My friend (she's in her 20s) is teaching English at an all boys school in Japan. It's a "richer" private school. She says some of the kids act like they own the world because they're rich and think they can get away with whatever they want (but for the most part, most students are good). Anyway, getting to my question. She's tall (5'8), Italian-American, long hair, "busty" (Pamela Anderson has nothing on her) and she's very beautiful. She says the few kids that are basically spoiled brats make "rude" (trying to be subtle if you catch my meaning) comments about her and her body. She's had notes left on her desk and obscene things written or drawn on the chalkboard. Sometimes (not often but it happens enough to bother her) they even go so far as to touch her. This is her first time teaching and she's not sure how to handle it because she doesn't think it's a good idea to accuse students with parents in high places (and she's probably right). So what can she do? Please post ideas. Thanks.
2007-11-08 22:28:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Japan
michinoku2001, what would be the big deal about her being a foreigner? Is it worse for a high class Japanese teen to make passes at his teacher because she's foreign? Just wondering.
2007-11-09 13:26:16 · update #1
Actually, I think the assumption about accusing kids with parents in high places should be reinvestigated.
It's just as likely that those people will be more willing to listen. Some people get to be where they are due to their attention to details such as their kids' behaviour. Some are likely highly disciplined and expect the same out of their children.
Also, there are some horrible public schools out there. I don't think it's an issue of it being a rich private school.
I'd say to not react to the majority of it, but when it's an obvious violation, to talk to the principal. It's totally unacceptable for a boy to be touching his teacher in any sort of sexual manner.
Chances are she'll have a much better idea of where to take it after a meeting with the principal.
Also, if she's working at that school, sent by a company, she should talk to someone in her company. She also has to make it clear that the boys' behaviour is wrong.
2007-11-09 22:47:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Japanese boys are very obnoxious. I know, because the boys (totally strangers) bother me on the trains and stuff. It gets to the point I just can't take it anymore, so I just get off the train and take the next one.
Any advices? Well, I think it's best if she goes to the head master and tell him/her. If they're 'touching' her, that's like harrassing. So that's obviously not a good thing. Those kids need to get something worse than a detention.
Good luck.
I had a friend who's brother hit his teacher (a lady). He got expelled and he's now going to a military school. And the school he went to before was a really good school; the tuition is very high and everything. Very strict school. Well he got expelled (he's from a very rich family) and now, it's a bit embarrassing, don't you think? Yah this happened in an international school in Japan.
2007-11-12 07:55:27 · answer #2 · answered by jasmine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the problem is she is in Japan, she should get thr hell out of there and go back home. Gaijin have few rights and complaining to the head master of the school probably won't help, unless he is Gaijin too.I lived in Japan for several years, indiviually, Japanese are some of the nicest people that I've ever met, but collectively, some of the rudest. They can also be quite biggoted. especially the rich. Your friend is in a no win situation. If she wants to keep the job, she should ignore the writings, drawings and so forth, the inappropriate touching is another problem. If she has any Japanese friends she should seek their advice.
2007-11-09 07:02:22 · answer #3 · answered by tequila lucky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are two solutions that I know will make for a change:
A-Have the offending student summoned to the teacher's room over the PA and then ask him what his major malfunction is one to one, in the context of the teacher's room. Even rich kids hate being singled out that way. The thing is the kid won't know it's the ekaiwa teacher summoning him so it's a long walk for him to that teacher's room, plus the whole school knows he's being called on the carpet. Once word gets out that messing with the gaijin means such a fate, the others are likely to fall into line.
B-Advise the rotten kids homeroom teacher of their behaviour. If she tells the principal he is just going to tell the homeroom teacher in any case. You can be assured that they do not grab their homeroom teacher by the ***, and that the homeroom teacher is likely to be mortified by their behaviour in your friend's class.
2007-11-09 07:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by michinoku2001 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
she should speak with the school head or director...
students in japan are really kind of rude that's why many students committed suicide because of the big brat bullies...
2007-11-11 06:04:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to report the students to the head master/principal. the ones that are touching her have no right to touch her. and by her allowing it, she is saying that it's ok.
she needs to go to her boss and if they want nothing to do with punishing the kids, then she needs to take legal action against the school and sexual harassment case against the students.
these kids need to learn that they CAN'T do whatever they want and their parents can't get them out of every situation.
2007-11-09 07:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by Doug K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
report matter to school head...if he or she does nothing sue the school or kindly ask for a reference letter and take your services elsewhere.
2007-11-09 06:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-11-09 06:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋