what do you do if you have the desire to leave where you stay & build a fresh start far away, but feel stuck?

Question

by the circumstances your in?

i want to emigrate from the uk, ( britain) - leave and build a new life elsewhere, far away..outside europe. somewhere hot and sunny, near a beach, then once there find a good job...get a secure stable home and find a loving partner..completely start afresh.

but my circumstances are i have borderline personality disorder...im 30 years old.....have had long term mental health problems and no doubt a record....ive suffered greatly and never achieved anything in my life.
dropped out of high school through bullying, never gained any qualifications...never been employed...never made any friends or had a girlfriend.
i live alone in a one bedroom flat waiting to start psychotherapy...i live on social security...have no savings.....dont own much material wealth except a computer.

so im severly worried and panicking how i will i achieve my goals, dreams...im at a big disadvantage in life & i want to leave tommorrow, my minds set. i want it to come now.

i wanna leave tommorrow, get this new life i long for
and fantasize about.
but because of my circumstances i feel stuck here forever.
in the UK.
in a one bedroom flat on welfare forever.

can anyone help or help give me a positive perspective
on this situation?

Answer 1

One of the symptoms of borderline personality disorder is that you do not think through decisions and the outcomes of your actions. You also have trouble sticking with something and making long term commitments. This is not to put you down but just typical of your illness. You have a wonderful fantasy dream of a perfect life in a tropical destination but its not reality right now. At this point you need to be receiving therapy and taking medication. You can be successful in life but it will require effort on your part.

Answer 2

first i want to say , i'm happy u are taking an action , u are finally going to do it and live somewhere else , now that a good start. u can still do it , no matter if u have disabity or not. u are so close to have a good life , don't let something or someone ruin it. just do it

Answer 3

Anything is possible my friend, the best way to predict youre future is to create it. and the best way to improve tomorrow is to know what you did wrong today, You go for it, and don't worry about anyone Else's dreams or opinions, as every minute spent thinking about them is another minute lost achieving yours.

Answer 4

just wing it stop thinking about it n just do it dont let urself say what if.... n tell urself this is how its gonna be im gonna get a job im gonna get a home and im gonna get a great girl and never doubt it or say i hope always say i will u have to make things happen and then they will

Answer 5

nope.. you will feel that in America too. Just will make things worse. Some people like you and I are just born loosers

Answer 6

You sound stupid. I don't think you would have even needed to tell us that you have a mental problem. Why don't you change your diet to change your life. Ginkgo biloba has been helpful. I believe it works, because I tried it.