2007-11-08 23:55:22 · 58 answers · asked by lindsey t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it was a booty call
2007-11-09 00:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one woman to another, why did you allow him to have his way with you? This only add,s confusion to your already messed up head, ya see, when your going thru a divorce, some people need lots of time to mend and get their lives back on track, this is why its important for you to abstain from sex, especially with your soon to be ex, because from what I see, he sounds like he wants out, and sounds as if he has someone else on his mind other then you? You see most men dont leave their marriage unless they have a woman in the background, so Im guessing, somewhere he has a girl who he either wants, or has. Regarding the sex you had last night, dumb move! men will screw anything from a stuffed teddy bear to a hole in the wall, so dont take what happened to the heart, sorry Im just being a realist, I know men, I have 5 brothers and a husband, I know how these men work, so you were used for a booty call, plain and simple, just dont allow yourself to be fooled again. This is a man who is on his way out the door and wanted a little before he left, he got what he wanted and split, not a nice guy, so Im guessing your better off without him. Start living life, enjoy what you have and forget about what you dont have!
2007-11-09 00:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no also , because sex is just sex, it doesn't change what as happen in your lives to make you fall apart in the first place , you have to work on the problem that started it all .
sex is a special thing but it is also used to just please the body at that point and time .
i was getting a divorced and we tried to live together and we would have sex and we would try to be happy but some where in the 17 years and 6 kids later we had lost each other , we ended up being together 22 years and we finally went our own ways , we both have made new lives and we are friends now . but sex don't fix it .
2007-11-09 00:03:40 · answer #3 · answered by toni u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he said NO then he means NO and you need to put an end to the sleepovers. You do not need the mixed signals andyou do not need false hope stoping you from moving on with your life and starting over. This will just keep you stuck in the old ended relationship and keep making you feel as if there is a chance for the relationship to continue.
He is just using you dear. He has been married and he is used to having sex pretty much when he wants. With you he does not risk the bad sex history that could lead to STD's You do not have STD's so it is safe sex. He does not have to try to impress a new girl and start a new relationship and go out of his way to be nice or take her out, he just comes to you and has sex and leaves with no fuss and bother on his part. Bet he don't take you out to dinner first does he?
Stop the madness. It will only prolong your pain and delay you moving on to the new life that is waiting for you. Kick him out of your bed and keep him out of your bed. IF he says there is no hope for the relationship why is he coming back to torment you with mixed signals and false hope. YOu tell him to stay away if it is over than it is ALL OVER. do not let him use you.
2007-11-09 00:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-23 06:18:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ediva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IIt seems that you still have feelings for him because you are still hoping that you can get back together again. But based on his answer, it may only mean two things, eiher he was just using you sexually or he was still weighing things. Sometimes the action speaks louder than words. He may have said no and still in quandary. Just play it by ear. If you still want to have sex with him, why not , just enjoy it but there should be no pressure there. Just enjoy the sex with him, no string attached. Who knows. what the future holds........P.S. Apply the Law of Attraction,. Please read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. It will help you a lot.
2007-11-09 00:26:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex does not solve anything.[well not everything]When people split up they should not have sex together it only confuses the fact of why they seperated to begin with.Sex should be the last resort in fixing a relationships problem.He was just horny and all it did was give you hope at the wrong time.It played with your head didn't it?Remember why you split up.I mean his answere was no that should tell you something.
2007-11-09 00:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by lollypop 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are still hoping for him to come back, then be available when ever he wants. Hopefully there is more to the story than Sex. But all is fair in love and war! Good Luck!
2007-11-09 00:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by itsmetrea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably did it subconsciously, without thinking. We guys have a way of usually making it clear when we want it. He says he's not in love and has no feeling, and it seems to me you could take that to the bank. I really feel for you, but I wouldn't put much hope in a reconciliation. You should try to see other men but keep him convenient for the kids sake.
2016-03-18 00:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea. stay away from having sex with the x. it is good sex becouse you know each other. so you know what each other likes but not a good thing becouse it gives you false hope that there is still somthing there. so move on and get it from some one els. im shure there are lots of people ready to help out in that area. if not then there are other ways to get your rocks off. but stay away from the x unless you can handle shareing becouse if your divorced then he/or she can do who ever they wont to. i would be. LOL
2007-11-09 00:40:28 · answer #10 · answered by the wild child rock star 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! It sounds like he is just using you for sex at this point. While you may think that having sex with him will convince him to get back together with you to have another go at making your marriage work, he just sees you as an easy target for fulfilling his sexual needs.
He probably also sees you as safe sex - you've both been together for a while, so he feels like he doesn't have to worry about diseases & such.
If you're okay with having meaningless sex with him, go right ahead. Just make sure you understand that it will not change his mind about anything pertaining to your relationship - to him it's just an easy way to get off.
2007-11-09 00:02:32 · answer #11 · answered by Rue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋