparents are an arranged marriage. And they love, respect and show deep affection for each other. Yet many of the younger generation married for "love" and divorced in anger. Why?

Love is a word with an often subjective interpretation that is often over shadowed by its romantic/sensual connotation. But love is not lust, it is love. (though in the song who knows ...) For me, to love does not mean to be physically intimate, or even romantic. It is love. It is to enjoy, care for and respect who we are with. To live to the fullest and highest possible understanding I/You are capable of within the human potential.

To love focuses one of the deepest most sacred nature of existence and what differentiates our possible evolution from, what seem to be those of other animals. It is the reflection of the higher intellectual/emotional potential of humans. -Though some animals do seem to have some of these traits to -

all the best

Answer 2

To be in love doesn't depend on our wish, it just happens. Not in love doesn't mean to be alone, we can and we must develop good relationships and feel good. I was 29, dating and having lots of fun, with lots of girls, I was happy, but I knew in my heart, that I really wouldn't get married with none of them. Suddenly I met a girl, and at the moment I look at her green eyes, I felt immediately: that's my tween soul. A huge power began moving me toward her. It was a battle, I was dating a girl, that I broke up,and I began from zero to try to be near her, but I did after several months trying, and now we're married for several years and very happy ( two kids ). Today I feel that what happened to us doesn't happen to everybody. And this is not bad, it's something natural. If I had never met her, I would be single and still happy, because there are several ways to build a life. What I can say is, if not really in love, don't get married, be happy, but single. I think living with someone we don't love is simple unbearable. It's nice to be with someone, but if you don't really love, don't push too hard and too serious. What make things easier about the other you think you love, and you can't be with him, is that it's not possible to love someone, if he doesn't love you, for too long. That's a strong signal that he wasn't the right one for you. Time can show it.
Go ahead the way you are, but don't close your heart for a true, intense and new love, it can happen.
Thank you.

Answer 3

I think it goes hand in hand with:

"You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes you just might find you get what you need."

It's all chalked up to be happy and grateful with what you DO have in life, be it love, a car, a family, etc. and don't get hung up on what you DON'T have in life. Sometimes we just get lucky and what we think we want and what we think we need we actually get and need. Or maybe they both really do mean sleep with random strangers, which would almost fit in with the Beatles and the Rolling Stones lifestyles. But that does seem crude, even from the Stones.

Answer 4

If you can't be making out with the one you make love with, making out to make love with whomever is justified by "love," according to the songster.

As making love is intimately dynamically related to one's inner sense, those who go about making careless love tend to confuse their inner sense, cover it over, until they are clueless as to who they are, "when the dust settles."

Instead, a synthetic "party person" arises, a kind of "social-ism," strutting and fretting upon the world stage, signifying nothing but infantile childishness and anger when its wants are not gratified.

Truly loving implies more than this, including a mutual commitment toward increasing awareness via love and respect, even in the economic field of holding a home and earning a living.

You might enjoy "Sexual Force or the Winged Dragon," O. M. Aivanhov, "Men in White Apparel," Ann Ree Colton, "Soul Mates and Twin Flames," Elizabeth Clare Prophet, "Autobiography of a Yogi," Yogananda, http://www.yogananda-srf.org "Expecting Adam," Martha Beck, "Gandhi, the Man: The Story of His Transformation," Eknath Easwaran, Ph.D., http://www.easwaran.org Life before Life," Jim Tucker, M.D., and "When Invisible Children Sing," Dr. Huang, as teaching love.

cordially,

j.

Answer 5

I think that love takes work... and if you fall for someone else, but are in a committed relationship, you should make the effort to bring love back into the relationship... that we need to control our emotions instead of letting our emotions control us... (easier said than done...)

Don't dwell on what can't be - focus on what you do have and count your blessings.

Or it could mean that it is up to each of us to make the best out of any situation we are in...

Answer 6

Definitely..

You have to look back why you can't be with the one you love, or even at that, the reason why you didn't do(or can't do) to be with the one you love..it could have required more than a whole life of sacrifice but you chose to 'can't be with the one you love'. in this manner, it can't be really love.

i have been there and done that.. i would have done something to be with him even for a little moment of our time, but hey, i also need to be with him in full pride- that woulkd be for the reason that he loved me-but it was just all a guessing game, and seek obscurely and you shall find clues- sort of kind of situation, so i decided, it wasn't love. I don't think about him now, so i only know it wasn't love. for love never dies. for the dreams i had about him, it was just de ja vu sort of, and it wasn;t love
sorry for ranting.. i just can't help but to imagine in a shallow depth of importance, that he is still trying to shroud my mind with deceit.

Answer 7

sometimes love does not always work out the way we imagine it to, but that does not mean we should give up on the idea of love, maybe you cannot be with the person you are passionatly in love with but you can find a deeper content if you open up your heart to the person who is with you, a person who you can really trust it may not be as intense but you will find something deep and truthfull.

Answer 8

It means that sometimes we can't be with the one we love whether it be because we are married or they are married, or maybe they passed away or just don't love us back. We should not dwell on that and make our lives misserable and be depressed. We need to move on and love the one we are with and make the most of what we have.

Answer 9

It is a quote which in its original context meant love the partner you are with even if they aren't your ideal, don't hang around waiting for perfection. It's an old hippie ideal.

"And if you cant be with the one you love
Love the one your with
Don't be angry
Don't be sad
Don't sit cryin' for good times you had
There's a girl right next to you
And she's waiting for something to do"

Answer 10

I've aways taken it to mean that if you can't be with someone that you love, you should open your heart and mind to the person you are with . Because if everybody did that, there would be a pervading atmosphere of harmony everywhere. I suppose it could also mean if your lover isn't available, make love to someone else, but that just seems trite and crude.