I'm an American teenager or young adult. I keep thinking about marriage in the future... I'm not a very skilled guy but I'm willing to try for the people I love. I also think from right and wrong, I'm still a virgin and don't follow others to alcohol parties. I would also be willing to sit down and listen to others' sad situations and talk with them.
I'm scared that my future wife will hurt me because I'm not strong enough. I fear she will not be willing to make sacrifices like me for our children. I'm afraid of her divorcing with me, I only want one woman in my life, its unhealthy to keep looking for others. I'm afraid she will cheat on me. What should I do?
Thanks for reading.
2007-11-08 16:03:03 · 7 answers · asked by Closed 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Everybody is scared of being hurt. Just don't think of marriage yet as it's not important right now anyway.
I'm telling you now you'll probably have girlfreind and she'll either hurt you or you'll hurt her.I don't mean to sound down, but it's a probability for this happens to almost everybody in their life. Just remeber this quote "it is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all"
Don't think about love just have fun. there's plenty of time to worry when your older! Good luck
2007-11-08 16:12:05 · answer #1 · answered by killak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was/am afraid, too. I hate divorce. I believe it to be wrong. But, with so many who carelessly throw away their marriages, I need to be sure of my man before marriage. So sure, in fact, I never thought I'd get married. Too many lazy (physical and mental), poor work-ethic, moraly bankrupt, unbalanced, immature, unsensitive men I've met. I can find a guy with chemistry, but if he doesn't have the characteristics necessary for a good husband--no good. And, even if he has ALL of those, I need to be CERTAIN that he finds marriage the institution it is. It is FOREVER. Through EVERYTHING. I might be miserable for years and years, but I will continue to work on my marriage because it's the right thing to do.
And, I've found a guy. I don't know that I'll be single forever, now. There ARE people out there that match those qualifications. So, there ya go. Be choosy. We ARE out there.
2007-11-08 16:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by Oh it's me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those things do happen, but you sound like a smart guy. It is all about the person you choose to spend the rest of your life with--make sure you choose someone who you know completely, and that all of her qualities are the qualities you want in a person (loyal, faithful, hard working, devoted to her children, etc) before you marry her and you should be fine. You've still got time to find her-you're still young yet.
2007-11-08 16:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by lovelymrsm 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well until you feel strong enough DO NOT get married. You are young wait until your 30 cause I know I wish I had waited for that long and just enjoyed life on my own.
2007-11-08 16:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a teenager. You are supposed to be scared.
Don't worry, you will grow up if you have the courage to be your true self.
Good luck.
2007-11-08 16:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you are truly paranoid, then therapy may be helpful--to get you a broader perspective beyond your fear...Good luck!!!
2007-11-08 16:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by nakedtruth 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You ought to get a testosterone injection, buddy. You could really, really use one.
2007-11-08 16:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋