I have been with my husband for 17 yrs. I brought in over$50,000. No prenup. He had a Jeep that he owed money on. Bought a house (my dwnpymt). He liked to bld things and instead of rentng his tools for 40. he buys it for 250. and it sits in the grge. Co. clsd dwn & he was at home for 1 year. Fin. bsmt in 3 mths. Now 2 yrs in new job (hates it). Always angry. My parents have given us over 65,000 in our time together. This year they put in a pool for our child in our home which cost 35,000 daughter Inheritance money. He now wants a divorce and has sep.all his income. I make 200 less then him a week. I do ALL of the inside hswork and hmwrk w/child pr day. He has 2 mtrcyles and 1 van and 1 car. I have a Honda. I pd. off 9000. off visa with our jnt $$ that he claims is his. Find out he wants to buy a truck. Refusng to pay bills. Wants to split bills 50-50. Leaves me 125. pr mnth for gas/groc. He can't affrd hse, but can affrd beer. How cn I teach him a lesson? Need sugg. Thnx
2007-11-08 16:26:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anna D 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In the wise words of Simon and Garfunkel, which were spoken to me when I had to leave an abusive relationship I thought I never could:
Just slip out the back, jack
Make a new plan, stan
You dont need to be coy, roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, gus
You dont need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, lee
And get yourself free
To be smart about it, first go see a lawyer and file for divorce. You'll need to stake your ground in the house, because the first person to leave gets the shaft in divorce cases. If you can convince him to move out, you'll be ahead of the game.
Your lawyer will fight to get you as many assets as possible, and to stick your husband (soon to be ex, I hope) with as much of the debt as possible. So definitely, seeing a lawyer is step #1.
2007-11-08 16:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by rachelesse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the laws of your state, if you live in CA you split everything 50/50. If you have lived together long term, alimony is mandatory. You will have to sell the house and split the money, or one can buy the other out. If you have children file for custody and get child support too. All money is joint and has to be split.
2007-11-08 16:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No need to be angry, immature and moronic like him. Dont go to his low level. No need to teach him a lesson. Let him learn on his own. Stop babying him. You already have a kid. You dont need another one. JUST LEAVE!!!!!
Let him fend for his own self. Chances are he'll come back when he feels the need to use someone again. Next time you'll be far far away.
2007-11-08 16:39:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your marriage is over it is over. Both of you get out of the house and you put it on the market or have him move out. But get a good divorce lawyer. He sounds like a little boy
2007-11-08 22:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What benefits come with staying together? If he is the role model for your kids, what will they turn out like?
Leave and don't look back.
2007-11-08 16:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by repentant sinner 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
talk to a lawyer and get that punk
2007-11-08 16:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by bluesky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a laywer and get away from this guy
2007-11-08 16:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
walk out the door. don't think about it and you'll have no regrets.
2007-11-08 16:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Lose your fat a s s and starting porking his buddies.
2007-11-08 16:34:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋