I never feel I am good enough?

Question

I am a young college graduate. However, since graduating, I have been terribly bitter. I am depressed, lonely, and riddled with the worst anxiety I've ever had in my life.

I am waiting to hear back from med schools. This is my second time applying, since my resume wasn't strong enough before.

I'm lonely because I've never had a girlfriend, or even a date. It's really painful to see so many others around me being happy with someone, yet I'm all alone.

I sometimes doubt myself. I feel like I may never achieve my dream of getting into med school, and that I'd be a failure. I feel like I blew my chances because I had one bad semester. That I am not good enough.

And I've wanted a girl in my life for some time now. But most are taken. I have so little confidence to approach single woman. Why would she want to be with me, spend time with me? How could I make her happy? She probably likes that guy better anyway.

What are some things you've done to pull yourself out of moods like this?

I feel that, because I've failed so much lately, that I am always doomed to fail. Like I'll never be good enough to get the career I want, or the kind of woman I want, or live the life I want.

I don't want to lose my dreams, but even more than that, I don't want to be alone anymore.

Answer 1

I can understand how you feel alone without a girl in your life My son of 39 is in the same position as you are and yes its depressing O K If I was you I would start by seeing a docter for your depression It will just get worse if you are not seeking medical health I am sure you can become a doctor If I can put it this way shop for anther university I am suresome college askMuch less regarding grades than other In Canada that the the way it works and I am sure it the same for U s About girl even if you are not a religious person attend a church I heard many people had met a girl and some their partner for life Thers one thing who is sure you have nothing to loose You will be in my prayers

Answer 2

Dear Dan,
Step away from the ledge. You are suffering from low self esteem. You need to work on your you skills. Just what is it that makes Dan the man? I would bet there are a multitude of things that make you a standout. Don't be afraid to show your self worth in public.As for a girlfriend it does not sound to me as though you are ready to take that giant leap just yet. You have to be comfortable with you before you can try to make someone else happy. Don't spend your time beating up on Dan, He deserves alot better. Not getting into med school does not make you a failure, it gives you a hard knock that will make you stronger.The only true failure is not trying at all.Just remember you are Dan the man! Good luck Dan and don't sweat the small stuff, big things will come your way.

Answer 3

you just have to understand that it is for a reason
just try to accept this situation into your life and your intuition will start telling you what to do next, just believe it...
try using this time in a positive way
try to help others and find out who you really are
but don't be angry about it or complain too much about it...the minute you do it, it will get even worse
don't worry, things will get better...you are so smart...only because you question yourself...it's normal...i have read one of yahoo answers today:
"when you ask God for something, he will give you one of three answers: yes, wait, or I have something better for you"
and please believe that you are never alone...many people feel this way :)
Good Luck:)!

Answer 4

Dude reading your question,,,, made me think like i was reading my own crisis of present,,, with nothing but despair in the way,,,,,,If u had asked me a month i couldnt have wrote anything else than sharing your grief with mine,,,like two loners getting drunked in whole pool of beer.......but dude seriously,,,, something is changing my life,,,, a month ago,,reading a article i went for this kind of meditation,,,,, to increase my confidence,,,coz this is only the problem of confidence,,,,,,,,,And in a month i can find something happening in my life,,,i wont say that my probs have vanished,,,but i do feel a craze, a fire in me to be something may be out of nothing,,,,, I think it would help u out too,,,,
Sit at a lonely place somewhere ,,,and close your eyes,,,take a few deep breathes, and start relaxing,,,after few minutes,,, just do nothing,,,let your thoughts pass by as a stream,,,but dont give any special attention to them,,or dont get attached to them,,, just let it pass by,,, after few minutes there would be a decrease in this thought process,,and you will feel relieved of yourself,,,,,,, do it for as many times that makes u feel comfortable,,,,, its wonderful, dude,,,scientific fact behind this theory is that,,,,, u cant change something in your mind,,, until you change your thoughts,,or think fresh,,,and for that you need to remove the junk presently in your wonderful mind,,,,,Dude its really relieving,,,Good luck,,,and do lemme know its whatsoever effects,,yeah only if u feel like doing,,,,

Answer 5

i agree, exercise helps you feel a lot better about yourself- it releases endorfins, as im sure you know, trying to get into to med school. you can't have everything you want, man.. u've just gotta kinda take what life gives you.. not settle, but make the best of what you're handed.

Answer 6

You're upset over the frustrations in trying to get into med school.

I run laps and get those endorphans moving

Answer 7

try working out, once you start looking good, it really boasts up your self-confidence which hopefully can lead to talking and socializing with more people and girls. i'm sure you're not unpleasant at all, try not to be down for too long.