It won't be the same without him here. I worry whether or not my grandparents (and the rest of my family for that matter) will be able to handle him being gone at Christmas. Any suggestions for making the holidays a little bit easier to deal with this year?
I know this isn't the right category to ask this question in, but I also know I'll get more answers here than anywhere else.
Thanks!!
2007-11-08 16:40:34 · 7 answers · asked by ncgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The best way is to carry on. You know it will not be the same but don't be afraid of it. Don't be afraid to talk about them. Most families will walk around on pins and needles even afraid to mention the dead persons name. There is no shame in missing someone and even crying about it BUT that doesn't ruin the festivities. You wipe your eyes smile and think about the good memories. Then you laugh and continue with the party. You can even have a toast to loved ones who have passed on. I miss my uncle greatly, along with my Mother, Dad and Mother-in-law. (I had one of the great ones ever!) We remember and we continue on with the living.
2007-11-08 17:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by baseballdad69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you already know its not going to be easy. The 1st birthday,and all the 1st holidays that pass are always the hardest...
do you have a big picture of your uncle ?? If not ask your mom or dad if they have one - or go get one enlarged and put it in a frame.You can set the picture on a table by the christmas tree,so that when everyone is opening presents,you can see his picture and know that he is watching over you.
or
if you have a big family dinner,put his picture on the table.so that everyone can see it. when everyone is together,you could all take turns sharing a fond memory of your uncle.
and add in some of the funny moments to ,so that its light hearted.
play some of his favorate music while opening gifts.
the best way to handle a passing is to talk,and by bringing out some of the good memories,everyone will be able to talk and remember him.
I hope this helps
2007-11-08 17:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife died last a year ago September. I made every effort to carry on with Holiday traditions. Had the kids over with the grand children for gift exchange and brunch (just like my wife used to do). Frankly, it was very tiring for me and rather depressing. I went and lay down in my bedroom and took a nap while everyone was still here. I think they understood.
This will be my 2nd Christmas without my wonderful wife. I am making plans for the family get together. Planning gifts for the grand-children is in the works. Mostly, it is mindless work for me. I only hope it will be easier this time around, and I am sure that it will be.
Don't put to many expectations on people. Let them grieve in their own ways. Take joy in the things that matter to you (my grand-children in my case). Good luck and God bless your family.
2007-11-08 17:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Randy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The holdiays simply won't be easy to deal with, because for a whole year, there's always they firs Christmas, birthday, Father's Day, football game, etc., etc. without him. The only thing you can do, I think, is to feel free now and then to say Oh, how Uncle Jim would have loved that. A real tension breaker is to notice something where you can say Oh, how Uncle Jim would have HATED that! He always be a part of everyone's lives, and time takes the edge off the pain and makes room for sweeter memories. Best of luck to all of you.
2007-11-08 16:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Still include your uncles memories here and there during the holidays. Show you family lots of extra love cause we aren't promised our next breath but it sounds as if you are super close to your family and have no problem showing your feelings for them. Just think of what your uncle would of wanted, He probably want to guys to remember him and laugh at some of the funny things he did...talk about that during the holidays. Sorry for your lost.
2007-11-08 17:10:33 · answer #5 · answered by bella s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem, my boss died about 3 weeks ago. I have to look into the sadness of his wifes face everyday. Don't be scared to talk about him, best is to keep his memory alive.
2007-11-08 17:16:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to talk about him, share memories. He's gone, but that doesn't mean he's forgotten or not missed.
2007-11-08 16:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chipmaker Authentic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋