My husband still has every toy he's ever owned, played with, or bought, iam talking from his infancy until he was too old to have them.
It doesnt matter how broken, how old, how worn, or in how many pieces theyre in, or how many pieces are missing. He will NOTget rid of ANY of them.
Dont get me wrong, these are NOT collectable items, theyre dollar store trinkets, or very VERY broken and used toys. The only thing he has that might have been worth something are some original JI Joes (which are literally missing limbs and clothing) and the star wars toys (which are broken and missing pieces).
Every time we move or clean he comes across another box, he wont get rid of ANYTHING, not even little marbles or the wheels that are broken off match box cars. Our barn, our back room, and his parents attack are all FULL of boxes of his crap.
On top of the toys, he REFUSES to get rid of the clothes he had in highschool. He was still wearing them when we met (he was 25).
Is this normal?
2007-11-09 01:54:56 · 12 answers · asked by amosunknown 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Parents attic... lol, not attack. Although Iam sure they could attack...
2007-11-09 01:55:59 · update #1
There's something missing from his life. It's not normal. My husband hangs on to things too but his mother left him and his siblings when they were very young and he had a pretty rough childhood. I however nipped it in the bud when we were moving in together. I packed up everything on garbage day while he was at work and sent them on their merry way!
2007-11-09 02:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Does he go up to the attic and play with his stuff? If so, then he needs some serious help, if not, who cares? It's not in your attic! Let his parents deal with that crap. My boyfriend keeps everything, he is a pack rat, and I toss everything. So if I see something broken and it has been sitting around for more than 3 months untouched, I toss it out. I figure you got 3-6 months to use something, if you haven't looked at it let alone touched it in that time than it is being tossed out!
GOOD LUCK!
Oh, I just read that he has that crap in your house too! Get rid of it. Tell him the Salvation Army is coming to pick it up, needy kids need it more than him. And the clothes too! Pick the least tattered ones to keep, like 3-5, then get rid of the rest. Stop living in the past!
2007-11-09 02:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, this most definitely is not normal. It's one thing to be nostalgic and another to be STUCK in the past and clinging to the remnants of it. Is he depressed at all? Is his present day life as happy as he perceives his times with those toys/clothes to be? Sounds like he is overly attached to these trinkets because he's afraid to let go and move forward somehow. Perhaps he should seek counseling to help him to detach from these objects and declutter.
2007-11-10 06:23:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, no, I would have to say I do not think this is normal. How long have you guys been married? Is there something that happened to him that could make him attach to, not necessarily his toys, but something from his childhood? Or just toss them one day (maybe keep some that have special memories or maybe in great shape) and force him to deal with the issue. He can always get new 'toys'!
2007-11-09 08:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Missy the Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 23:18:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not normal at all. Sounds like he is a pack rat and possibly has some sort of OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder).
Maybe try and start small with him......say something like, "Let's at least get rid of this'....
Good luck!!!!
I have my own OCD.....as soon as I am not using something, I get rid of it. I can't stand to keep anything that I'm not going to use or need :)
2007-11-09 02:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by Blue-eyed Stranger 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Time to declutter. Take the toys to the dump, and have them ground up for the landfill or burned. Make sure your husband sees the toys destroyed so he can move on with his life.
2007-11-12 21:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by Lori Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds a little strange to me, but i guess i am not that sentimental...did he not have much as a child (from the sounds of it thats not the case hehe)...or maybe he had such good memories of growing up that the toys and stuff trigger the memories...or my last thought is that he has some sort of hording going on...eitherway...maybe you could weed a box a year..this way he won't notice their gone and then you can get some of your space back.....better yet maybe his parents will help you and just trow them away and then they could be the bad guys...eitherway good luck !
2007-11-09 07:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by tara t 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm No.. its time to get rid of them. Its pack rat mentality. He needs to let them go.. A few cherished or very personal ones is ok. Keeping them all is just wrong. My father was a pack rat and when he passed away it took two 30 yard dumpsters to get rid of all the junk and I mean JUNK. There truck loads of useful things we gave away. So get him to let go tell him its time to move on
2007-11-09 02:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
It is sad that his parents didn't see this problem when he was younger, it's called HOARDING and it wont just go away he needs profesional help it will get to the point where you can't walk thru your house,it's already affecting your marriage or you woudn't be asking if what your husband does is normal, it's not. God bless you and your family and good luck!
2007-11-09 02:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by juju 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋