2007-11-09 01:48:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I have been through what you are going through. It isn't an easy situation.
The best advice I can offer is what we die. I have 2 beautiful daughters. They are the best of friends, and we love them dearly. I have never for one minute regretted adoption. Almost all the crap you hear on TV about "mystical bonds" between a child and birth parents is just that. Some of the stuff I see on TV like that really upsets me.
I AM my kids Dad. I fixed toys, taught them to ride bikes, went to ER's with broken arms, I coached more softball games than any major league manager.
As far as telling them about the adoption, it has been no secret in our family. You are blonde, left handed and adopted. so what.
That is my opinion.
2007-11-09 02:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jay L 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 son but I was 34 when I finally got pregnant. I had always dreamed of having children. I got pregnant a couple of times before but miscarried in the first trimester. By the time I was in my thirties and still did not have a good husband or children I quit dreaming and resigned myself to the fact that I might end up without children, but I still said a prayer everyday and thanked God for the children I hoped to have one day. All my friends had kids and some of them did not even really want them but here I was wanting them and not getting them yet. It seemed unfair and I felt an empty place sometimes. I was not jealous of other people who had children because I did not want their children I wanted my own. Why should everyone not have anything just because I hadn't gotten it yet. I was happy for others when they had a happy family . I feel so blessed to have my one son now. I always wanted at least a couple of children but having the one son blessed my heart so much that I feel satisfied.
2007-11-09 10:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, it sucks. I see people all the time who do not want children or should not have children getting pregnant left and right. I don't believe it is fair at all. I have been trying for over a year now with absolutely no luck. My husband and I want a baby of our own so bad that it hurts. I see baby clothes or toys and I cry. The hardest part is watching all my friends getting pregnant and having babies while I still cannot. I refuse to give up though- I just keep trying. I quit smoking and started loosing weight to try and help myself, I have Polycystic Ovary Syndrome and I was told these steps could help. I'm trying to conceive without fetility treatments but if all else fails I will try them too.
2007-11-09 10:02:31 · answer #3 · answered by justneedingsomehelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conceiving a child is something I seemingly have no power over. I have lost three pregnancy's and due to an ectopic I have only one fallopian tube now. That makes it 50% harder to conceive in any given month. My husband also has a balanced translocation of his 15th and 22nd chromosomes which predisposes me to early miscarriages if the embryo has the same translocation but unbalanced. I have been blessed with two children, they are an absolute miracle to me. We had tried for over 4 years before becoming pregnant and then we lost the first two pregnancy's before being blessed with my daughter. My children are now 3 and 2. We have been ttc blessing #3 for over 6 months to no avail. But I have faith and I pray to be able to stand strong and accept God's will. Thankfully conceiving is not an all consuming issue now. I believe it will happen when it is meant to. Stay strong, have faith and know that it is never hopeless :)
2007-11-09 10:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been trying for 2 years with no luck - we are in the 20% that has drs baffeled. At this point in my life (26 yrs old) I am ok with it, I have other goals set for the future so that my future is not set on having children in my life. I refuse to obsess about it (I've seen what that can do to a person emotionally). We have been given the option of trying artificial insemination - but that decision will be made when I'm closer to the age of 30.
2007-11-09 09:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by lippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...i was married for 4 years (im 26)...we tried all 4 years to get pregnant...after crying many many nights and days...we went to a fertility doc. only to find out it wasnt him..it was me...my tubes were terribly scarred from an ovary infection when i was 18, and full of fluid...i had surgery to try and fix this, but the scarring was too bad and the doc said we more than likely wouldnt have children on our own.
Thank GOD she didnt say we wouldnt be able to have them at all...(this small part keeps me going)
well after the surgery she told us we would have to do Invitro to concieve...
This is a VERY expensive process-$7,000 for the actual process and then $3,000 for the meds you have to take while pregnant, then its not garanteed to work at all!
well my husband wasnt ready for this and told me we should wait for a while...
well at this point i wanted this so badly...it helped ruin our marriage...it was already headed down hill...but this was detramental to me...
ive been divorced for abt 1yr and 1/2 now...
I often think about this and get extremely sad...ive been dating a super awesom uy for 1 year now...he has a daughter that just turned 6...shes beautiful!! and i love her as my own...but still not the same...i had a godson that i am very close with...i love children, hence the fact i want one so terribly...although i get discouraged alot when i think about everything in perspective...i know that GOD has a plan for me...and HIS timing is so perfect...and he gives us the desires of our hearts...he knows what i desire the most and he also knows when ill be completly ready for it too...so ive chosen to put this burden on God...b/c thats what he told us to do...
2007-11-09 10:26:22 · answer #6 · answered by Amber R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's bad. It affects me every day. :(
I also know a recovering alcoholic who said it was the thing that drove her to drink.
It's so hard not being able to do the ONE thing that "women" are supposed to do (procreate). I mean that we can't do the thing that traditionally defines "woman" - bearing children.
2007-11-09 09:51:29 · answer #7 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married, you should probably adopt. If you are single also consider adoption.
In my opinion, you should never accept NO for an answer for something you really want. Good luck!
2007-11-09 09:52:18 · answer #8 · answered by Q M 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
just accept it and try adoption.
2007-11-09 09:51:31 · answer #9 · answered by Ayo A 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋