I used to think I never wanted to get married. Then I met my current boyfriend and suddenly I wanted the whole marriage kids white picket fence thing. Now I'm starting to question the whole concept of marriage again... and wondering why I changed my mind in the first place.
What about you, what are your thoughts on the subject of marriage?
2007-11-09 02:58:30 · 19 answers · asked by Linz VT•AM 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
I am divorced and remarried.
I think you will know when it is right. . . I have been blessed with a new love that can not compare to any love I have ever known.
For me the decision to get married again wasn't too tough once I met my hubby now.
2007-11-09 03:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by sparkles9 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always assumed that I would be married with a couple kids by now. (I'm 27.) You know, the whole married, 2.5 kids, a dog & a white picket fence. Well... I have 1 of the kids, the dog & the house with the picket fence.
Right now I'm pretty happy with the way my life is. I suppose someday if the right guy came along I would still like to get married, although the big fancy church wedding is less and less important. I guess more than anything I'd just like a partner, someone to share the household responsibilities.
2007-11-09 03:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jess 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Currently, no. I don't really want the whole marriage package.
In the future, maybe. But I'd like to think that it wouldn't be something that I did just because people expect serious relationships to lead to marriage. (And not because it's sensible what with the tax benefits or comfort/stability, etc.) I would only want to get married if I seriously couldn't imagine my life without the other person. And if the feeling was reciprocated.
2007-11-09 03:05:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been divorced for over 10 years. I've had a few little "flings" here and there but really nothing to write home about. I would like to get married I suppose. I long for the companionship and the closeness of a male. I guess the only thing I worry about is living together because I've been alone for so long.
2007-11-09 03:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by ShrunkenFro™ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I ever get a divorce, I don't think I would ever remarry. Not because he is just so great (don't get me started) but because I been there done that. It would take someone pretty damn special for me to EVER get remarried.
Marriage is important on some levels. It protects your kids and your legal rights. It is a commitment of the highest order if for no other reason then the legal commitment. I think you need that in some respects. But it's not for everyone.
2007-11-09 03:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by ~Heathen Princess~ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, I'm married, but....after my first marriage, I was totally opposed to remarrying... I was terribly hurt and had decided that if THAT's what marriage is all about, I wanted no part of it.
When I met my current husband, well, my world turned... I knew immediately that this was someone I wanted to share my life with. We have so much in common that with him life is fun and I finally know what it's like to have a true partner. Now, I can't imagine my life without him and know he feels the same. He doesn't complete me because alone I'm perfectly fine, but together we are so much stronger and better... If everyone waitied until they found what I have, the divorce rate would be considerably lower!!!!
Marriage for me is about having an equal partner - someone who can share in my ups and downs...can comfort me when I'm hurting...and leans to me when he is. Someone I can build my life with and together we are working towards common goals...
I'm not opposed to just living together in committed relationships - I know several people who have done that very successfully - but for me that wouldn't work - my decree states that I can't "shack up" with anyone...
And honey, if you are offering - I'd marry ya... course, that would be illegal... *wink*
2007-11-09 03:05:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I used to want to get married very badly... but when I did, it wasn't all it was cracked up to be. Now I don't care if I ever date another man again. But if and I say IF someone came along that was worthy I'd remarry only after knowing him for a real long time. That was my mistake before, I rushed in too quickly.
2007-11-09 03:05:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kiwi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have learned alot from being married. I was against it from the begining but I relucently got married because my boyfriend and father of my children was going into the military and if I wanted to go with him, we would have to be married.
Then the bastard cheeted on me and left me. There were alot of things I could have done to make things better. Silent anger and resentment are 2 things that can destroy a marriage.
2007-11-09 03:23:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was married. I liked it... right up until the point when my "husband" started making mountains out of molehills because he wanted out, and then I caught him showering in OUR shower with one of our "friends" (someone younger, taller, thinner and blonder, by the way).
This doesn't destroy the concept of marriage for me, though. Just my perception of HIM.
If I find a great person, I'll remarry. I won't expect everyone to be so vile as him. Marriage was great when it worked. Even when it hit the "rocky parts", it was, in MY eyes at least, still working. Not so for him. Next time I'll make sure to find someone who takes "through the good times and the bad" SERIOUSLY.
2007-11-09 03:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by ZER0 C00L ••AM••VT•• 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
i think everyone wants to get married at some point in their lives....i think the ones who do not have had a very bad relationship at some point and do not care to go thru something like that again...what they don't realize is that they may end up guarding their hearts, but they are hurting the other person as well.....
i think marriage is great for some but not for all
2007-11-09 03:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋