Been married for 17 pears wife wants more freedom or she is leaving we have 4 children?

Question

She wants to make her own descisions,have MALE friends this are not mine to give her but have offered to work at it,I am a jelous person to start with
I offer to do things and its classed as controlling i dont do anything I dont care I married for life and will do whatever is needed I seem to be in a no win situation

Answer 1

Having the attitude of being in a no win situation is not the correct attitude to have. If you are serious, you'll help her discover her self again, go see a councillor together to help you deal with your insecurities about her knowing other males. You'll allow her time that she needs to work out who she is know. She seams like she has lost her identity, married for 17 years 4 children, shes a wife and mother, what about a person an individual. BE patient ask her honestly what she wants, needs and listen to her respect her and don't take it personally, allow her the opportunity to open up to you. That's just what i think, other people may think differently
Good luck with it all

Answer 2

Stop being jealous. She's got a right to have both male and female friends. She is a human being too and, just like you, has a right to make her own decisions, have her own friends and be her own person. If a spouse is jealous and tries to be controllong, that just makes it worse. Let her go and do her own thing. Either she will come back or she won't. If you do and say things to and for her, make sure you are sincere and supportive. Think about this: she may be starting her change of life. That makes a woman flighty and sometimes we just don't care about anything, not even our families. Unfortunately, it's out of our control. Hormones are whacky and the whole 'change' itself is difficult and uncomfortable. Put yourself in her place and try to understand where she is coming from. Try to get her to talk about her feelings and be honest. If you give up without trying, then all will surely be lost.

Answer 3

Dude! So did I. The harder you work at it the further you push her away. I have 4 kids and had 19 years. But the older the ***** got the dumber she became. Now I'm divorced/single and she has a whole new life living back at parents house with our kids and dates a fat guy that's 15 years younger than her (she's 39 tall/thin & he's 24 short/fat).
Get the f#ck over it and stop living in denile like a twacked out crack head.

Answer 4

Hey Hon sorry to say that once the candle burns out and there is no wick left on it then it is time to move on.Your wife is trying to tell you that she wants to live a life of her own.My advice is let her have some space and there is nothing worse then being with a jealous husband as that would drive her away.Sorry I wish you well.

Answer 5

If she wants male friends, let her leave. Have her take the children too. See how she likes it out there by her self raising 4 kids. See how many guys want a gal with 4 kids from someone else.

Answer 6

its okay to make your own decisions, and be a confident person but if your married and want to see other men than your heart isn't with your spouse and theres nothing one can do about it but get out of the marriage because if u stay hoping things Will change your just fooling yourself. if your a jealous type anyway it will hurt u emotionally to have to deal with this. best to get a divorce when this happens and save yourself years of hurt and rejection.

Answer 7

Your right. Your in a no win sit.
What you may consider is giving her the freedom to have friends, her own. Live separate lives together with the only stipulation being no sex with anyone else. I'm thinking STD's. They scare me.

Answer 8

Go to a counselor together or you will be married for 27 apples and still not have it figured out.