Me and my boyfriend ended our relationship of 4 and a half years about a week ago. I am stuck living with him until next month when I can afford to move out on my own. I know he still has hormones because he goes in the bedroom shuts the door and watches "movies". I still have hormones too, and I also still have deep feelings for him. I find myself still wanting to be intimate with him. The question is should I bring it up to him and ask if we can still be intimate together or do you think I will be setting myself up to get hurt emotionaly and be putting myself in a confusing situation. Or should I not sell myself short.
2007-11-08 19:36:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't put yourself through that. You know you still have feelings for him. He probably knows that too. Hell, he probably still has feelings left over too. The problem is that guys can separate their emotions from the physical act of sex while girls can't. You'll find yourself continuing to love him even though you know you shouldn't. It's all way too confusing and will end up just dragging things out much longer than they need to be. And in the end, you will still be broken up.
It's completely not worth it. Buy a vibrator. Go to a bar and find a random guy (use a condom!!!!). Use the shower head...whatever you have to do. Just don't have sex with your ex!
2007-11-08 19:44:21 · answer #1 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for you...Ending a 4.5 years of relationship is a really bad ending. Honestly, if you guys could have stick with each other for 4.5 years, yet still have the attraction for each other, I think you should try to go for it. Tell him about your intimate needs, and he'll fall into your arms again =)
Girl, if you continue to be like this, you'll only ruin yourself emotionally. Masturbating may help, but it only eases the physical part, not your spiritual self. It's either you move out today, or never. If you ever decide to go back to him (not only for intimacy purposes) then you should let him know, no point dragging it on. If you decide not to return to him, then you should move out, to prevent further emotional breakdown. Take care =)
2007-11-09 04:37:16 · answer #2 · answered by Peace =) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't. You will try and convice yourself that it's just physical and you won't get attached but WRONG. It's a bad bad very bad idea. Do you have any girlfriends that will let you crash at their place for a while??
2007-11-09 03:48:29 · answer #3 · answered by Amzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are disrespecting yourself. Why put yourself through the emotional turmoil? You deserve better. Use the shower massage and have fun!!!!
2007-11-09 03:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell yourself short. I think if you sleep with him again, you'll just be setting yourself up to be hurt emotionally.
2007-11-09 03:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by devine_secrets34 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 4.5 years, he owes you. The least he can do is make you holler before you move out.
2007-11-09 03:41:00 · answer #6 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋