When I first stopped sex I was thinking about it very often, now I never think about, and I dont even want to have it. Is this normal for a 22 year old?
2007-11-09 05:55:33 · 48 answers · asked by Leslie R 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Most definitely. Your hormones are starting to taper and you'll go through a phase where sex just isn't that interesting.
Don't worry though, once you hit about 32 or 33 your hormones will surge and sex is all you'll think about. HAHA!!
2007-11-09 05:59:48 · answer #1 · answered by Chick-A- Deedle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty it probably has a lot to do with a situation. You said it hasn't been a year - did something happen that made you stop? A long term bf that broke up? Or a bad incident? Regardless, it could be caused by such an incident.
If absolutely nothing happened, and the sex was great, and you just simply don't want to anymore, then maybe you just aren't into sex all that much. Or maybe not right now at this time in your life. What mainly is important is how you feel about it. If it bothers you, then perhaps you should talk to a professional about it. Otherwise, perhaps it is best just to 'go with the flow.' If someone out there reawakens your desire, then so be it.
2007-11-09 06:01:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is normal. Your body's hormones change about every 7 years. So your lack of interest in sex may simply be caused by this. This happens to many women, especially after pregnancy, menopause, etc... anytime your hormone levels change. You may discover that you only desire sex while you are ovulating. Again, this is because of hormones.
If you are genuinely concerned that you may have a problem you can have your hormone levels checked by a doctor. They may prescribe hormone replacement drugs to balance out your hormones.
Outside factors can also determine how much you feel like having sex. Do you have a lot of stress, busy schedule, other things on your mind? Maybe you simply haven't found a person who arrouses you, or your relationship is missing "something"... happiness, security, etc...
I've seen many women who don't enjoy sex, or have no desire for sex, until after they have found "Mr. Right". Once they are married to their "perfect man" everything changes and they become a sex goddess! ;) Which is totally understandable... since they are now in a secure relationship with someone they love, and who loves them back. They are no longer inhibited or worried about trust, commitment, etc.
I wouldn't be too worried about it. There is a saying that goes, "Everything in its own time". When its time... whether it is finding Mr. Right, or you're less distracted by outside factors... I'm sure you will get that desire for sex back.
When that time comes, enjoy! ;) Until then, focus on other important things... spending time with friends, family, doing something you've always wanted to try, or traveling... whatever your heart desires to do now!
2007-11-09 06:32:02 · answer #3 · answered by .·:*RENE*:·. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on why you stopped having sex in the first place, but that should not be discussed in such a public forum. But, yes, in a way it's normal. Everyone, even the most sexually active people, have "dry spells", times when they aren't interested in sex. But, if you feel this is a problem or not normal, I would advise seeing either your family doctor, or your OB/GYN for some advise and maybe a few basic tests just to make sure there isn't something wrong.
2007-11-09 06:00:07 · answer #4 · answered by iceprincess_12_04 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
'Normal' what is normal? everyone of us is different. i didn't have sex for over 2 years and yes at first i kept thinking about sex, then after a while i stopped thinking about it. As far as not wanting it is concerned, well, i think that you will meet someone and suddenly either he or you will start thinking about sex. what you don't have you won't miss, but you will have it back and if i am anything to go by then you will probably enjoy it an awful lot more after your period of going without. take care and good luck.
2007-11-09 06:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends. If you don't have a serious relationship, I guess for a woman it is OK not to have sex present in her mind. If you do have a boyfriend, than it is not OK, since sex is a fundamental part of love and intimacy.
Once you have a steady partner I am sure this will thrill you again and you will become sexually active.
On the other hand if you do have a partner, than maybe you have depression or issues with him.
good luck and I hope you will feel sexual again soon...
2007-11-09 06:00:26 · answer #6 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I took a "break" for a while after a really bad break up in college - I thought about sex constantly for about two or three months... then it became less & less of a priority in my life as I concentrated on other things.
Eventually, yes - I just about stopped thinking about it altogether. (I later started up again & was boinking like a mad-man for quite a few years when I got back "into the game")
Hard to say if it's "normal" or not - but I don't think it's uncommon.
2007-11-09 06:00:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, women are able to let their sexual appetites "go dormant" without problems. If we compare ourselves to other primates, the males roam around and look for females to couple with, then move on. Females, on the other hand, form small groups and raise their children together - and it can be a while between males. So men are driven to seek out women for sexual activity but women have always had an off switch - if there is no one around to attract your interest, you lose interest until someone else comes by and ,wakes up your libido. Feeling weird about it? Try reading some romance novels or fanasize about someone or service yourself now and then to keep things closer to the surface, but unless you are seeking that distraction, it will just affect your current focus.
2007-11-09 06:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by Amy R 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perfectly normal. I'm 26 now, and I went through that, too.
It is normal for a woman to go through periods where she doesn't really care much about sex. She can take it or leave it. At other times, it is normal to want it so bad you think you are going to scream. It's just hormones.
2007-11-09 06:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by Yup Yup Yuppers 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just consider it a blessing that you aren't being controlled by desires you don't need to deal with in your life right now...its perfectly okay and in fact a healthier lifestyle NOT to be out having sex anyway! good job!
now later on down the road if you are in a long term relationship and have your other half there all the time and still don't get to where you want it, then you might want to find out if you have a hormonal imbalance or something. but when that time comes i'm sure you'll be ready and "in the mood" so to speak.
2007-11-09 05:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋