My friend is an anime geek! How do I help her?

Question

let's pretend, for argument's sake, that it DOES debilitate her life, at least in a social sense.

Answer 1

*YIKES LONG ANSWER. Just a warning ^^;*

...ouch. I'm an 'anime geek' myself, as you kindly put it. It does chunk away at most of my hard-earned money, and dominates the conversation topic if I were to start one, and technically does affect my 'social life' and literally owns my life...
But calling that a disability is a bit harsh. =/ If she's crazy into it/like I am/, maybe introduce her to other things that you'd prefer her to be into? o___O If you're that desperate to change a person, tell her about a band you like or get her into some other shows or lend her different movies. If it's because she has posters of anime everywhere -coughcoughme-, maybe while you're going shopping you can point out some cute non-anime ones, or get her some other stuff that can occupy space/a place in her mind, for her birthday or something.
All in all, liking something isn't a crime... just because you're not crazy for anime doesn't mean you need to 'help' someone who is ^^; As soon as I start talking about anything anime, loads of people come join me. I've never been told I needed help before so this is a bit awkward... ^^;
But yeah, just influencing is the best way. It's how I get people into anime... I guess you can also use it to get people out of it! xD But honestly, anime isn't a problem, if it's because she just keeps talking about it and it bothers you, kindly ask her to tone it down. If it's because she wears extravagant clothing or has reaaally funky 'anime hair' -coughcoughdiesofcoughing-, tell her that it might attract too much negative attention or something. You can also flat-out tell her that you have a problem with her hobbies. =) I don't see how you'd want to change a friend since you're supposed to like them for who they are... but yeah ^^;

Well, since your question is kind of vague, I hope I covered at least some things. I'm also typing this really fast since I'm squeezing this in before I start watching some -coughanime...- videos, sooo yeah. Good luck =)

Answer 2

To be honest, the most you can help her is to leave her alone. If you can't accept her for who she is and what she likes, you're not a very good friend. Maybe it does keep her from going out and being social, but if she's happy, who cares? Some people like to stay home and watch anime, some people like to go out and party or go to other social events. There's nothing you can do about it.

Answer 3

I find it very sad but amusing that you put this in the 'People with Disabilities' category.

Unless it's affecting her life (to the point she is putting a second mortgage on her house in order to afford a rare Cowboy Bebop print), leave her alone. It's good that she found something she enjoys so much. Just because it's not "cool" to you doesn't mean you have the right to change her into something you find "cooler".

Answer 4

I think, perhaps, you don't quite understand the meaning of "disability." A disability involves not being able to function normally in one's day to day life without certain help. People in wheelchairs, blind people, intellectual disabled people, people with emotional problems, etc., have disabilities. People who enjoy a genre of entertainment that you don't care for do not have disabilities.

If your friend likes anime, nothing will get her to stop liking it. People like what they like. Just accept her for how she is and watch a couple of animes with her. You might decide you like them, too.

Answer 5

Geek = disabled? Is that how you ended up posting here. Even YA is ableist.

Anime is harmless - leave her be. There are far worse things in life to worry about.

Answer 6

Sorry that is not a legitimate disability. She needs to get a life and you need to help her find a support group because if anything that might qualify as in illness.

Answer 7

Do you really in terms to help her, what ever category you may put on her, in instant she will become better than you at least in status and capacity, do you like to know how? But do you assure you are willing to give it come what may? Because you are bother of something you are suppose to give respect.

Dare, you what to help? Ok get ready with a signed papers (in six copies, all signed original above your name) indicating your full name, address, and all available bank accounts, placements or bonds, and it not so complete, your duly signed endorsed lot title and house certificate of ownerships, duly endorsed.

Are you ready, by this no turning back, by the way, have underneath two witnesses duly signed with names indicated below and put the date and place where that 6 original papers duly signed as witnessed. Hey attached original all indicated documents (titles, bank accounts, certificates)

Give it to your friend AN ANIME GEEK, in my presence and I will indicate as your DEED OF DONATIONS IN FAVOR OF YOUR ANIME GEEK FRIEND IN ALL THE 6 ORIG DULY SIGNED AND WITNESSED BLANK PAPERS, AND i HAVE WITH ME, MY FRIEND LAYWER, A NOTARY PUBLIC TO ACKNOWLEDGED IT.

Don't worry, just a total of one million dollar worth shall be your deed of donation to your friend, and any excess shall the return to you as her good friend sworn commitment, but in case of balance to complete the amount of 1 million $ deed of donation, you shall in no more than 30 days sworn in as part of your willfull signed documents to complete in behalf of your friend; and in the event you can't settle it in 30 days, such balance shall become a cash debt payable in 12 months with an accumulating interest of 3 percent per annum as a benevolent gratitude by your friend to your help you are so worried to resolve so very soon.

Go now execute the deeds.....?????? hehehee what ? you are deleting your Q? What for? I thought you are worried about your friend...oh you are now worried about yourself!!??

chicken.....

Answer 8

That's not a disability however if she's obsessive about it to the point that it's destroying her life than talk to her about it.