My man is in 30s single professional.When teenager he was asked to leave home(unknown issues)with his parents lived with friends in same apt but we never met later he went abroad.When we met we were family friends for decades we talked over phone after met online.Its 5 years we are together friends & in love.Its long distance relationship.
Beginning he loved me so much treated me well took care of me through everything like op good bad happy sad times.While i made sure he wasnt in love for my looks by show other pictures & said no to make love before marriage.Hes in love with me i reciprocated falling deeply in love with him.But things changed after he got back from 1 year away.He didnt cheat affair another girl but he changed.My cousin flirted with him shes secretly married left blamed him for everything he said sorry told truth to me platonic never met her.Then he starts to listen to his friends & my cousin who tries to cause trouble between us.He calls me names.3 yrs later now
2007-11-08 18:49:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Recently he found out that my friends his friends are troublemakers.Now hes come to meet me where i went to take a break after saying he didnt to meet earlier saying he loves me committed we got married.He did realise my friends his friends are troublemakers.Hell never listen to others or call names or do anything like in past.My man loves me very much after we got married.Truth is everyone needs to be given second chance so i gave him out of love.Marriage worked for us but dating didnt work for us theres still bitter taste in my mouth about what happened when we were dating but everything changed for us after we got married.This man is a wonderful man who loves me very much & i love him very much.Just want to know the bitter taste in my mouth about what happened when we were dating since after marriage everything worked out for us we are in love.Please therapy or break up are not options.
2007-11-08 18:54:18 · update #1
We are all just humans. Marriage takes lots of work. There are no "happily ever afters". Selfish people shouldn't marry. Life isn't long enough. Forgiveness is the answer.
2007-11-08 19:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is an up side and a down side to everything you do.
It doesn't seem fair but love grows most in the heart of the most giving spouse.
You love people less for what they do for you, than you do for your own loving and giving investment in them!
The bible says the two become one. WE is the operative word.
Speaking of God, we are obligated to make the match successful, not just for each other, or your relatives, or even the children...you owe it all to Him!!!
Marriage is a partnership, like your arms cooperate together, love each other as yourself, and work together for the family's common good.
The only way of full knowledge lies in the act of love; this act transcends thought, it transcends words.
It is the daring plunge into the experience of union. Actions speak louder than words. What you DO trumps how you feel!
To love somebody is not just a strong feeling--it is a decision, it is a judgment, it is a promise.
If you ever lose that mushy feeling of love, just keep loving in actions and words, and your first love will return.
2007-11-08 19:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what has marriage taught me??
1 I am not good at it
2 I was not meant to be married but I am now.
3 I wish I could go back and start over and not F*&*^ my first marriage so I could be happy again.
4 unless you can look that other person in the eyes and ask your self this " can I live the rest of my life with this person?" AND say yes without hesitation even for a split second than do not marry them.
2007-11-08 18:56:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very much in love with your husband.
sometimes being in a marriage is easy sometimes very difficult. especially when other people butt in between the two of you.
if you have doubts about your relationship, ask yourself these questions:
1. do you grow as a person with your husband?
2. does he respect your time, person and personal choices?
3. does he have patience with you?
4. do you see yourself growing old with him?
5. are you ready to face anyone to defend your love?
6. can you go on loving him tirelessly without conditions?
7. does he respect your money?
8. does he beat you?
9. with all his faults and short comings do you still see a future together?
getting married and staying married are different as night and day. staying married is a CONSCIOUS choice, meaning everyday you commit yourself to your partner and your marriage.
i am married now for 9 years. my husband and i dated for a year and a half before tying the knot. sometimes separation (work overseas) can help, sometimes it doesnt. its all up to YOU.
good luck
2007-11-08 19:23:08 · answer #4 · answered by sc2zabala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great Question.
um for ONE its thought me to be " selfishless". and more giving or my time,money and love. I find now that i am married and my husband asks me to do something for him i am happy to do it i love that he needs me.
and TWO "Patience " I was spoiled and got my way for everything. i was the good one out of the 3 kids in my family so i was favored alot. and i have learned that the world doesnt revolve arround myself.
and i could go on and on but i wont.
Marriage has tought me alot, hapiness, Love Joy, Selfishness, Giving, ect. and Not one thing it has tought me s negitive. I have a wonderful husband, Marriage isnt always a bad thing. and since i have been married i have grown up ALOT!
2007-11-08 19:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Nolan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 23:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear dejavuci,
i suppose you want to know what marriage taught to others and compare it with what you have experienced. it is not only in marriage but living with somebody requires lot of patience. in marriage sex acts as a binding force. but the same problems come even if you are living with say brother or friend. what marriage has taught me is lot of patience and no expectation from your partner. because the moment you expect something it is likely that it will not be fulfilled and will give lot of heart burns. lot of tolerance is also is required.
i hope you will agree with me
Appa
2007-11-08 19:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by Appa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"What has MARRIAGE taught you?" That I was right BEFORE I got married...I wasn't cut out to BE married...
2007-11-08 21:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has tought me how to understand and be patient (still now...we're married for 2 years).
2007-11-08 19:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what marrage taught me was one thing . i was doing everything but found out she was cheating and divorced her in.2002. this is fact . my opion?
2007-11-08 19:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋