can a person change his personality completely?

Question

can a person change his personality completely.is it possible like a talkative person becoming quiet person or a quiet person bcoming talkative.well i want to become quiet person.

Answer 1

Yes, you can change your personality completely.
But you can't do it all at once!
It is a gradual growing process.

Know that the personality is not you, rather it is who you were a moment ago. Our brain capabilities allow us to be self-conscious, meaning we have the ability to observe ourself. The greater your ability to observe yourself, the greater your ability to change your behavior out of the conditioned ways you behaved in the past. Being in the seat of observer gives you a detachment to 'who you were' and thus allows you to learn about yourself, why you are the way you are, what motivates you to be that way, etc. When you gain self-knowledge about yourself, then this gives you the weapon you need to change yourself. You can't change something until you become aware of what is the cause of the problem. Once you understand 'a problem', you have the knowledge about it and see the cause, then you can make a clear decision to do something different.

From what you write I think you are already on this path of self-change, you have made an astute and honest observation of yourself and not liking this aspect about yourself, you seek to make a change. Seeing oneself in an honest way is a big step, and one's willingness to keep wanting to see oneself honestly will keep you firmly on the road of success to change your personality. The larger your desire to see yourself honestly, the more you will become willing to listen to other's opinions of you, so as to get hints from them about what might be needing to be changed in oneself. I will tell you right now, that most people can't change their personality, because they simply do not want to see themselves honestly, they don't trust other people's viewpoints, they prefer their own limited and narrow viewpoints.

But the truth of this matter is that one can't only rely upon our own self-assessment and this is because all of us have a bias to see ourselves in the way that we WANT to see ourselves. Interactions with other people are extremely valuable in this regard, so watch & listen how people react to your expression and with an open desire to find out about hidden aspects of yourself you will learn a lot from them. But it takes a whole lot of humility on your part to realize that other people have something they can tell you about yourself and to be open to receive something which doesn't give your a feeling good confirmation... If you really want to change, get humble and ask all your close friends and family to give their honest opinions about you and ask them to be as frank as possible to tell you what they think might be problems with your attitudes, behaviors, etc....
This is hard to do, but if you do it, it will help you greatly.
This is a step of surrender, of realizing that one doesn't have all the answers and also that even if one is super intelligent there are other people, even simple beggars, who can always teach us something about ourselves - if we have eyes to see and ears to hear.

Awareness is the key. When you become aware you are talking too much - use this as a reminder to come back to observation - take a deep breath, recenter and then you will be quiet. The more you practise this, the quieter you will get. To develope your ability to stay in the driver's seat and not get lost in one's thinkings and feelings and react in an auto-pilot way - to be aware of how you are 'reacting' - the best way I know is to practise meditation daily. Make it a regular habit as each time you meditate you withdraw energy away from being the personality and will grow in awareness.

Betsy

Answer 2

Theoretically, yes.
But it takes a lot of self-teaching and inner motivation to achieve that. For example, I am a quiet person and in order to become a social guy, I practice an exercise I found on a website - talking to strangers. I have just started it, but I think it has helped me change. I think your case will be easy - just hold back when you feel like you are going to say something. Well, as I am not a talkative person, I don't know how difficult that's going to be.
Best of luck, buddy!

Answer 3

D: .... Yes. I believe so. :( in seventh grade, I was the bestest of bestest friends with this guy called Zach. We did everything together, really. He was outgoing and friendly, whereas I was Silly and rude. A few girls had surrounded me after school and kept telling me he had a huge crush on me. I didn't believe it of course, and I told them I didn't like him back, which was a complete lie, I had a crush on him too. Anyway, he seemed to never talk to me until just last week about FIVE years later. He slapped my butt and started making jokes about me getting laid by him. I couldn't even freaking believe how he changed so badly.... I knew he wasn't a virgin judging by the three virgin girls he took every week and by his high status at school, but I noticed how aggressive and rude he has been ever since we lost contact as being friends. His other friends are exactly like that too. It's those stupid people he's been around... I think people can very much influence you.

Answer 4

'Personality' is an illusion, created as part of the human condition and nature in its momentary state of evolution. Personality is like moving pictures projected to a screen. What you see seems to be real, people talking, fighting, suffering, enjoying, etc. But these are only lights and shadows on a flat and empty surface, although you see it in three dimensions and as real. It is just an illusion of reality. You can go into it, engage yourself, try to change something about the pictures you see. Or your personality is changed through dramatic and traumatic influences, turning you upside down. Whatever you do whatever happens to you, you are still caught in your illusionary picture world, so keeping and holding your 'personality'. Which of course is the most precious you have because you don't know anything else, as you are bound and limited to it and you are even defending it with all means. 'Personality' gives you the feeling of existence. You are getting your satisfaction and meaning of life out of it. As much as you explore and expanding it, you will still stay in your illusion, turning around and around yourself. Gaining power or becoming spiritual, you are in a cage created by yourself, imprisoned by yourself, being identified with your 'personality', no matter into which dimensions you might have changed, you are still stuck in your 'lousy personality'. You even might have the concept to go 'beyond your personality' but with this just going into a new more sophisticated dimension of illusion.
Is your question answered? Any question more coming out of this?
BeiYin

Answer 5

You may be able to change certain traits with persistance. This may take some time, depending on what it is.

I see no reason to completely change your personality though, all personalities have their pros and cons, and all are equally important in this world. :)

Or, you could do what I did when I was younger, if you have a personality disorder thingo like schizophrenia. I was a happy, confident person all my life, besides suffering from this condition, then one day went quiet and scared and have been like that ever since. I don't reccomend that route though...

Answer 6

Personality is essentially a trait or characteristic similar to one's physical attributes. But since it is a psychological construct, it is likely to grow or evolve over time, but not change completely. The only way it can be affected is in the case of brain damage or long term substance abuse. But other than that I don't think you can necessarily go from one personality type to another personality type since it comes with a whole package of traits that are likely to remain stable across one's life.

At the end of the day we are who we are.

Answer 7

Some people can change their personalities over time. They can reflect on what they are doing wrong that affects others and work to fix those bad traits. Most people, though, seem stuck in a pattern.

Answer 8

Completely no but for a talkative person to become quieter yes - but remember your friends love the way you are and rely on your ability to talk a lot so do you REALLY want to change it?

Answer 9

It's not possible to change your personality but I think in the case of being talkive, that's more like changing a habit... And it is possible to change habits. Try to think more about what other people say, instead of formulating a response and you will become a quieter person.

Answer 10

Personality is ever changing and evolving. What is hard to change is one's own "nature."