I know a 13 year old into sex,drugs & shoplifting should i help her?

Question

Shes also a porn addict n "hangs" with 16-19 year olds.I like her so much but i don't know if i should but in and help her before its to late and she gets in lots of trouble. & I can't tell her family becuse there dealing with her father dying from cancer.

she won't listen to any one most of the time(she will never se a shrink)

I'm her only REAL friend and her family don't give a damn about her and i want to help her, and two of the reasons i want her help her is i like her a lot & i want to get in her pants(what can i say, i'm a guy )

Answer 1

O.k. dude, you need to listen to me very carefully. I'm 19 y/o, my brother( J.J.,two years younger than me) died two weeks before his 13h birthday from battens disease( a very rare terminal illness), I was 15 and i woke up cuz I heard a noise, I opened my door and looked into my brothers room and saw him dead on the floor with my dad giving him cpr. I went through a stage where I was suicidal and I stoped caring about life but thanks to my dad,older cousin, and two older brothers I got through it. Your friend needs help wheather she wants it or not. First of all I have to say getting her arrested is the stupidest thing I read out of the other answers, that will only make things worse and she needs help not a record. Second of all, porn isnt really too bad as long as she's not trying to make her own or watching with boys or somthing. I mean she is too young and should not be watching it but any teenager with cable, satilite, or the internet in thier room after they hit puberty is bound to watch it occasionly(some more than others). Third of all, While her dad dyingof cancer dosent give her the rite to steal and do drugs and stuff, diferent people handle things like this in different ways. You have to figure, her dad is dying/dead(I could not tell which one you meant), she's only thirteen, picture whats going through her head.You need to talk to her about all of this and let her know that youre concerned about her and what shes doing to her self and the positions shes putting her self in, and you know what? To be truthfully honest, She probally wont want to listen to you, she'll probally get pissed at you, and you could possibly lose her as a friend, but with that said, would you rather be her friend and sit back and let her do this to her self? Or would you rather have her pissed at you but straighting out her life and having the possibility of fixing your friendship later on? If all else fails then telling her parents is definately what you need to do. I have ten younger brothers and sisters, counting the one that died, and my sister(Hilliary) who's 15 has battens as well as he did. my 14 y/o old sister ( Veronica,whom I'm very close to) shares a room with her and I know how much it hurt me when J.J. died and I know how much it's going to hurt me when Hilliary dies, and with Veronica sharing a room with Hilliary I know that she's being affected by it every day and if she was into all the stuff your friend is into because of that and you were her friend, I would want you telling me so I could help her and if you did not tell me and something happened to her and I found out you knew and didnt do any thing about it, I would probally want to beat the living **** out of you, you need to help her whether it affects youre friendship or not, you have to do whats rite for her.. even if it means losin her as a friend.

P.s. You may want to wait a while on trying to get in her pants, at least until all this is over- me being a guy, I definatly understand :b

Answer 2

That's hard to say. First off, the reason she acts so silly is b/c she faces all that problems at her house. Now, the thing is that if u try to help her she'll get mad about u. If she finds out it was u hu tried to help her, she'll even order some of her friends to hurt u. If I were u, I'd leave her, cz she won't ever stop taking drugs, etc. But u may also get into serious trouble. It's her life so leave her alone...

Answer 3

The best help you could give her would be to turn her in for stealing if she's with you. Or tell the police when she has drugs and she's with you. You can remain anonymous and the police, by law, can't tell her how they got their information. Some of the best lessons we learn in life are learned the hard way. You'll be doing her a favor in the long run, and who knows...You just might scare her straight! Good luck

Answer 4

I would anonymously tell a teacher you like or your school counselor. She definitely needs help... I wouldn't recommend you directly confronting her, but rather going to an adult. You'll feel better knowing that you at least tried to help her. You're in no position to hands-on tackle her problems. She obviously has a lot going on in her life that needs professional mending... It's such a shame :(

You're a good person for worrying and wanting to help.

Answer 5

She needs to be removed from that home and put into some kind of foster care situation where she can get straightened out. See if you can tap the system to get some help for her.
At least call ChildAdvocates.

If there is not an intervention, she will wind up sick from drusg/STDs, pregnant, and/or dead.

Answer 6

If you are her only REAL friend, you are going to need to be the one that gets through to her..

Talk with her about it, express your concern, and if everything goes well she'll listen.. In the chance she doesn't, seek professional assitance.

She mightn't like it now, but in the long run she'll than you.

Hope it all goes well.

Answer 7

u'll get accused of rape probably, keep away.

i hate people using this cancer bs as an excuse. tell her family. otherwise he'll be dying of cancer and they will have a pregnant addict on thier hands in jail for shoplifting. dopnt befriend her, or u will look bad tho.

and her daddys cancer is no reason for her to act this way

Answer 8

you must tell her folks. in doing this you will be helping your friend. you can't just not do nothing. why must 2 lives be gone?
i think you want to help, but just don't know how to go about it.
weather it be family or friends get between them and drugs anyway you can.
sorry about her father, but she can't use that for excuse. neither can you.

Answer 9

you definatly have to help her. get her to see a councilor so she can talk it all out and not get in trouble. or you can talk to her about her problems and get her to stop yourself. if nothing works, im sorry to say it, but you need to tell her mom! If you dont, she could die from drugs, get an illness/get pregnat, or get put in jail!

Answer 10

she may be acting like this because her father is dying...she can't control that, but she can control her own actions...talk to a teacher soon!!!!