Last night i once again found out my husband is looking for sex on the internet!!!
He was found out before, he was ringing different girls for prob the whole time we were together.. while i was out on night shift...
once again i found he has been lookin at porn and for singles in our area...
what to do,
2007-11-08 21:43:00 · 43 answers · asked by Lola 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Pack your bags and leave him. This is dangerous for you. He is searching for something and he'll find it sooner or later. You might be the one to suffer with AIDS.
2007-11-08 22:26:01 · answer #1 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Set him up.
Put a fictious picture, name etc. and let him come and find you. Do you have a girlfriends house you can go to even if it's a saturday morning.
If he's still doing this, he'll jump on that computer as soon as you walk out the door. Maybe have your girlfriend pull up the site as soon as you leave so he can contact you, she can start the conversation.
Honestly, if you don't want to waste your time on the above, you'd better kick him out.
Take the modem with you when you work nights.
That will tick him off, but hey no more than hurting you from looking at porno and sex on the net.
I would make him leave, but the only reason I said to set him up was hold onto some information, maybe print it, copy and paste it for evidence. Threaten him divorce for adulty with it.
This is why I mentioned setting him up to leave and get him to pay you big time.
Good luck, he isn't worth it.
2007-11-08 22:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U love this guy right?! Its hard but leave him ASAP. You can do better than that. Dont let him give you the excuse " I was just looking" or "I was just curious", those lines are just bull.
Get your stuff and leave, get an envelope and put £20 in it and leave a note saying:
" heres your £20 for your cheap tarts, enjoy because I am worth a million of these!"
Leave and dont ever turn back sweetie, if you dont you will only get more heartache further down the line!
2007-11-08 22:22:53 · answer #3 · answered by lexi1509 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Put his stuff on the front lawn, change the locks and file for divorce. You can do all of that in the next 24 hours. Problem solved.
Your life will be so calm and pleasant when you no longer have to deal with the stress and emotional upheavals of his cheating.
Good luck x
2007-11-08 21:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The reason why he's doing this "again" is because you found out about it before and let him get away with it. So either continue living your life as a doormat and be walked all over or grow a spine, get up off the floor and kick his a*ss to the curb where it belongs.
2007-11-08 22:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
y stay and go through all that ,hes not even trying 2 hide the fact that he cheats,is this what u want ...someone u live with that wont respect u.what is wrong with u or is he always interested in new meat .4 me i would walk away from all of that mess depending on how bad things r , unless u love him so much that u dont mind staying with while he has a little treat on the side,this wont end 4 now, u must live in an amusement park bcause ur in 4 a ride, stay on or get off,oh and u cant change him if ur wondering ,he has 2 want 2 change on his own.good luck
2007-11-08 22:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by kim27 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once is a mistake, but more than twice? no excuse! He should have changed his way the first time.
A lot of married men look at porn, am not excusing it, but it is a fantasy and not emotional for them.
But to activly seek sex, and to be told it is innapropiate by your partner after being caught out, and still carry on shows a lack of respect to do it again!
Give him an ultimatum, and stick by it, if he does it again, then leave, and mean it....unless hes had enough chances already.
2007-11-08 21:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Me M 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If your husband needs to cheat and go find it somewhere else, then he doesn't love you and you are wasting your life with a jerk, not a man.
You could be with a real man and you could be so happy. If you are with a useless fool, you will only be miserable. It's really sad, but you have to file for divorce and move on. You will so glad you did. Good Luck
2007-11-08 22:43:31 · answer #8 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, what have you done so far to address this issue with him? If all you've done is 'notice' and not confronted him then that's the first thing you need to do. If you have confronted him - your question will have a totally different meaning. I suspect you have not done anything yet...so get doing something before you ask for some advice on what to do next.
2007-11-09 21:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by CountTheDays 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adopt a 'zero tolerance' attitude towards cheats/cheaters-&get rid of him. Not all men are like your husband, and i would have mandynjoseph know that a fair percentage of women are also cheats--you can't change ANY cheater, male OR female. Get rid of him, you will be much better off on your own.
2007-11-10 03:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating again? Why are you still there if you know that hes going to cheat. When you forgave him the first time to a cheater that's giving them permission to do it again. Divorce the loser and find you a real man who will appreciate you. You deserve better.
2007-11-08 22:07:11 · answer #11 · answered by deerlady2000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋