With my daughter, 6 years ago...I had the worst hospital experience ever. I had a c-section which went fine and a wonderful labor and delivery nurse. After that, things went completely downhill. The rest of my nurses during that day and night were horrible, rude and NEVER came to my room...even when I pused the nurse button. At 10 at night they moved me out of the maturnity ward and into a "Women's crisis unit", which had NO heat on in March. They basically brought me in there with my baby, put me on the bed and never came back...despite me pushing the nurse button over a dozen times. My family ended up coming back up to the hospital DEMANDING some answers, and the next morning, they moved me back to the Maturnity ward and treated me fine. The things is...when asking why I was even moved to being with, they claimed they "needed" that room for other mothers, which ended up being a complete lie. I was 19 then and I am 26 now. How can I make this experience different from the last?
2007-11-09 04:13:33 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I forgot to add: Unfortunately I am going back to the same hospital and am very familiar with the place. I am just wondering if I should speak out NOW that I am not to be moved and not going to put up with any crap, or just wait and see how they treat me. I feel that I was so young before and that is why they were like that. I want to believe that this time around, they won't try anything stupid.
2007-11-09 04:32:03 · update #1
All hospitals have patient advocates. Have a family member seek one out if you have problems. Keep track of what nurses you like and which you don't like(and why)and make sure to put something in writing. Talk over your concerns with your doctor in advance so he/she can take steps to make this experience better.
Good luck, I hope you have a better experience this time.
2007-11-09 04:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a different hospital this time for one thing (if you can)! There is a shortage of nursing staff so you cannot expect for one to come the minute you press the button but you should have one see you in a reasonable amount of time (say 10 minutes). I know they are busy and overworked but it is no excuse to be rude to you. Hopefully this time you will not have that same experience. Also, you have had a baby before, so likely you will not be needing their assistance as much this time anyway. Sounds to me like the last time really was an awful experience and perhaps they took advantage of you because you were so young and felt they could get away with it.
2007-11-09 04:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many hospitals offer expectant mothers a chance to come in and tour the maternity ward, giving them the chance to meet the nurses who would (should) be taking care of you during your stay. I would recomment finding out if the hospital you will be going to offers this, and if so take advantage of it. Do not be afraid to ask questions, and demand answers. It may be completely against your normal human nature, but you may have to turn into "that B---H in delivery room 2."
2007-11-09 04:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might have been because of your age.My friend just had to be induced because her baby had so many problems (it would not have been fair to carry it to term). She was at Mount Sinai in Toronto, and is 18. Most of the nurses were complete @sses to her and me. I even had a nurse tell me not to end up like her (and I was....5 weeks pregnant at the time?)
Have you considered a midwife? I've never had good experiences at hospitals which is why I am going with a midwife. I still haven't decided where to have it though...
2007-11-09 04:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by Ri B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry you had a bad exprnc. Consider using a Doula
2007-11-12 05:46:14 · answer #5 · answered by ilovebirthnbabies 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have a friend or family member stay with you at all times. That person can stand up for you when you are vulnerable. That is what I do when i am in the hospital. Nurses and doctors sometimes don't listen to patients as much as they should but they will listen to whoever you have with you. I know I have been in a similar situation. Take care!
2007-11-09 05:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by Starsfan14 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you having another c-section or a vbac? If you're having a vbac consider going to a small Birth Center or contacting a midwife. If you need another c-section then I'd definitely go to a different hospital. Ask for a tour or talk to the doctor and tell them what happened with your first baby.
2007-11-12 02:33:04 · answer #7 · answered by Due March 9th, 2010 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people like to take advantage of people who are you because they feel like it. Well I am 20 and if I see any of that bullcrap happening, I will start acting like a B*%ch. Don't go back to that hospital. Be nice but don't give them the impression that they can walk over you and when you to find out something don't ask like it's ok not to answer, let them no that you are serious. After having a child, you don't not need all that crap to spoil your moment. Enjoy it girl and show them who's boss.
2007-11-09 04:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Grant N 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is really your decision and I can understand why you are nervous about attempting a VBAC. Speak to your doctor and listen to his advice and when you have all the facts you and your partner will be able to make an informed decision. It's not your MILs decision and really, she should keep out of it unless asked, midwife or not. Good luck, I am sure you will make the best decision for you and your baby.
2016-05-28 22:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be a BIT*H if they try something like that again. Tell them that you are, under no circumstances, moving to another unit after your baby is born due to what happened to you last time.
2007-11-09 04:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋