He's usually tells me beforehand. Today I got home he was taking a shower I started making dinner and he got ready and then he tells me he's leaving? With Chris, he couldn't look me in the eyes. I have never met this chris... I have no clue who he is...So he left...I feel a lil'messed up because when I go out I'm usually considerate and let him know beforehand..now I'm stuck with this big dinner...and alone.
2007-11-08 16:33:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As a married woman, I would say "OK, hang on and let put something on and we can go, I would love to meet this Chris!" As a married couple it should NEVER be a problem for you to go out together. I used to call my husband and tell him several people from my work were getting together after work and he would join us. It was always a mixed crowd of people. I knew his friends and co-workers and he knew mine. You should know his and he, yours.
Don't start an argument, just make yourself available to join him next time. If he resists then there's your red flag and you should call him on it.
2007-11-08 17:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Lina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not trying to scare you.....but Chris may well be a gal. I've got gal and guy friends who are named Chris....just Chris. This name can be very tricky. If you are so worried, and if your senses tell you something is not right, you may wish to check on him.....secretly. Check his phone when he's not there for sms or find out the phone number of this Chris. Call or get someone else to call to find out if Chris is a she or he. Some people may say its not right but I don't mind telling you that's how I found out my husband's affair. I don't used to do all these till he behaves very suspiciously and my sixth sense told me something is wrong. If you don't find out, you will forever be where you are now, worry and unhappy. At least if you find out that Chris is indeed a guy and they have been going only decent places (you know guys and guys get together may be up to some "mischeives"), you can just share with him that you appreciate him letting you know beforehand if he will not be joining you for dinner in future. On the other hand, If Chris is a gal and you discovered something indeed going on between them, its time to thrash it out with him! Don't suffer in silence.
2007-11-08 16:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by IRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he gets home that he hurt your feelings. If you are always considerate enough to let him know in advance so he can make his own arrangements, why can't he do the same? He couldve called you and let you know. He at least should have you meet this person. I mean, how does he know the guy, is he bad news, etc. As for the whole going out alone thing...I would put a stop to it now. If ya'll can't go out together, then limit the going out with the buddies/girls to once a month or so. That way neither of you are stuck at home feeling suspicious.
2007-11-08 16:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by MomOfThreeBoys 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Call his phone and ask him where he is.........tell him your bored and you were wondering if you could come meet up. If he says no ask why not. Whatever you do, don't get off that phone without making him say I LOVE YOU out loud. hahaha, hate to say it but Chris is probly a girl and he was probly hoping he would be "out" before you got home. If your shady like I am you will wait till he is knocked the hell out after he gets home.........then check his phone, text messages........all dat. He probly has "Chris" in his phone.......block his number and give his new friend a call.....I hate to say it but when you say for better or worse you are usually saying "I do" to the latter.
2007-11-08 16:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jeannie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a rude thing to do to someone you are supposed to love and honor! I dont usually rush to judgement, but his behavior is a red flag that disaster may be here or on its way. This is not normal behavior for a man who loves his wife, its very disrespectful and shows you the kinda guy you married. And why is a married man going out on the town? I think you need to talk to your husband and explain to him this kinda behavior is not acceptable. Good Luck
2007-11-08 16:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you need is SLOW TALK with your husband. As a wife yeah we sometime have this instinct when husband can't look in our eyes there always something fissy about it but the best way is never jump into conclusion without solid proof. it's happened to me once. I thought my husband cheating on me but he actually went out with his colleague's -women- to buy things to surprises me but it nearly turned to be world war 3. So my advise you have to discuss it with your husband who is CHRIS and why he changed. Men sometimes didn't realise their behaviour do hurts our feeling so we need to tell them continuously. Trust is a hard things to built so appreciated it. ;-))
2007-11-08 17:04:32 · answer #6 · answered by fz7481 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would follow him and find out who Chris is. Chris can be a woman's name too. I would follow him and find out what he's doing. Can't look you in the eye, means something is wrong.
2007-11-08 16:43:57 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you should invite me over for dinner, don't worry about dessert, I've got that covered if you know what I mean, and I think you do...
2007-11-08 17:07:09 · answer #8 · answered by hard_in_temecula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one person already posted the name "Christina " can be shortened. My middle daughter's name is Christina and we all call her Chris. BE CAREFUL and tell him your concerns and how disrespectful and hurtful this was. Ask him how he would of felt if you did it to him.
2007-11-08 16:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by bella s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u mean christina,ur husband went 2 have her 4 dinner.get ready 4 more lonely dinners alone.
2007-11-08 19:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by kim27 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋