If you caught your partner cheating would you consider forgiving them?? Do you think people can change?? If you did take them back would you be able to trust them again??
2007-11-08 19:59:41 · 13 answers · asked by pixiegirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not the cheater!!
2007-11-08 20:07:20 · update #1
Did and have. They changed from an honest, caring, loving person to a cheater, so of course they can change back to being honest and caring and loving. It is a choice to cheat and it is a choice to not cheat.
Trust is given when you believe a person and if they are showing you they can be trusted, yes - trust can be regained.
There is a time for every season - no one said life or marriage would be 100% perfect - and when a problem such as cheating arises, this then when you can chose to either learn from it and continue on together as your love is that strong that no person or situation will break it up, or you can chose to think only of yourself and how it affected you and let go of the marriage. Did you ever think about the cheating spouse getting the sh** scared out them when they were found out and realizing what a horrible mistake they made? Easy for many to suggest divorce; harder to work through it and survive as victor, not a victim of infidelity. But anything worth having is worth fighting for - and if you are both fighting to keep your marriage, you will win the fight and overcome the infidelity.
2007-11-09 00:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been burned so many times that way that I would have to say no. But not everyone is the same. People cheat for different reason. Some are forever cheaters and others do it simply for attention they feel they're not getting in the relationship. Hope my answer helped a little.
2007-11-09 04:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving someone who have cheated on you despite the love and trust you have given him is such a difficult thing to do, yet you have to..you have to forgive him no matter how heavy is the feeling inside, 'cause if not, you might carry the same heavy burden all your life and you may never find peace again...yes, i think that people can change, that is why i encourage you to forgive..nevertheless,i still believe that forgiving your partner doesn't exactly mean you have to trust him again that easily..it takes process of course..
2007-11-09 04:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by jahzeel T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the age. in high school my bf cheated and we went on for 5 years after that with no major problems (that I knew of). At this age (30) I wouldn't think about staying for a SECOND. It's been done too much to me and I am fed up. It wouldn't be worth my energy and effort to forgive someone.
2007-11-09 04:08:10 · answer #4 · answered by laura1977 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry once a cheater always a cheater, a person can never build that trust up again, now you didn't say mean your partner cheated, did you cheat, doesn't matter either way who ever it was they will do it again
2007-11-09 04:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by please ask m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
do you realize you have answers from teenagers here. what the hell does a teenager know about life, mom and dad while youe kid plays with the computer move out hell they know more then you.
and yes people can change, as long as you change with them
why did your partner cheat? no sex from you? what made him or her cheat?
2007-11-09 06:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by badgirlsbadboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way. There is no way that I would trust him or take him back. It is my experience that people don't change, especially in these types of matter.
2007-11-09 04:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Highland 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've had this happen before, I forgave them but I figured that if I wasn't good enough the first time, why try it again.
2007-11-09 04:04:48 · answer #8 · answered by gergery t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i would take them back. people can change, but only if they honestly want to. & i wouldn't trust that he would want to change.. because if he knew he could cheat on me & get away with it, why would he ever wanna change?
2007-11-09 04:03:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
â¡Helloâ¡
Once a cheater, always a cheater..
But Yes o give hym another chance....
Maybe u misunderstood or maybe he would change for yew...
If he does it again..LEAVE HYM!!
2007-11-09 04:04:32 · answer #10 · answered by -BaByLiCiOuS- 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋